Show Weve Only Just Begun who Begun who would 7 ti Y ever have believed that I was so naive My first clue to marital discord should have been the fact that the groom wanted nothing to do with having his photograph on the invitations Connie S. S Burrup Staff Writer should have been clear to toc tome tome IT c me early on that all indications indications indications indica- indica of marital bliss and longevity longevity lont lon- lon t were apparent in the ensemble of my wedding invitations invitations invitations in in- ceremony reception reception reception recep recep- tion and dress At the time it all seemed normal to me but butof butof butof of course twenty years ago it could be that an aura of cannabis cannabis cannabis can- can was clouding the issue All I remember is that my parents were so delighted that I would actually get married that the usual paren parental al censorship that surrounds wedding plans and dictates what is appropriate was patiently withheld Now two decades later five children in tow divorce papers on file fife and nd Porcelana on my hands it itis itis e is qui quite te en entertaining to 0 ponder l how I got my start on to marital bliss It all started with some romantic notion about being a gypsy I wanted to look like a combination beautiful gypsy gypsy Mormon hippie bride virginal hippie virginal and unique I do think I accomplished accomplished ac ac- ac- ac com hed all of the above I may have a warped view of life though My first clue to marital discord should have been the fact that the groom wanted nothing to do with having his photograph on the invitations Could it be that he did not want to be seen with me or that he did not want a permanent record of his involvement Nevertheless I opted for neon lime green invitations imprinted in brown lettering and sealed with murti- murti colored ored sealing wax emblazoned with peace t I a F i ti I 0 J f 1 t I 1 I L 4 j y z t LI fp i H Y 0 pr M. f P- P t 0 4 1 a f 7 s y p pt 1 t I W N jJ Z S 1 7 iM tf 6 r ii o o t r. r NN t L f i df f s. s 0 J N signs and flowers I chose as my thank you notes cards with Marilyn Monroe on the front accept accept- ing ng an Oscar saying Thank you Thank I you I was already entertained even if no noone noone noone one else was The reception center center center cen cen- ter was quite lovely lovely lovely-a a over made-over ivy-covered ivy mansion of sorts with the garage turned into info a small wedding chapel J I couldn't possibly possibly possibly pos pos- sibly settle for or a white wedding cake instead I chose several layers of banana nut bread separated with an electric fountain that trickled colored water among the rosettes Following my gypsy motif I decided to clothe my five bridesmaids bridesmaid's bridesmaids brides- brides maids maid's m aids aid's in q quilted u il t ed polished cotton paisley paisley paisley pais pais- ley jumpers shimmer shimmer- I The Ji he dress was complimented men merited ted by bya a multicolored multicolored multicolored multi multi- colored African bead on a aleather aleather aleather leather thong ing with hot pink electric blue blu acid orange and neon green I of course highlighted highlighted highlighted high high- lighted the effect by adding turquoise blue chiffon sleeves to the jumpers jumpers' I am not making this up My own ensemble consisted consisted consisted con con- of a basic dress with Victorian sleeves made of white dotted swiss Around the sleeves and splashing down the front of the skirt I had a series of neon and electric- electric colored flowers in a at t triangular ria n g u I a r rde de design ign The dress was complimented complimented complimented com com- com com- by y a am m multicolored African bead on ona a leather thong The bouquets were made up of ofa a myriad of chrysanthem u urns m s da daisies s i es baby's breath roses and carna carna- dyed to match the dres dres- ses I thought it was actually quite breathtaking I did notice otice my parents new in- in laws aws and several guests guests hyper hyper- ventilating It wasn't until several years into the marriage marriage marriage mar mar- that I truly ruly came to toun un under under- understand der- der stand that tha t my husbands husband's favorite c colors lors were grey and tan I think there was was was' some basic incompatibility incompatibility right there It was a lovely event We brought our own music The grooms groom's stereo was set up inthe in inthe inthe the background to play Beatles Beatles Beatles Beat Beat- les and Rolling Stones music The gifts were for the most part traditional except for forthe forthe forthe the inch four-inch by one-inch one cannabis joint rolled in banana flavored paper present presented d to the groom after the ceremony I carefully selected my going away outfit It was an American flag t-shirt t a la Abbie Hoffman bottom bell-bottom levis and harness boots The only drawback to the evening evening evening eve eve- ning was that the groom would not let anyone else pack up his his' stereo so we had to wait until everyone left before we could go home I of course wan wanted ted to seem exotic exotic s so I told everyone we were going to Vernal on our honeymoon actually we stayed overnight in and went to Hogle Zoo the next day I will always remember how handsome the groom looked in his Rhett Butler Butler- styled tuxedo and his brown shoes smeared with black shoe polish It was a memorable moment and I look back in fondness However my advice to you would be pay attention If the groom is not entertained entertained enter enter- with the ceremony you have planned he will not increase his sense of humor over the next twenty years of marriage But after all it is your show show show-go go for it |