Show For Love or Money By Tiffany Call 1 Contributing Writer We all know that the odds of married married married mar mar- ried people staying married arent aren't very good Do we ever really ask why Studies have shown that most marriages that are doomed to fail do so within the first fust year I think the main cause of this is that people dont don't plan for the marriage enough before they are married Have you ever noticed how involved to soon-to-be brides get in inthe inthe inthe the chaos of wedding plans It has always seemed to me that all engaged people are much too concerned about the wedding andt and t not concerned enough about the theL L i marriage This one day is hyped i. i up way ay too much Our society has programmed us to desire this extravagant perfect wedding Months go into planning for this day and if one little thing goes wrong were we're in for serious The planning causes arguments and puts financial stress on everyone The average wedding in America costs Wouldn't this money be better applied to a down payment on a home The number one reason reason reason rea rea- son marriages fail is because of financial problems Avoiding an expensive wedding could actually actual actual- ly save the marriage Ive I've had several friends go through the engagement process and it has always been an ugly situation My last roommate put together her wedding in three months and during this time I witnessed more mor screaming fight fight- ing begging and crying than I have in my entire life The hell this girl went through could not have been worth whatever she was going to gain from this mar mar- After listening to her and her fiance fight for over an hourin hour hourin hourin in our apartment one evening I came out of my room and suggested suggested suggested sug sug- that they elope The guy she was marring thought it was a a great idea We need to quit programming little children to believe that the wedding day is such a huge deal Getting married is great but the focus definitely needs to be placed on the actual marriage because that is what is really important Making this adjustment adjustment adjustment adjust adjust- ment in our culture would save many marriages C O |