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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks j HAVE A HEART, GIRLS! j '' pOROTUT 1HX, the World's Highest Paid Wfjitnan Write? 1 Tin' jmn of wrd.iir.r., U "!'. ii v.. a'wl , thousandx of girl lhruushui tin- . oim-try oim-try are engaged irr v.-nman s most thi ol-ing ol-ing Indoor nj-.rt. which Is planning their weddings and ljvni; their trousseaux In Innumerable homes the flocrs are I knee deep in filmy fluttery llngerl. and mother Is KTOvvinc hagirard Irving lo d--I cide whom to Invite to the church, and I , whi.m tn the house; and father is Ivtnei awake at night trying to figure out hew he la ever going to pay the bills: ami hosts of helpless friends and acquaint- aacea ar.' groaning Rloud in their mis-I en and saving: "Mabel Smith's Wedding Wed-ding .-ards came tray. and we've go'. to send her a present, and there goe I my new hat. And 1 needed one so hxdly " And everybody exeent the I rlde-ele.-t hates tin- whole mierablf business, and. ' thinks that it is nn wonder that mar-i mar-i rlage Ix so often a failure when It la en-lered en-lered Into with such an amount of tomfoolery. tom-foolery. I Now getting married Is a lot r.nre solemn sol-emn and serious n thing than dying la, ami why people send out Invitations to! their friends and acquaintances to come1 and them married, any more than I they ask them to come and watc'i l: m die, DObOdJ knows. It would vein U.a. unv decent K"11' WOUld wish -o he an m alone a- mu,"iblo at Its misi metal and terrible moment Kew xvemen feel this way about I'. however. Most of them der.ire all ths; j fuss and feathers, and noise, and nulla- i be loo they cun get. and to enibark upon I the holy estate viih a grand splurge. I Prom the time a girl babv begins to think, she commences tn plan her wed- ding, and before she Is out of plg-taili i-hc has decided on whether she will have I hurdl wedding with a flower-girl and a rulg-bearer, or be married under a. floral flo-ral arch in tiif back parlor at home Therefore, it lr- wrecking the .iirani". of her life when you ax'c her to cut Out 'all of the doo-dHdK. and, when she finds I the man to whom she gieskh i hear 1 for keeps, just to step around to the parson par-son with him. there have the knot tied I with neatness and dispatch, and without am of the work, r.nd worry and nervous! prostration and debt, and gTSft tiiat ac-eompablea ac-eompablea ths usual marriage. , Neverthele s, i do appeal to glrla In: i 1 nf i.f humanity f.r sane .and sensible Idlngs, and not to sacrifice their ownj . families, their own futures, ar.d every- i body thy know to the gratification of their vanity. I appeal LO tin ill to OUl "lit the llCid-upi of sli,,vv.-r :ind we. tiling presents. He- ' ails., you .in going to be married Is no i reason for levying blackmail upon your frb-nds. xet t hat Is preclliely what a wending wen-ding invitation doi-. rn.' i ig, oiiuore. . whit.- inrd is Just as much u demand to stand and deliver, rt-i n pistol polntco at ' ur breasts, anl most of its entertain about as cordial an opinion of the one au the other. Don't do it. girls. Have a hear!, j . y : to remember bow man) .ails everybody has upon their pocketbooks, and how IIII most people can afford to make presents' tlie.-e days You have no Idea how many1 go.-d wishes and blessings will be raln.d 1 down upon the head of the bride who has declined ;" ' showered with silk stock-' Ihgs and embroidered towels, and aluml-j nnm ware. ' Of course you may say that this 1r your only chance to get even for the man), many times that you have been forced to contribute to other brides, out scmehody has always got to be the leouer of every reform movement, and the Qla Unction and gratitude you win gain by being a pb'nei-r in the no-pre-ent moo-ment moo-ment will more than compensate ou for the loss of a few salt spoons, and Imi.a-tlon Imi.a-tlon Japanese vases. Besides, the wedding presep' .ire not all gain. Always, mosi of tin things appear to have been selsjcldd your worst enemy In her most vindictive tw od, and It profileih a bride nothing t l r.v o a lot of Junk for which she has no carni-l carni-l o-e and no place in her new home. Furthermore tiiej all have lo be returned re-turned Hut mo'. of all glrlfl think of father nnd have a t ear'. lie has about all iie can stagger under now ichjiV lone old anil worn ami tired he Is Votlce how qu.et he Is growing. Are you willing, for the sake of trailing trail-ing up a church aisle In while lac. and chiffon and orange blossoms, to udd another an-other i rushing burden tn those he already al-ready bears'.' Are you willing to have him work longer hours to pay for the flowers thai are Withered In an hour, and the music and the flummery of your wedding reception v win you enjo wearing wear-ing the foolish and extravagant finery ol your I ml Uses 11 when you remember that It has been wrung out of his vcrv life blood'.' I have known plenty of men who were literally ruined by their daughters weddings wed-dings They never got out of debt. All of the balate i u inelr lives they were slaves, tr.lllng. harassed, worn trying to pay with voars of labor for a slilx ana selfish glri s five minutes parade up S chin i h aisle. Don" I lei your man lac, call down a curse upon vour father's old head. gl:Is. Vou know what he can affor.i tO give you. Take it. and usk for no more. Let your las' days of girlhood be lllle-l vvlin consideration of your parents, not oi gorging the last thing out of them thai you can get. Think of the mm you are golr.g lb in airy, girls, ami have a heart. A man Is a very helpless thing In the hands ... the vvomn n he is In love with and la almui to nian-x . He s afraid tO oppOSS anything she '.cant to do, for fear shw will think he Is stingy; and when, siki wc-ern. he becomes a- I'Ulp under hei tears. T hen fore. man:, a sensible young chap Is forced Into a display wedding against his Inclination and batter Judgment. In-knows In-knows ihnt the ninnay he has LO spend for flowers, am! tnxls. and presents to ushers and best man. am! a new dress suit, nnd a foolish wedding journsb'. should go into l'Ltnlshlng a little home, but he hokn't Ihi nerve to stand up U the glr! he Is In lve with, anil fight her t.. ,i finish .irni tell her ihat they will be married accord Ing to the way the have got to live, or not at all Kor the wadding day Is the brlde'i day. Sin i the puissan' or.r- who decides de-cides everything f.-r her community, for her famlh . and f-r her hu:-band-to-be. Therefore I pray her to have a heart and be merciful to ihrm ail. r |