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Show MEN ALSO HAVE But Women Sometimes Forget This, Be Thoughtful of the Feelings Feel-ings of Others a Good Maxim. ! Girl in White and Men Who "Hog" the Shado Might Ponder on This. Editor Trlbune:-In The Tribune of Friday Fri-day a "Girl In "Whlto" recited her grievances griev-ances because of the "rudeness" of men In Salt Lake; said sho was compelled to walk In tho heat of tho sun by men who selfishly held to tho shady places, even when by "keeping to tho right" tho shado would have been hors; that dally sho was compelled to walk on the granite blocks when croEslng tho streets, to tho great danger of turning her ankles, an-kles, becauso men. who no doubt would bo Indignant at being classed as rudo or ungentlcmanly, monopolized the flagctono causeways, etc., etc. Has His Sympathy. Tho "Girl In Whlto" has my sympathy not whollv for her own self, either there are others. Tho courtesy and def-cronco def-cronco extended to women generally by men of the United Suites has long been matter of comment tho world around ns of tho highest order of chivalrous bearing. bear-ing. Of recent years, however, to the closo or evon casual observer, thero Is much to tend to tho fear that tho courtesy cour-tesy that has made this Nation so conspicuous con-spicuous Is in danger of becoming more a remlnlsconco thnn a fact. Where Doe3 Blame Rest. If so. what Is tho reason? Upon whom or whnt shall the regrettablo and de-plorablo de-plorablo change bo blamed? Admitting all that tho "Girl In White" says of the "rudeness" and "ungcntlemanllncs; admitting ad-mitting that sho has great provocation for tho conclusions that Induce her to say that gentlemen nro not "gentlemen." the admission la humiliating, doplorably so, and Is not complimentary to tho prldo wo feel In the boast that ours Is tho "highest" standard of civilization upon tho face of tho earth. Tho best and mcst comprehonslvo definition defi-nition of a gentleman that I havo In mind Is that "a gentleman is one who Is moro thoughtful of others' feelings than of his own rights, and moro thoughtful of others' oth-ers' rights than of hl3 own feelings." If a "lady" Is defined In tho same manner. I fear very much that ono will be forced, to remember that while every lady Is a" woman every woman Is not a lady. Flagstone Footways. Thero nro four flagstone pathways on each crossing In tho business portion of this city. In m;- peregrinations I almost al-most Invariably walk on the one to tho right, and yet thero Is not a day. sometimes some-times a scoro of times, too, that 1 do not meet the "Girl In Whlto" or tho 'Glrl In Black" or tho "Girl In Colors to Match" face to face. The fact that thero aro three other flagstone pathways to her right and none to tho loft of the ono sho Is upon Is to all appearances a fact that sho has not and does not consider. con-sider. A "gentleman" must under any and all circumstances, no difference what Inconvenience he Is subjected to. get off tho pathway and a gentleman docs. Yesterday I saw a man rlso from his sent In a street-car to give It to a woman with a small child In her nri'ns, but before be-fore she could avail herself of tho proffered prof-fered courtesy a young woman, unburdened unbur-dened except by her own desire for comfort, com-fort, flounced Into tho seat. Probably sho would be highly Incensed If any one should intlmato that hc Is not a "lady." Women Occupy Entire Walk. A habit very noticeable In Salt Lake and one. too. that Is not always provocative provo-cative of christian thoughts or real gentlemanly gen-tlemanly conduct Is that of a bovy. throo or more, somo six or eight "ladies, walking leisurely along In .a row. apparently appa-rently utterly oblivious of every ono save themselves. It may bo ungentlcmanly, unchivalrous for mo to make comments such as I have. If eo, I beg tho pardon of the "Girl In Whlto" and tho "Girl In Black" or tho "Girl In Colors to Match." and meet contritely con-tritely hasten to assure her that, whllo It Is her privilege to claim or demand. It Is also true that gentlemanly bearing and courtesies of a chivalrous order are not perennial under compulsion. Ee Thoughtful of Others. If the "Girl 'In Whlto" and all other girls, and the men who "hog" tho shndo nnd all other men, will bear In mind to bo moro thoughtful of others' feelings than of her or his own rights, and moro thoughtful of others' rights than of her or his own feelings, then there will be llttlo .necessity to walk In tho heat of the sun, and small danger of "turned ankles" on granlto blocks. J, t |