Show 0 TOS TO'S CARTS ARTS HA HAVEN VEN i With BETTY BETTI BLAIR BLAIR- I j 7 of or the heart henrt and imd kindred problems problem ONLY will be discussed 4 to should be I Question and nd 1 requests sta for advice SALT LAKE TELEGRAM HEARTS HEART'S HA RAVEN HAVEN VEN i BLAIR bly ly 11 upon only one sIde elde of the paper and addies but e ary thAt rou OU append the right name namo ERS held S In strict will wUI by no means appear Ed I RITAL RIFT t r t C married woman with tUe girls aged 3 and V T husband and I were Yer very last ast spring when It was Jc me mc to go so to the hos- hos Vc Vt four operations peri per- per i husband seemed very ery led ed cd over my welfare He lie e that thai when I got Kot betIn bet- bet In ing DS to do everything c In make me happy He lie said how much he loved 7 saw law me inc so so ill III and had hadI I h he might ht lose JUe me He lie e j me inc feel happy b by tell- tell cry arry and get rd well so we Pi the canyons canons as we had years ears cars before Imagine the fun and endon endon en- en lad don on those fishing trips tripI ten ren had lad as good a time When h he lie talked like this et to get betor bet- bet or r 1 said he tad never seen will power In one pert per- per t came home I had bad to and was able to sit up each day The first night I husband had to work t night when he should t it home with me he be left ed late This treat treat- all through my stage stare I begged berged him to toe e but he always made to ret get away sway This aly al- al y iy heart and except for care care I would have had bad rere ere wonderful to me and pt giving Jn me little things up but my friends tried V T I husband was stepping ay y heart was broken I lIeve them My Iy Judy Judya a thing like that He was Ame me boys But Dut when I J tor ir- ir r. r myself that it was so 10 would los lose my mind er rl rI I sat at home watching watching- ey icy drove b by in their cars earn ice e my husband took me entire summer was for lve lye Ive and afterward he Into the house and hurIt hur- hur r. r rt It was often 3 and 4 M e morning before he came camele le he be came in dead drunk ecar car all wrecked It was in the thc late summer he was wasE E bole ole days and came home rand nd blistered where here his It had hd not riot protected him kilt t 1 he moved out entirely k I could move mo about af- af eu JS s I 1 had bad prepared tempt- tempt In ing meals for him had done his washIng wash- wash and performed a Inc Ing and Ironing wife's duty In every way but to all aU this he was blind and deaf He lie tells me now that he be loves me more than anything anything- in the world and he be wants to come ome back But he be doesn't want vant to give up the other girl Irl rl right ht away for fear of hurting her feelings He could almost almod kill his wife yet would not make any move to get rid of this girl who cUn clings s to him for fear of hurting hurling her feelings The girl knows knowl he Is 15 a married man with two children children chil chil- dren then yet she refuses to give rive him up Our divorce will become final In lr April But Dot when I J remember all I have suffered because of him I think I just couldn't stand to let him come back He promises to be m more re considerate considerate considerate con con- yet before the time I was operated on h he used to get drunk and beat me mc and whenever I felt the least Icat bit ill III he treated me terribly He lie would leave me the furnace to care care for and the heavy boxes of cans and ashes to carry out It was this III ill treatment that was Wa mostly responsible responsible responsible sible for my operation I am afraid our lives would never nc be happy to together together together to- to gether again as I 1 would not be able to forget this other ether girl I would al always always always al- al ways be afraid that for the least leut little difference that came up between us as asie ushe ushe he ie would always alwa's go 0 back to her My father tells me to be brave and clean olean and pure and that some day happiness happiness happi happi- ness Des will come to me mc and my children Miss Blair I shall appreciate any advice advice ad ad- vice you have to give rive me LEAH Certainly your husband has forfeited forfeit forfeit- ed any right to your consideration as wife or companion He comes comos begging you to take him back yet yetis is s not willing to forego his own pleasures pleasures pleasures plea plea- in n order to get you back If Ift it t were true tru that he really loved you youle he le would be willing to get rid of the theother theother theother other woman on oa any my pretext whatever what what- ever We cant can't think he is sincere in n his promises to be more considerate considerate consid consid- erate crate when the most inconsiderate thing hing he has ever done to you still remains his greatest t pleasure I think your our fathers father's a advice is very good He understands you and the nature lature of your our husband He doubtless doubtless doubt- doubt less ess feels as I do that there could never be happiness between you if you were to live together again as asman asman asman man and wife If you were strong- strong minded enough that you OU would not let et your remembrance of ot the past loom oom up to bring unhappiness if he were willed strong-willed enough that he could bury the past and never return to o it again If U both together could encourage encourage encourage en en- courage considerateness of each other and arid kindness for lor the sake of the children who are after alter all the real victims of the mistakes I should say make the effort to establish peace If If for the sake of establishing reconciliation rec rec- each could take his full share hare of the blame and forget the theother theother theother other if it each could let ct his mistakes in n the past teach him what not to todo todo tolo do lo in fri the future there could be hopes that hat even without a great deal of love between you there could finally emerge respect and with respect comes omes a marital love and a tie tic that thatis is s binding cv even n with r romantic mantic love forever dead But if your husband continues to want his pie and to eat It too there theres is s little utile hope that there can ever be peace between you Constant bick bick- ering cring and disloyalties would be as great a hardship on the thc children and possibly greater than for them to tobe tobe tobe be deprived of a father who could be so greatly to blame and regard their welfare so little I I OLDER THAN SWEETHEART I Dear Miss Blair Biair I am in love with a young man with whom I have been going for some time and he Is In love Jove with me But here is my problem I am a little littleover littleover littleover over a year ear older than he Is I dont don't think it matters and neither does he but my any folks folkA and some of my friends think It is terrible It hurts me sic to have them talk like Uke this yet I know that mine Is not the first case cue of this kind Id I'd hate to give glye him up just because of this little difference In our ages are Please give Ive me your ion JERRY Chronological age age age-a a difference in years years really really matters little if the biological biological biological bio bio- logical and intellectual ages tall tally with each other Love is the main thing hing after alL You can be as young as you think and feel The main thing to keep in mind after you are arc married married married-if it marriage is your intent- intent is to keep up your outside interests There Js Is nothing like a variety of interests interests in- in to keep ones one's mind and therefore therefore there there- fore tore ones one's body young oung So long as you dont don't get to looking older than your husband and sweetheart nobody nobody nobody no no- body is going to give a hang WINTER INTER HANDS Dear Deu Miss Blair I always alway have a a. a sad time with my hands in the winter To look Jook at them alone anyone would think I was 80 SO years ears old they get ao so o warped and shriveled and chapped But my face shows more correctly my right age which Is 23 Please tell teU me how to properly care for my hands bands M Il M. M It is quite evident that you are either using too much soap or else the he wrong kind of soap on your our hands to o clear away the winters winter's grime Try cleansing the hands with a good cleansing cream before you jou wash them hera Use almond meal or oatmeal bags in the water instead of soap for cleansing at bedtime Alternate this with the cleansing cream treatment without any soap whatever After Alter the cleansing apply a lotion of equal parts of lemon juice glycerine and androse androse androse rose water or one made of equal parts of glycerine ammonia and camphor cam cam- The latter is severe but ver very effective NOTE TO ABEL Send a stamped self addressed envelope envelope envelope en en- for our circulars Treatment of Superfluous Hair and Sage Sace and Te Tea L Treatment for Graying Hair |