| Show Kt kathleen a hleen norris S says ays stop fooling yourself son ben features feature J N 0 IP 1 1 RYAN J UNI ton tom come cams home and agreed to a divorce but he took his child away from the mother whose open infidelity the court decided indicated that she was an unfit guardian by KATHLEEN NORRIS you are one of PERHAPS the thousands of american women who met another man while dear old unromantic bill was away at the war front and are won dering just how to break it to bill that you want to be free if you are wake up and stop tooling fooling yourself this new man continue his tender Ratte flattery his generous presents hi his breathless admiration of everything you sa say y and do much longer than the honeymoon then hed turn into the usual exacting unreasonable unfeeling sort of everyday man that billis it if there is one glaring lesson that stands in letters on the skyline of american domestic lue life it Is that a second marriage matria marria ria go Is more difficult than a first more full of bitterness and disillusionment illusion ment and a third Is worse than a second when a woman deliberately turns down a fairly satisfactory unexciting husband who is far away tor for a glamorous sweetheart here at home she guarantees guarantees tor for herself sev several years a so of misery isery i after those years she maywin to several forms of content resignation philosophy other interests a general growing up but the tha first years after a passionate leap from tile the cooling ardors ardora cofone of one man to the furious embraces of another is a staggering disappointment the illicit love that was so absorbing beco becomes mes something nearer hatred as the woman realizes what she has sacrificed tor for it and how she has complicated every other relationship in her gry life a its if an all over it is different when she Is widowed or when when years of separation from an unlit unfit mate have lent a sort of 61 dignity to ahei selection of a new partner bucl but I 1 am speaking odthe of the many many wives who write the dil distant tant soldier or greet him on his bis re return hun with the news that it Is all overa over a new love has entered their lives take taka carolyn martin for example who writes me a frantic letter from duluth and threatens to take her owa own life unless someone does something that will restore her to her old content and self respect tom martin went off to war carolyn devoted herself to little patsy tee lee presently she met gregory stationed nearby uniformed handsome with a captains pay gregory had a wife la in virginia but he ie was lonely too and misunderstood and he adored C carolyn arolyn they lovers and Ca mad passion n had its hour but look how it all turned out tom L om came home and agreed to a divorce but he took his child ariy away from rom the mother whose open infidelity fidell ti the court decided indicated that she was an unlit unfit guardian for patsy atsy lee carolyn quite foreseen that and gregors Gre gorys wife who also has a young daughter refused him a divorce carol carolyn yn thought of that either we have quarrelled quarrel led bitterly the writes mi me for I 1 know perfectly well that gregory brown c could have gotten a divorce if he had insisted but no id given ilven him everything everything and hed tired of me the way men do 2 all 11 past but my little patsy lee I 1 cant ill 0 why did I 1 start proceedings proceeding live without herl I 1 cant bear the thought that she Is with tone toms a sister whose own three children will of 0 f course come first to in everything what did I 1 do that was so wrong of course I 1 know that it et as air to lotom tom but can a woman help loving a manas man as masterful as it attractive as greg easy E isy to oran plan divorce and she encloses me three of i gregs old lovelette love lette letters rs to give me some idea of the forcefulness of his bis wooing WET its easy to talk of breaking up a marriage everyone Is going to be agreeable in the first stages it better for greg and me to be happy even eveta it if torn tom than to have all three of us wretched the wife asks with a great air of considering si the greater good tor for the greater number gre greg g they say adores ladores patsy lee he Is going to be the kindest daddy in the world to her then the law steps in the lawyer asks all sorts of dreadful questions gregs sister reminds him that he has every right to his child Ca heart begins to fall her and aid a thousand times as the slow processes go on she wishes she ever started the series of acts and events that led to this change the other day I 1 was to in court when a divorce case was being decided the husband was just back from service overseas the wife a pretty young thing who had taken on a lover during her months alone looked miserably unhappy already her mother told me in an aside that the poor child marry her sweetheart until he be got a job at one stage of the lie proceedings the girl looked et at her husband imploringly oh are we both crazy alan she sobbed the man growled an angry yes the case went on and one more hom ewas thrown on the junk heap |
