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Show Dorothy Dix Talks A BLESSING IN DISGUISE By DOROTHY DIX the WorUTs Highest Paid Woman Writer One of the commonest complaints of married tyomen is that their husbands hus-bands du not understand them When a woman, who Is set and determined de-termined on being miserable though married, la united in the holy bonds of wedlock to-a man who gles her a comfortable home and good clothes, who punches the time clock on the appolnd d hour, and who has forgotten forgot-ten thai there la another petticoat in tho world exeept her's. she can nl-waya nl-waya fall back on her pet grievance Of not being understood. It's a nice Intangible wrong, that deals with glittering generalities, so to speak, and there is nothing that a morbid lady really gets more fun out of than believing that she is All Soul, and that she has been sacrificed In matrimony to a dull, and clumsy brute who is incapable of comprehending a creature so delicate, and ethereal as she Is. "Wives have shed enough tears over not being understood to float an At-lantic At-lantic liner, nnd it has all been so much good salt water gone to waste, for instead of being a cause for sor-row, sor-row, It's an occasion for rejoicing Every woman who has got a husband who doesn't understand her ought to jet down on her knees, and thank God for bf-lnc; so merciful to her. It's because men don t understand women that we can nian.it;' Lheni and it will be an c II day when they get wise to the feminine psychology Then our last graft will be gone. So far. when a man gets married, he accepts his wife "as is" as the Invoice of a bill of goods puts It He is committed to the theory that woman la a mystery that no man can fathom, fath-om, and so he makes no attempt to unriddle the human conundrum ho has acquired. He blindly accepts his wife's valuation of herself, and this enables the majority of women to R'-t away with a lot of things that they would nevei be able to pull off if then husbands had a real line on them Take the matter of health, for ln- I women who really are 111. and no pat-lence pat-lence and forbearance that'thejr husbands hus-bands can show them is more than they deserve. There are, however legions of other -omen whose alleged ill health Is nothing but a camouflage camou-flage for laziness. We all know women who are too feebh to do their housework, b ij who :.re Ktronc enough to play golf, and j dance half the night; women who are I too delicate tn manage a home and I worry wlih servants, but who are perfectly able io chase down bar-galns bar-galns sit OVe'S bridge tables. We know women whose fragile constitutions constitu-tions te,ulro expensive winter resorts, and siimiuer resorts. or European travel l nil v e know there are poor, tired. , overworked husb.xnds. men who love domesticity and long for their own f Irfsiije. ii nd home cooking, but who are forced to live In boarding houses, and hotels, and who spend their lives j tolling to pay doctors, and speck-list" and sanitarium bills. Suppose these men understood their wives! Many B woman who is coddled, and petted ami "poor-deared' i her husband would have to pull off her pink negll-, negll-, gee, and get off her couch, and enter .the kitchen, believe me. Also take nerves, as an example. I Wo all know meek, dow n trodam , men who wipe their feet on the door mat before they enter their own doors who hav to go out on the I hack steps to smoke, who wouldn't dare to bring a friend home to im-: im-: ner, and who Jump when rbeii wives speak to them because their Jans ar- of sneh a nervous temperament. Jane ; says so. and thc believe It Suppose they understood Jane, and knew- that her ivrxea were temper, and a selfish determination to have her own way. Wouldn't Jane have to behave herself, or else lose a perfectly good meal tic ket ? You know she would. Every wife has he.- own trade secret about how she works hrr husband. She has stud-led stud-led him until he has the whole technique of how to play upon his weaknesses. t her fingertips. ! She knows that if she wore to suc-cest suc-cest flat-footed. (hat they should give un theii comfortable old home and niove Into a mor."" expensive house on a fashionable street that he would ?ay ''no." and stick -to it Therefore, she begins finding fault wi'.h the house, and complaining about its be-inp: be-inp: dark, and tl2 lack of bathrooms, and the defective livhMnsr. and she discovers that th-" plumbing Is bad. and she harps upoti bow many repair the place need" until finally sh makes her husband dissatisfied with it, and then she springs the iew house on him. and rets it. Or. If he Is an egotistic man. she prods his vanity and his self-love, and throws in his teeth the way some o per people live until he buys a new house to show that he can keep up With t he Jones. No senllde woman wants her hus-band hus-band to know by what arts and wiles .die Lndut es him to do the thlntrs ho said he never would do. nor why she !s so sweet and amiable and the dinner din-ner so good, on the day when the bills come in for her new fall wardrobe. ward-robe. Still less does she desire him to know Just how to play upon her own foibles. Therefore, the women who are married mar-ried to men who do not understand them should cease to worry ovr it. Lady Euck Is with them The next storv 1 Whipped Younr Fox " on |