Show I f Leslie Conder Community Reporter I was consoling my roommate leen lean the theother theother theother other day She was very upset because her boyfriend of over a year had just moved to Colorado for a anew anew anew new job Thus leaving her alone with her thoughts and questions of should I or shouldn't I move there therewith therewith therewith with him As I was telling her everything was going to tobe tobe tobe be okay I couldn't help but question would it really be alright Consoling her made me think back to my own long distance relationship which lasted over one and anda a half years It ended well but in made me think why do people in relationships like to torture themselves Canada-boy Canada and I met working at a blind camp during the summer in California Our relationship was the epitome of summer love When the summer came to an end we didn't know if were going to see each other again I being the planner made plans with a lot of hope in them We ended up seeing quite a abit abit a. a bit of each other given the fact that he lived in Canada By quite a bit I mean one or two weeks every two to five months We dated for a year and decided that it was too hard and that one of us needed to move We Ve tried everything but to no avail A few months after that revelation our relationship ended After deep reflection of our relationship I had an epiphany I will never have havea a long distance relationship ever again I am not going to tell you that you shouldn't have long distance relationships even though you I am m not going to tell you that they never work they dont I am not even going to tell you that the person who you arc are in the distant relationship with is cheating on you right now they are in ina a public place because you were too much of a prude to All I am going to say is that you need to make sure that the relationship and the person are worth all of the hassle they're not There to toa a long distance relationship you rarely see your boy girlfriend you dont don't get to do simple things together like go to the movies on a Friday night your partner could be cheating on you and you could never know it cost a lot to go back and forth and the list goes on and on Despite the many many cons there are a few pros you dont don't have to see sec seethe seethe the person everyday if you break up you dont don't have to worry about bumping into them and having the awkward moment plus you dont don't take the person or your relationship for granted You cherish every moment you have with that person All teasing aside I will tell you exactly what I told my roommate It is very infrequent that long distance relationships actually work It sometimes feels like an anold anold anold old wives tale a friend of friend told me that her cousin was in a long distance relationship for three years and now they have two kids and live in the Hamptons Truly I have two sisters that both married their long distance relationship their boyfriends lived a whopping five hours away I know that long distance relationships can work but it is work If you are in a along along along long distance relationship already then you already made the decision that this person in your life is worth all the ups up's and downs down's that come with not living by them You obviously need trust in any relationship but it is the forerunner of a long distance relationship I truly feel that everybody should have at least one I I 1 long distance relationship I Iso so they can know what it feels like to not take the person they love and the I relationship for granted I i That that relationship would hopefully teach them to be a better girlfriend boy in future relationships because they now how to cherish the person that they have the opportunity to see when they want to If you are in a long distance relationship a helpful hint from me to you Dont Don't talk to them everyday for an hour or more I know that you are just trying to tomake J make sure that they still care for you Its It's kind of like I your version of spending time together but its it's not It can actually hurt instead of help the relationship So stop it If that person lived close by would you talk to them on the phone everyday for more than an hour If I you answered yes than you might be bordering on co- co I dependency This if you didn't know is very very t J bad Naughty Naughty 1 |