Show f Ret Retirement Joy Dear Miss Brookfield I 1 read the letter from the Buffalo reader who wrote that after educating three children she and her husband husband husband hus hus- band who ho is about to reI retire retire re re- re- re I tire are broke t 11 SHE CLAIMED CLAI her chilI children children chil chil- I dren ren couldn't contribute because be be- t cause ruse they were ere all married I and had financial problems of d their own J I I. I We ISe are re a retired couple living li in Central Texas and I if laving Caving a gay old time WE EDUCATED a son but we also saved a small portion portion portion por por- tion of our income to pay for a home a small business business business busi busi- ness and savings for a ara ra rainy iny day We accumulated our in income income income in- in come and property by hard work we also own a lake cottage close cooperation and frank family discussions on finances WHEN WIEN THEY dont don't own property families are unwise unwise unwise un un- un- un wise to live beyond their means to educate children I would advise this woman to forget her ego and ask the children to contribute THE CHILDREN owe her this help All they loan her to buy a house will go goback goback goback back to them anyway We entertain dine out put camp fish and go boating It takes one or two years to adjust to retirement But its it's worth it M. M E. E Austin Texas Dear ME 1 You seem to have discovered discovered discovered ered the ideal retirement formula Congratulations Family Planning Dear Miss Bro Brookfield In September our son an only child leaves for college We have a small house and andI I am cramped for space I HAD HOPED to convert convert convert con con- vert his room into a sitting sitting sitting sit sit- ting room adding a convertible convertible convertible con con- sofa for his use when he returns on holi holi- days My son got upset when I told him about this plan I cant can't see his room being wasted for four years when I can put it to better use Any suggestions DR Cranston RI Dear DR None except try again later and more tactfully after alter he has been away at college for a while YOUR SON is obviously upset not only because you wanted to get rid of his room but because this plan represents something vastly mere important he heis heis heis is no longer part of the family family family fam fam- ily Everyone requires a room or a corner of his own for privacy Your son needs his room something to return return return re re- re- re turn to on holidays CANT CAN'T YOU use your decorating decorating decorating dec dec- orating ingenuity to find the space you need elsewhere in inthe inthe inthe the house At least for the time being Bored and Blue Dear Miss Brookfield I am 48 married with five children The youngest is 11 I KNOW Im I'm not useless but m my life ife seems empty I lack vim vitality and motivation Is it possible this is the change of life ML IIII Oklahoma Okla Dear ML l Its It's possible but only your doctor will know for sure YOU MIGHT be interested in what Dr Robert Green Green- blatt chairman of the department department department de de- de- de of endocrinology at atthe atthe atthe the Medical College of Geogia wrote about the effects of menopause on many women Because of her biologic constitution and the vicissitudes vicissitudes vicissitudes of her environment the woman enters the climacteric climacteric climacteric cli cli- with uneasy and uncertain tread It is a time of introspection of inventorying inventorying inventorying and of soul-searching soul she analyzes her limitations her frustrations her secret sorrows IT CAN ALSO he states be a time of boredom anxiety anxiety anxiety ety phobias fears and waning waning waning wan wan- ing romance He continues It is a period period period pe pe- of emotional irritability unstable and vulnerable and when her declining ovarian activity provokes a general glandular imbalance DR DRY GREENBLATT points out that physicians can diagnose and alleviate the distressing symptoms of the menopause If they are due to a hormonal hormonal hormonal hor hor- monal imbalance the womans woman's physical and mental health may be restored by replacing replacing replacing ing the hormone her ovaries are no longer producing once they stop functioning at menopause YOUR physician of course can best diagnose your condition condition condition con con- and help restore you to better health So have a talk with him |