Show wp Come to toE to- to A YEN VEN 0 E EAR ARTS ART'S T S HA HAVEN With Betty Blair Affairs of ot tho the heart and r kindred problems ONLY wilt will be discussed ed edIn In this department Letters Lotters questions and requests tor for advice ad should bo to MISS BETTY BErrY 13 LAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side aide of ot the thc paper i t It Is necessary ry that you OU append the right name and address but buta a these these- will be bo held In strict and will by no means appear In print Letters requiring p personal reply must be by stamped self addressed envelopes Ed AS ONE MAN IAN TO ANOTHER Dear Miss Blair In your column for Saturday June 4 4 there appeared a letter from a ayoung joung young man signing his name Idaho He lie Ie had been engaged to a girl who had been away to school and who had broken the engagement for another boy whom she said she liked better She was sas soon to return to the old home town and Idaho was wonderIng wonder- wonder Ing- Ing whether or not to try to make snake up He tic stated that soon he would be bc leaving lea leav in ing that nut place to live In Chicago o. o I had a similar experience with a girl two years cars ago ngo I loved her dearly and sincerely and when she threw me over o for lor the other fellow I thought I would as soon die as to tr try to go on without her But Dut I too was as going away to stud study dentistry I didn't tr try to sec see her hel again but plunged so hard Into my work that except for occasional occasional occa occa- drives which her memory made over me I was able to forget her I Iam Iam Iam am sure I did my work vork in a much finer wa way without her than I would have hwe done with her continually l keeping keep jag ing me rae upset When I returned last week for lor my vacation she was vas one of the first to to greet me mo and make a fuss luss over o me But Dut strange to tell the spell she once held over me mc Is broken She invited me mc t to come como and see sec her and for old times time's sake I shall go but it will III not nol be to make love to her My ly friends told me mc when the split spill up came that thal she he was sas not nol the girl for me I couldn't believe them then but hut butI I do now She and the other fellow have broken up as she soon discovered ered that after all she didn't love him At least I am told this by mutual friends He lie keeps trying to get her herback herback herback back but she will have nothing nothing- to do with him Friends have told me that she has let lct It IL be known she was waitIng wait wait- Ins Irig for me mc I hope there isn't going to be a a. scene I spared her when she turned tamed me inc loose I am nm hoping hopin she will willbe willbe be as kind to me Cheer up Idaho Its It's tough going at first but you ou will vili be thankful that you have slot not rushed this girl when she returns It will only give her another chance I to turn you ou donand down n do and she will be the thc first one later on onto onto onto to try to get you ou back Then If IC you Ou jJ still love her everything everything ev ev- will wUl be O. O K I haven't ha found the real girl ret et but I know she's somewhere Im I'm not even cen looking looking- for her I still have more work to todo todo todo do to specialize and theres there's no hurr hurry Its It's great to be free Look for this kind of freedom Idaho and you'll find it TOGA Many will agree with you ou that youre you're avery lucky person to be re relieved relieved relieved re- re of the kind of slavery that love connected with an Impelling person person- can impose on you Others will I feel sorry for you that you do not know lenow the sweetness of oC this kind of bondage The latter will vill be those who have found love reciprocated in fri approximately i- i match the thc same degree with which they bestow it The former those whose love is not returned in kind Unreciprocated love can cause more misery than a n hornets' hornets nest into which you jOU have broken The quickest and safest way to forget it Is to build up barricades against its onslaughts Work that you love so much that it is s in its nature is the best material material ma ma- with which to build It can even withstand nd tear gas And that's something We feel teel sure that your letter will give Idaho courage to take lake his way in peace and safety PARENTAL OBJECTIONS S Dear Miss l Blair I have been keeping company with witha a young oun man whom I like very cr much I would like to continue to do so but m my parents disapprove c of him When I first voiced my mr intentions o og going with him they forbade mc me to go but since I have gone with boys for the past four years ears I believe I am capable of choosing my own company compan and md so soI soI soI I have encouraged him to come and see sec me I have done this regardless of my parents parents' feelings I let him understand understand understand under under- stand that If he lie didn't come to my say home I wouldn't see sec him at all lie Ho preferred things that way so long as ashe ashe ashe he could come without causing any family quarrels Lately my parents haven't said much about it but each time he calls or comes conies to see sec me mc they tr treat at us both I cr very coldly It would would be be so 00 much more pleasant if the they could like him himas as well as I do Shall I continue to let lel him come to see sec me or shall I discourage his at attentions attentions attentions' attentions attentions' at- at I mt there some say by which I could show them how much of a gentleman he is In his actions toward me Thank you ou DISOBEDIENT Your parents were flatly opposed to the bo boy in the beginning Now it would seem that they take a more tolerant attitude toward him Perhaps Perhaps Per Per- haps they are arc finding out for themselves themselves themselves them them- themI I selves that he is not what they thought I him to be If you ou were to discourage his coming now would they not feel i that you too top had discovered that they were right in their estimate of him in inthe inthe inthe I the first place It isn't possible for the parents to know all that you may know about this boy nor ever to feel the same way about him as you feel yet there may maybe maybe maybe be certain attributes of which they are aware concerning him that you could not know Is it ft this thought that is now prompting your our conscience to trouble you Is it this that makes your disobedience and its consequent punishment in their attitude toward you seem more deserved Surely if f the boy is all that you think him to be he will stand the test of further acquaintance with your family even by such slow degrees as asare asare asare are at present permitted If he is genuine and sincere and honest he will surely be able to impress them with that fact by just being himself VACATION CLOTHES Dear Miss Blair We arc are two business girls planning to spend our vacation in California We arc are going to drive there and will willbe willbe willbe be gone two weeks Will you ou please help to plan our wardrobe for us We e expect to spend most of our time timeout timeout timeout out of doors Thanking you ou B D. D Are you jou going to be roughing it il out of doors or will vill you be staying at a hotel and playing golf boating or engaging in other activities connected connected connected con con- with a resort hotel If roughing roughing rough rough- ing it take along togs for the occa sion sian Riding togs hiking tog etc If stopping at a hotel you will want sports suits at least two two linen dresses or cotton prints or whites whiles at nt least two afternoon dresses one for very up dress-up affairs and at least one evening dress and riding togs if you i expect to take the trails The information information mation matlon you ou give me Is too mea meager er to togo togo togo go into more detail Driving clothes should be something that will withstand withstand with with- stand the roughness of wear and will not show the dirt dirl A AWKWARD ARD HANDS DS Dear Miss 1 Blair I am a girl of 15 years cars and I have very large awkward hands The bones seem too large Is th there re any thing I can do to make my hands more shapely shapely and and white Thank you UGLY HANDS Nothing can be done actually to re reduce reduce reduce re- re duce the bones of the hands In the case of growing girls the hands often appear appeal large but bLit when maturity is reached they are arc in good proportion to the rest of the body Therefore it itis itis itis is not necessary for you ou to worry about the size of your hands now since nature na na- na lure ture will soon adjust the matter For whitening and softening purposes purposes purposes pur pur- poses use an ounce of glycerin to a cupful of lemon juice and into this put a few drops of at carbolic acid NOTE TO JUNE Our circulars Permanent Removal Removal Re Re- I moval of Superfluous Hair and Protection Protection Pro and Relief From Sunburn I will take care of your summer problems problems lems erns in these regards Kindl Kindly send a stamped self addressed envelope for them |