Show HINTS FOR A HAPPY HOME love cures boredom by KATHLEEN norris 14 TT THAT HAT does it matter wor A what else you have V V or know or do demands marigold wilson disconsolately consola tely do if you a good dis disposition p position ion what gives one woman a good disposition anyway and gives another a horrible one like mine im better looking than my sister pam my husband makes more money than hers my two chill children dren are pretty well grown her four are stil htiu very small yet pam is always interested always laughing always happy and I 1 cant help being bored w wondering on whether its all worth while fighting a dreadful sense of being left out of things missing things pam looks at me as if 11 she understand a word I 1 say when I 1 try to express the way I 1 feel yet thousands of other women experience the same feeling of futility of frustration of failure in a word to my sister life is one continual adventure and to me its one continual flop well of course we all know that mood as a mood but when it becomes chronic it is dangerous it is unfair to the children of the fam 6 start an di amusing musing story ily I 1 destructive to the wife and m other mother who indulges it and supremely cruel to the man who is tugging along at a dull job and vaguely aware that whatever he does marigold going to be happy consequently the atmosphere of home is one of gloom and failure several times during the many years when I 1 have been writing these articles I 1 have been accused of undue optimism only this week I 1 received an angry letter from a young woman in a pennsylvania suburb who said among other things 1 I wish you would get tired of telling us all that we can be successful cesi cess ful we can be rich and famous all we have to do according to you is put 10 in the bank every week and serve our men appetizing pet izing dinners made of cuts of beef neck and turnips dont you know that 89 99 women out of a never are rich famous or successful you make other women bitter when you talk that way well it never would occur to me to ma make a these statements as quoted here so minnie forster is 13 ms mis quoting but I 1 know what she means she means that a great many lives like that of marigold in the opening questions are defeated and unsatisfied and that it is nothing short of maddening to be told by older and more fortunate women that their failure is not unavoidable what I 1 have said repeatedly and what I 1 say again now is that there is no life that may not be dignified useful and fulfilled and when you meet these conditions you cannot escape happiness all success is not what it seems sometimes it Is the bitterest sort of dead sea fruit all wealth Is subject now to so many taxes and obligations so many irresistible appeals for charity and general help as not to be wealth any longer in the old sense As for tame fame it is a fruit with a poisoned core for every moment BAD disposition why is it queries marigold Jari gold ilson that some people are overflowing with cheerfulness gaiety and good humor while others live a life of dreadful boredom wondering abo abony the futility of every thi some women regard life as a big happy adventure others tolerate it as a necessary dull routine miss norris CX explains plains that an anyone yone whose life is dignified and useful cannot help reaping ing his share of happiness ot of delicious pride it holds two ol of restlessness envy doubt humiliation anyone who has had the slightest taste of fame knows that hollywood is more filled with disappointed lives than any other place I 1 know except perhaps the ranks of the forgotten writers and broadway actors some have had an exciting day some will have it after a while some never will thousands feed hungrily upon I 1 loo 0 remembered triumphs th the yon w wonda won dx ful part in a 1929 play the story printed in 1918 the drama that got a 1000 prize after world war I 1 of course any womans comans life has its glorious moments but believe me they can be as intense over dads unexpected raise the splendid new baby harrys school record or finding just the ideal summer camp as over a hollywood or broadway success for marigold and minnie too the secret and the cure are the same put love into your life deep love of children home husband garden books the blind children at the asylum the tennis courts courts at the club yes but suppose you dont feel love well if you dont its your own choice dig deep enough into your job and the love will come even if it easy make yourself put love into things and it win will come back pressed down and running over put flowers on the dinner table and start an amusing story or a game when the family is gathered there try a dozen mild little affectionate gestures toward tom hes tired tonight how about the wilson affair at the office lets sit out on the step after dinner tom therell be a moon this nice and restful just by ourselves take up a language russian or spanish and amuse the family with new words or move from that city flat to the country and whitewash fences watch the personalities of chickens grow a profitable crop 0 ov 1 potatoes or sell the extra milk write down 10 things that you are going to do 10 ridiculous and unrelated things change my hairdo buy a camera get a kitten move furniture around in your room turn the storeroom into a game club and fill it with dominoes dominges dom inoes checkers puzzles pencils pads study home nursing learn to upholster seu sell candy to the elc exchange hange years ago merchants from the south seas used to come back with all sorts of mixed treasures make your life that sort of a voyage 0 how to start why by remembering these words seek and ye shall find ask and ye shall receive knock and it shau shall be opened unto YOU y |