Show a AMY ADAMS I SHAllOW AS A MARTINI Dear Amy I am a woman of 20 married and have one child I expect an an- an another other child chUd in July My husband Is a drinker lie He drank aU all the time and beat me every night when he came home Well we weare weare are now lie left me and our child chUd for another woman and her three Ume children But Dut he keeps coming to the house and tells me how much h he loves me I try to to dIscourage hIm by tell tell- telling teU Ing him that I dont don't love hIm and andI I dont don't ever want to see hIm a a- a again gain But he waits walts about two weeks and hes he's back again agnin Could he still sUIl love me or is s he be afraid of what I mIght do about the way he is carrying on with the other woman Mrs C A Dear Mrs tIrs C A Have the locks changed on your doors so 80 tha that your hue band cannot gain admittance If your door Is not open for him be might sober up Whether he loves you or not does docs not seem Important at this moment but rather that he act like a decent respectable res human being If he doesn doesn't t straighten out by the time your child Is born see lee an attorney Dear Amy t ThIs is a little word of advice to the widow who signed herself Disgusted with Neighbors My husband also dIed In 1 the month of August In the year 1960 That Christmas I sent out a very simple religious card to all the wonderful people who had been so kind and anel helpful during my husbands husband's illness and ond the weeks following his death because I wanted them to know I Ing of them And remembering those kindnesses In turn my daughter da and I were Just as pleased nil as in other years to receIve aU all the cards that friends and relatives sent to us In their concerted effort erfort to bring I a little cheer Into that first Christ Christ- mae ma without our Dad Disgusted with Neighbors is b heading downa down a long lonely path II If she continues to 10 mourn her husband so ly Iy It Is one thing to to grieve another to inflict that grief upon everyone around you Even the most patient of friends and neIghbors who now are probably trying their best to help her through a very difficult Ume tuns will eventually pull away from her if she continuES continuE'S to wear her grief on her sleeve If I sound harsh and unfeeling I dont don't mean to because I know quite well what heartbreak this woman is feeling at thIs time Its It's just that I am concerned for her She is rejecting kindnesses meant to help her ner and may someday be bevery bevery very sorry that she did Also a Widow P s 's Periodically the basement is still my private crying room I figure the washing machine wont tell S e 4 e eDear Dear Amy I wish that you could put me meat meat at ease ense I have a granddaughter my daughters daughter's child who was born out of wedlock wed and then adopted by y my brother back east My brother had hac promIsed that the child would know that I Iwas was washer her grandmother but she has bas always s 's called me by my first name She's now 18 and still II doesn't know of our relationshIp My brother recently passed n a- a away I way and his wife her ber called so-called mother has told her that she was adopted and to get out Naturally my granddaughter wants her bIrth certificate and wants to know whom her parents are but my daughter still stUl unmarried un- un unmarried married and just as wild as s she was 18 years ago wants none of this and expects me to send a fictitious certificate It I send her the real certificate the gIrl will know who I am and will probably be angry with me for living a lIe and more Importantly importantly she will know who and what her mother was and is As Asfor Asfor for myself I want the truth to come out but I dont don't know If I should let It Mrs EEM Dear Mrs EEM Send your granddaughter her birth certificate U If she Js Is deter deter- determined mined to know she will sooner or later anyway This may come as a 11 shock to her but she Is 18 years old now and Is no way to shield her from the truth I 55 PERSONAL TO Herbert Only the brave So what are you waiting foci fori Address aU all leU leUrs letters rs to to AMY ADAMS o c TillS THIS NEWSPAPER For a personal reply enclose n a stamped self addressed envelope |