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Show Dorothy Dix Talks Bjt DOJJOTHY DIX. the World's Highest Paid Woman Write I AMIABILITY The greate.it graft In this world I amiability. If you arc eaav lo gut along with people will forgive you every offense in the whole calendar of sin and if you are pleasant to have around, tho whole world constitutes consti-tutes Itself your guardian angel. You may be as homely as the pro-I pro-I vorblal mud fen . Nobody cadres, if only you wear the smile that won't come off. You may be as dull a.--dlti h water, vlthout two ideas to rub together In your head. Your society win be overly sought if you say th sort of things to people thai make them feel good You may be lasy. silfUess. and Inefficient. Nobody cares whether you do anything else or not, If you always rub th.-lr fur the right wa On the contrary, you may ln. every virtue onder the sunf your mid- die nam a mu be Efficiency and you may work yourself to death for others oth-ers without ever getting tredlt or gratitude. or reward for your labor. If you are Irritable, and Irascible, and have a personality that rilos iho.e with whom you come In contact Look at the households that have nueKinr saints at Ihe heads of them!: We ail know women who would check up a hundred per i.ent perfe. i in m blue ribbon wire contest.. Wo all know women who deny themsolvca everything possible In order to savoj their husbands money. who burn, themselves to a crisp cooking just: the things their families like to e.n I who si- up half tho night sewing so; that their Mamies and Sallies may have just as many furbelows as rlchi r girls have; whose houses are cleaned clean-ed and scrubbed until they arc so: immaculate you might eat off the1 floor. But these women are bunch ea of nerves. They are always fretting and' complaining. They are perpetually finding fault with their children I husbands Thej consMei ' i crefl duty to wet-blanker every plan and project. It is a hanging crime and rnlsdemea nor in their hOuSes to bo fivs minutes late to a meal, or move a chair, or rumpltt a rug. They never laugh; they art nevi r Jolly. They never chum up with1 theii famiU'x. and then they wonder won-der why their husbands' and ih'i- dren's Ideas of having a good time Is to get away from home, and why they are not appreciated, and loved. And they think this is an ungrateful ungrate-ful world because some other wo-' wo-' man who Is a slack housekeeper, and buys ready made clothes for her children chil-dren is adored by her family for no Other reason than that she is gentle, and affectionate, and soft-spoken, and laughs and plays with them, and Is always understanding, and good-natured. ' I slave for my husband and children chil-dren I deny myself everything for them. I give them better food, better bet-ter clothes, more comforts than she does her, but because I am not always al-ways smirking and smiling, ar.d don': Inke things lightly as she does, my family doesn't care half as much for me as hers does for her. And it's unjust. And I don't understand It," wails the devoted wife and mother Yet the matter is not hard to understand un-derstand The things of the spirit are eternally more Important than lho?e of the fleon. .0t even husbands hus-bands and children " live by bread alone, and there are very few of us who would not rather sit down to it dinner of herbs with a cheerful, pleasant, amiable woman to bear us company than to a f.xst that is eaten to un accompaniment of fault finding? find-ing? and bickering. Not many of us are selfish enough anyway, to desire those about us to sacrifice themselves for us. but what we do yearn for Is to have them pleasant, and easy to get along with. The thing that we hate and loathe is to have to be perpetually on our guard, fur fear of precipitating a scone by Inanyertenfly bringing up the topic that Is like a red rag to a mad bull or stepping on the feelings feel-ings i. someone whose morbid sensibilities sen-sibilities are spread all over the place. Mosl Of US get all the fighting we iave stomach for in the outside Ofld Wa get our vanity pounded! ii a pulp by strangers with whom we W i h Wits and when we come homo! WS want peace, and some one to ap-' ply poultices of praise and admiration admira-tion to our wounded egotism, and 1 that Is why we all adoro the good-j a.iiiainr UIIIJH WnO l)KS US as we are. faults 'md weaknesses ami .,'!, and doesn't worry us about ' them She Is eoao to get along with, ond thai is a hcadllner quality In the person With whom you have to llvu three hundred and sikty-five days in i the ye;ir. And so it goes through life When ' w. KO to a shop the clerk wo pick OUl to buy from Is the one with a good-natured pleasant face, not the grumpy. BOur-Vlsaged one. though the latter one muy be ten times as competent com-petent a Kiilittunan or woman. The people wo put ourmVves out to boost are thi agreeable people, with charming manners and the knack of saying nl o things. We lei tin-grouchy tin-grouchy shift for themselves no m liter li-ter how deserving they may be No man and woman who cannot get along with their fellow workers Can hope to fuccoexl unless they are transient geniuses, but wo all push agreeable medlocracy into the limelight lime-light All of which leuds on to say that If you can't be anything else, bt amiable. Be agreeable. Cultivate a p LSaiit manner, and the gentle at" of smoothing out rough places, and pouring oil upon the troubled waters of life. It pays the higgest dividend on th; j smallest Investment In effort that you . , n possibly mal |