Show COME COME IE TO TO- HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN YEN VENI I With BETTY BErrY BLAIR BLAIR Affairs of the tho heart and problems ONLY wilt will be bo discussed In this department t. t Letters questions and requests for tor should Mould be bo addressed addressed to MISS MISS- BETTY BETrY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side aide of ot the papers paper It Is necessary that you append the right name namo and address but out these will be held In strict confidence and win will by no means meana appear in print Ed WANTS TO BE POPULAR Dear Miss Blair I know you yoa will think I am foolish for tor raising the old hu hue and Cf cry but bu sometimes sometime I feel almost desperate about bout myself I dont don't know what is the matter with me mc but I first noticed no no- Iced when I was In junior high thaI that tha I was different from most girls other girls went about from classroom I to classroom laughing and talking t to classmates of ot both sexes They wen went to the matinee dances and had a glorious time they sailed through high school that wa way and I am sure sur that those who went on t to colleg collee joined sororities and kept right o on having good times Umes I couldn't bear the thought of seeIng seeIng see see- Ing myself as unpopular through co college col- col lege as I had been through high school and for that reason I decided not t to tofO togo go fO t to college collee It sounds terribly weak to make such a confession but unless you know knon what an enemy self con Is you yon on will never be ab able to understand this condition I thought though I would take a business course an and that getting a job and having to take tak on business budness responsibilities would woul help to gl give c me mo more self I truly think It has too but I am sure I live too lonely a 3 life Ute I se see girls girl who arc are sunny natured ma meg neUe and sought after b by all aU the their acquaintances acquaIntance and I long so much to tobe tobe be like them but bat I cant When I want t to be free treo to speak my thoughts though and and I honestly do have thoughts thoughts- my tongue ngue cleaves clewes to the roof root of m my mouth month and my mind turns blank and anc the people trying t to hear what I am saying think be a a. gibbering Idiot I think sometimes I will be one of I dont don't do something for myself What Wha do you sug suggest est I am now nearly 21 2 years old Gratefully THE BY BY T E If It we did not know so truly that tha there are arc girls who without havin having to make the effort can adapt themselves then them selves to almost every situation them them-j gir girls who are sunny natured and quick quick- mind minded d and who simply exude personality personality per per- from every movement anc and that there are others who are arc exactly the he opposite we might be inclined t to thInk YOU vou foolish But we know to towell too well the agonies accompany every activity of the self conscious girl Probably some day as psychology goes foes on with its discoveries we shall know more about ourselves than w we do today We shall shan be able to check and countercheck on training and Inheritance in inherItance in- in to a very much finer point poin than we now do At present there seems but two alternatives for th the girl punished b by a too self conscIous attitude either to withdraw more an and more into herself and make no a attempt attempt at- at tempt to be social or to try to compensate com corn for or the inner lack by th the outer bravado By the latter I mean If you jou have a love of study or a talent of some kind you should pursue i it d diligently ili I en Knowledge is power anc and your improved talents will inevitably lead you to the social life among people peo peo- pic plc who will sincerely appreciate you For the present other than pursuIng pursuing pursuing Ing your particular hobby you mus must not neglect yourself physically Go 1 to the gymnasium m regularly and join i ithe in inthe inthe the swimming contests and games o othe on the floor where groups of other girls play Learn to forget yourself there ther thereby thereby by spontaneous energetic play Yo You dont don't have to be brilliant or witty there All you have to do is to abandon abandon aban aban- don yourself to the joyousness of play Join hiking clubs and take your gamera gam- gam amera am- am era out Into the winter woods and fill fil your soul saul and the films tUrns with the glory that is there If you think it will wm help make a careful survey paper and pencil in hand of all your qualities qualities good good ba baand bad and indifferent Put them all down dow and look them straight in the face Much of the thc material you have there ther will be good for fortunately we a all have In us sparks spades of the divine Yo You may find for example that you are n a lover of ot children Then quite evident evident- evidently ly you should work and play with wit children in Sunday school or other othe auxiliary work or on the playgrounds playground Perhaps you could give music o or drawing lessons to beginners Whatever What Wha ever your good points plan to enhance enhance enhance en en- hance them by some special activity If you think intelligent thoughts an and we know you do from your our letter pick nick out a bo boy who seems to be th the intelli intelligent ent kind and ask his opinion on various subjects of ot import Im I'm sure sur YOU vou will make a good listener and being being being be be- ing that is part of the successful ar arof art artof artof of being a good conversationalist conversational Come in and let us talk things over ove unhampered by column space SCAR ON FACE Dear Miss Blair When Then I was a small child I cut my face b by accident The scar is still ver very ery plain Is there an any way to fo get rid o oIt of It Thank you ou PAL p AL We reprint the letter of a correspondent correspondent corre corre- concerning the removal o oscars ot of scars My little girl when running fell rell on the door scraper and cut he her face ace very badly The three cornered cut left a very deep and ugly scar With the cuts healed the doctor told me to bathe the scars several times time timea a day with a solution m made by dissolving dissolving dissolving dis dis- dis- dis solving two tablespoons of epsom salts in one-half one teacup of boiling wa wa- va- va ter er I 1 did this with a soft rag which I kept handy right in the solution A Ame Afine Afine fine me coating of skin began peeling off of from Crom the scar and continued doing so as long as I bathed it I continued the treatment for at least one year jear and a athe at atthe atthe the end of that time the scar had dis dir appeared Encouraging isn't it And Anc well worth trying ETIQUETTE HINT Dear Miss liss Blair This is a point that has troubled me not a few times If It an acquaintance happens to get on the street car or buat bus bu busat busat at the same time a 11 girl does should he ic offer to pay her fare If U he does should she accept this tWo kindness SALLY A gentleman acquaintance may of offer of- of for fer cr to pay your fare You should thank him kindly and say I have it here ready and slip sUp it into the machine It If f ho pays pas before you have an opportunity opportunity unity to stop him all aU you can do is to thank hank him It will be embarrassing to o him for you to attract attention either in trying to stop him from performing performing per per- forming this kindness or in the profusion profusion pro pro- fusion of your thanks afterward I It if you can pay your fare without cm cm- him by all aU means do so PUPPIES FOR FOE GIFTS At Post street between Eighth West and Ninth West streets anc and Third South and Fourth South streets five Ive puppies a month old are waiting for someone to come and get them and carry them to new homes Their telephone number Is Was J. S SHOWER OWER FOR DAUGHTER Dear Miss l Blair I am giving a shower ver for m my daughter daugh- daugh ter er who Is getting etting married next month and would like to know a good menu for a lunch I want it nice and tasty asty but not too expensive The peole people peo- peo pie le who wilt will be there will be between the ages he-ages of ot 30 and 45 years ears When Is s It proper to serve the beverage Also what arc are somo some good games to tolay play lay where you can give ghe prizes and what docs does it mean to be married in February L T T. T A luncheon menu which I 1 hope you jou will vill like consists of ham loaf Ion and scalloped escalloped potatoes icebox rolls and current jam fruit salad with French dressing apple pudding with cream coffee You may serve a cream soup first if it you ou wish at luncheon Coffee Coffees is s served with the meat course Send a stamped self addressed envelope en for our circular of Games for Adults We have hae marriage lore concerning concerning con- con the significance of marriage for Cor or di different erent d days but not for different different differ- differ ent nt months COLOR FOR SPRING Dear Miss 1 Blair I am going to have a ne new nen suit salt in the spring 1 My eyes are arc dark brown my haIr lair light brown and my skin medium What color would you OU sug suggest est I buy I want a light color of oC some sort Thank you l IA MAT T Beige is making makIn a strong strom for the ic leading part in spring sprin colors It It would be very becoming to you too Why not try it |