Show SWATTING SW ATTING THE DIVORCE BUG When It Takes the Form of the Green Eyed Monster I By Judge Thos F. F Graham San Francisco Divorce Judge Known as Great Reconciler and Americas America's Leading Heart Specialist Just why Jealousy is so frequently I alluded to as the green-eyed green monI monster monster mon mon- ster is neither I here nor there Whatever ver the coldi color color col col- col- col of its it di- di or eyes aY remains one of ot the most vicious and nd destructive of ot the passions and a a. close personal friend of divorce There is of LYp course such a thing as justifiable Jealousy Jeal jeal- but but it is rare in comparison with the varieties for 3 which there is no excuse whatever a Directly or indi- indi Groh these latter cause more trouble between husband and wife than any other thing brought to the attention of ot the courts Let me cite a few of ot the commoner varieties of unjustifiable jealousy jealousy- then sit down dow and decide whether any anyone one of ot them is propagating di divorce divorce divorce di- di vorce bugs bug in your mind First of all are you Jealous of ot the love your helpmeet may retain for tor his hisor hisor hisor or her parents That is a big cause of ot jealousy especially among newlyweds and gives the divorce courts more work than all of ot the other other other oth oth- er varieties put together I Yet it is es the most unworthy of ot all your unworthy thoughts It demands that husband or wife shall relinquish I the tender affection that is the tap taproot taproot I quality that I root of all love the very makes them worthy of ot marriage and andall andall I all that it involves The effort to belittle or destroy filial love Is a dangerous boomerang Success Success Success Suc Suc- cess in stifling a mans man's love as a son sonIs sonis sonis is almost certain to 1 kill his love as asa asa a n. husband The same is true of a wife's affections for her people Another popular form torm of Jealousy is that which begrudges the time a husband husband husband hus hus- band spends at his office or a wife In the pursuit of Innocent pleasures How utterly absurd The husband J wa 1 Y OfIr a r L S t L- L 5 n v vi I B 1 y y i I is down there therO hustling for the wherewithal where where- I withal to maintain the home purchase purchase purchase pur pur- chase the necessities of life and a few of ot the luxuries and probably lay aside a little reserve for tor emergency Isn't the wife who permits herself to question her husbands husband's right to to- labor for their Joint contentment now and In the future a very verv silly not silly-not not to tosa sa say insane woman insane woman Yet Yet there arc are man many of ot them who do that very thing And the man who begrudges his wife some innocent amusements while he is aWa away from home home does does he deserve de deserve deserve de- de serve anything better than grass- grass Scarcely less unworthy than those two varieties is that kind of ot green eyes which is forever harking back to the life of ot either spouse before marriage ge taking exception to prenuptial prenuptial pre- pre nuptial acts which have little or no bearing on the present My oly advice to wedded couples coupler unless some dishonorable act has been committed committed committed com com- and not acknowledged previous to marriage is to let the past bury its dead Nothing but unhappiness will be gleaned from raking up the Indiscretions ot of the tho days da s 's sIn in order to win some slight but bitter domestic victory Creative Jealousy the Jealousy tho variety which Invents the material upon which it feeds Is feeds is in ono another tier particularly vicious delis form of this pathfinder to the divorce courts Chance remarks s delivered in a a. spirit of ot raillery or constructive criticism criticism criticism cism by husband or wife wite are translated translated translated trans trans- b by the other member of ot the co co- co partnership into admissions of ot chit chi chi- j t canery infidelity or cruelty too flagrant flagrant fla fla- I grant to be tolerated From this frame of oC mind the injured I spouse quickly turns to suspicion of every remark Natural inaccuracies in the description tion of ones one's doings while separated from the other assume the proportions proportions of ot deliberate e falsehoods told for forthe forthe forthe the purpose of ot pulling the wool over my eyes Q Quarrels of of ofeY eY Intensity follow follow and and finally an in ini interlocutory interlocutory in- in i or final decree of ot divorce granted because the judge cannot separate the real from the imaginary in the mind of ot the tho complainant There are many other varieties equally insidious The Tho green-eyed green monster combines all aU forms of ot viciousness In his attack attack he he bites scratches stings claws crushes stabs I and otherwise manhandles his victims victim I The greatest def defense nse against ag I S him is faith in your our life partner and in his hisor hisor or her love lovo for tor you ou Arm your our trust trustIn In your our sp spouse buse with the sword of ot true affection and frankness Cultivate a n. trustful confident frame I of ot mind not a suspicious one Then the green eyed monster will Vanish h I like the wraith he usually is To be continued |