Show kathleen norris says this gentlewoman should wed ChaulT chauffeur eur bell syndicate service 14 1 S N 4 MINIM my aly father for several years has had a thau hauff fleur cur named tony benito ile he is a simple man who lias has a wonderful mother and family tony and I 1 lote loie each other my aly mother would be crushed if she knew this by KATHLEEN NORRIS ERE is a letter from a HERE H young girl that might make some mother thoughtful linda sends me her picture with her letter and it is the picture of a sweet sensible pretty creature she makes no complaint she only wants some advice but I 1 think she has been badly treated and that it is the fault of a selfish father and mother when I 1 was quite little 0 mother and dad made much of me I 1 felt that they loved me 1 i writes linda but when I 1 was 10 another man appeared in the family was there continually taking mother to lunch or dinner or dancing I 1 like him very much and neither did dad soon mother explained to me that dad was going away it made me feel strange and lonely but of course I 1 was only a child and when mother married the man I 1 will call van she explained to me that it only meant that I 1 had two homes now and three persons to love me instead of two for a year dad and I 1 and my nurse lived together mammy and I 1 did the cooking and we were all very happy but then dad married and although elise was kind kend to me and gave me presents she fife talked about my mothers treatment of my father said she had been cruel to him and worried me so that I 1 was really ill mother was expect expecting ing a baby then and could not have me so I 1 went to a hospital and from there for years to beardin boarding g school my father has always been careless about money and every ter I 1 would have to write and remind him to pay my bills which I 1 think accounts for the fact that I 1 am pretty shy to this day I 1 hoped to be with my mother in vacations but instead they arranged for me to go to camp every year inherited aboney please dont think I 1 am complaining pla ining the letter goes on but 1 I loved my parents and my home and I 1 used to feel very lonely my father was divorced again last year and as I 1 pleaded to be able to b be e with him and make a home for h him im he agreed at 18 1 I came into some money my grandmother left me that meant that he and I 1 need have no money troubles I 1 came home christmas a year ago and for a few weeks I 1 was completely happy going downtown independently having my own car and feeling free but my father has charf changed ged is rarely at home and so I 1 see little of him but my mother was very much annoyed at this arrangement she said that having sacrificed me all these years for my education she felt that I 1 should be with her and help out with the family finances my little half brother was a strong beautiful baby but he got infantile paralysis and will always need care van van my stepfather is not much of a success in business and my mother misses the luxuries to which she had been accustomed altogether she is in a nervous state and yet she cannot get another divorce because she would get no alimony this time love comes to linda now here is my question my father for several years has had a chauffeur named tony benito he is a simple man who has a wonderful mother and family ile he was married widowed 10 years ago I 1 have been to his mothers home several times they have a restaurant FOR PARENTS ONLY kathleen norris nonis advice this time is for the parents instead of their erring and wayward children here is a case where an apparently blameless child has been denied the love and security she needs by the selfishness of her parents unwanted when she was grot growing iving up site she is now claimed by both parents for the salse ah of the money she inherited front from her grandmother but she is is ill in love with her father s chauffeur and wants to marry him and surprising as it may be to sonic some kathleen norris advises her to do just that she may be embarrassed by tonys limitations and she will not nal have the luxuries 1 uries she has always known but she will have love and a family bound together by simple good heartedness her parents divorced for many years cannot even offer her a home and in return for the nothing they can give her they would probably expect to claim all her timet time attention and money which the father daughters and another son manage they are uneducated p people eople I 1 suppose talking very little english and living a very natural home life with babies dogs old grandparents plenty of good food and good wine and plenty of love tony and I 1 love each other we are happy together my father probably would want to kill him if he knew this and I 1 know my mother would be crushed if we married I 1 would tal take ke what money I 1 have and invest it in a garage which tony has long wanted to buy we could go along for a few years comfortably on what was left until he began to make money we both want children for all the benitos begitos love them and I 1 could never be happy without them shall I 1 refuse tony and ask dad to let him go join my mother and become a nurse to my lit little tle half brother whom I 1 would come to adore I 1 know or make this marriage please help me parents want her now now you parents who submit lov ing sensitive small girls to the miseries of your own marital failures failure and the wretchedness of partings and changes among those who seem to them faultless what do you think th ink of the father and mother who sh shoved 0 ved linda about without any consideration tor for her loving lovi ng little heart her childs love of st stability ability and security and her childs confidence in her own family that she is no longer a responsibility and a bother they want her now that she is an heiress both bo th father and mother could cid use her h e r money and now she has sought companionship and lo 10 love ve in strange places and is likely to go out of their lives forever my advice to her is to marry tony she will wil I 1 be many times embarrassed barr assed by his limitations she may have to apologize for him and for her family but she will have love a real mother and real sisters and brothers amusement distraction companionship panion ship and probably adoration from her husband she will have children good strong children born of peasant stock and she will build a home around them and have the picnics and trips and birthdays and mothering that her own childhood was denied |