| Show HOM EMAh tr ER I 1 is PAGE by maric M ogden from a page in our eastern paper the newark evening news new 3 we offer two opinions concerning home life the one relates to advice for the parents in regard to the habits of young children which they seek to correct and the other is a piece of sound advice for the older boys and girls gi als who fail to consider th ir birens pi pm rens ns rather do they belittle them and impose on them as they reach that age when they asek the r own I 1 1 independence of thought and action I 1 the first reference is from the pen of a columnist we have offered previous word from on the subject of children angelo patri says if a child has some annoying fault or habit dont feed it by talking about it either before him or behind him by talking about the failing we give it a reality a power that it could not have had if we had bad silently denied its reality and its power over the child it is a mistake for instance to say your hands are a disgrace eileen I 1 should think you would do anything to stop the adf awful ul habit you have of biting your nails why do you insist upon doing it people are shocked by the sight of your hands its too bad you let such a habit get hold bold by saying such things you strengthen the childs feeling for the necessity of her biting her nails ignore the matter beyond expressing admiration for pretty hands praise her appearance her er hair or her sl skin or her teeth if possible so wat that ilie ghe feels she looks well she wih in time attend to the nails too but not if she is worried about them it is a mistake to tell family friends about the childrens ani mistakes it is a sad shock to discover that a girl is in love with the impossible person that she meets him secretly writes him notes and the like but telling the story in detail repeating what you said and what she said and predicting awful things will effet effect quite the opposite behavior you wish to bring about talking about this thing will make it real to you yaa and to the girl and the boy too deal with it indirectly and you deal more effectively keep the childrens secrets from the whole world and it is a mistake to accept t illness without protest silent and strong protest when one of the children falls ill dont hasten to tell the friends neighbors and relatives dont call the family on the phone to spread the bad news wait hope that by tomorrow I 1 it t will not be necessary to tell anybody the doctor will keep the information to himself and if you do likewise you will not only save the patient from strain and annoyance no yance you wll hasten his recovery thinking does make ideas idea S take on a reality they would otherwise never possess I 1 know that keeping silent about a trouble does not remove it other forces must be set in motion but I 1 know too that talking about trouble spreading it jike aike a cloud over the family an and friends does not help at all it certainly and surely hinders recovery taking a positive stand against difficulties is the first step toward removing them willing hard and purposefully to destroy the thing that troubles us is another long stride forward then getting into action to fight the error to the best of our understanding completes its destruction e but guard against too much talk lalk in a series of articles entitled youth it over by kay caldwell wid and alden aider harrison we find this bit of good counsel the young modern nho ho s lav l av ing trouble with his family can improve the sit it am bingly by following a few s mple ample ul first hr hl will try to be as considerate si of his parents parent prid his brothers and sisters s as he is of irs hs friends outside the home second hell use his home as a laboratory to practice his good manners the benefits will be twofold two fold hell make his social technique amoo her through constant practice and hell inspire his family to match his courtesy after they recover from their first shock of surprise third hell realize that he is is a real member of the family and hell work for its welfare as he would for the welfare of his club or his clas or his team hell w share of the chores and expect only his share of the rewards fourth hell try to make mace himself an individual of whom the family can be proud mothers and fathers are simply hungta for a chance to stick out their chests and brag about their sons and daughter anything cre creditable diable you do any honor you receive any victory you win inflates thair egos as much as it does yours and finally hell try to put himself in h s parents shoes shoe now and then looking at things from their point of view this will be difficult for it easy for a young modern to leap ahead 20 or 30 years and see tangs th from the angle of an older generation but even if you lont dont fully understand der stand you can recognize the fact that there can be another viewpoint besides your own and that it may have a sound basis try following those general principles and see 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