Show HE CANT CAN'T LIVE WITH S 'S S OR WITHOUT HER I Copyright 1923 New York Evening Worth World o Jp Press Publishing I Co By SOPHIE IRENE LOEB E The other day ay a man appeared before be be- fore tore a judge and vainly begged to be besent besent sent to the penitentiary in Ia order to get away from his wife wile The jud judge e however gave him suspended suspended sus sus- sentence and now it appears that he is so EO anxious to tobe be with his wife wile that he has annoyed her and therefore ha ba has been rearrested rested and is s to have havo a a- mental examination Whether this thi man Is mentally deranged deranged de do- ranged or not Is beside the question The Instance however Is worth while reflecting upon since Ince there are many people like him The same holds good with women There are wives who are miserable with their husbands and unhappy without them them them-a a phase of ot human na na- na- na ture The big trouble Is that they do not know how to keep peace Peace to each party in such a case means getting ones one's own way And each wants his own way at the same time As a wise soul has said sald the only possibility for tor 1 pta pta-ce ace in the home is w when I eYt have only heard one gets women mad anad nad say ay at ai a a. a I time IT love lova him and hate him at the same ame time And they mean It The reason of their complicated feelings is the fact tact that they are uncompromising Real love after atter all all is a constant compromise When love is mutual itis It ItIs Itis is not unwilling to sacrifice times without number and most often otten the sacrifice is a a. pleasure rather than a a. pain The difficulty with such uch cases as the one mentioned is that this man roan may really love his wife she wife she may bevery be bevery very attractive t to him in many ways l yet yet t she may y have some gigantic fault such as everlasting nagging orsome or cr some come such shortcoming In her cher moments of or distress and anger she may feel teel so miserable to toward toward to- to toward ward him as to hate him and then in her iner r and more sane eane periods the lC longing for him c comes e all I his good d qualities Nl iso arise rI in n nc her mind I 1 and she ehe wants him back The same thing happens with men Now these people can conform to one policy something policy something that may be cultivated cul cul- cul- cul This Is the ability to give given in n. n For no quarrel In the world has ever been boen settled unless one or the theother theother theS other or both decided to drop It S How much more delightful then it H. H is i when both can develop such a habit so BO that when any difficulty arises for forone forone forone one or the other to call quits as I soon as possible Many a mountain of at woe has hag been built up on a a. molehill of ol grievance which could have been settled In five minutes if e either of the parties had ds f ee ite II learned the e greatest wisdom so in life e that of ol give and take tako After Alter all all few people realize that one can have only the average amount of ol happiness the average amount of having ones one's own way the average amount of ot being right You be happy all aU the time nor can you be ba right all ail the time Therefore Therefore There There- fore if It you make it your your- business some come of ol the time timo to let the other party have a a. chance chane at winning his point gain the chance chanca of ot avoiding trouble Avoiding trouble trouble there there is the biggest biggest biggest big big- gest B asset set of ot the human humn game especially especially espe espe- daily In the marriage relationship Many a couples couple's love would be ba more constant if It each would practise enough patience to bear a n. little when some foolish bubble bursts |