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Show If I Dorothy Dix Talks 1 1 THE SIMILARITY OF THE SEXES IB Wo talk a great deal about the dif-Mm dif-Mm ference between the sexes, and -we say In Ibat the reason that women can never BL undcratand men, and hy women aro'a E conundrum to men that they do not IE even (ry to guess, is because the two IH sexes look at everything from opposite lf standpoints. Bjf To a certain extent this Is true. To R jbe end of time men will be men, and II women will be women, and women will 1 still be speculating about why mqn do I certain things and hold certain opin-I opin-I I Ions, and men will be wondering at the f strange way In which a woman's mind I i works its wonders to perform. I But. as a matter of fact, this differ-I differ-I t cnco between the sexes is mostly a I matter of tradition and superstition I I and not nearly so great as we have I i been led to suppose. After all, wcjore I !! human beings lirst, and then male or I female afterwards, and If we laid more I stress on this common humanity, and I i iess on se' peculiarities, it woufa I :5 smooth out a great many ofthe dlffi-I dlffi-I '? cultics that are sources of perpetual I $ friction between men and women, and I t make greatly for peace and harmony. I I Mopey, Bone of Contention I t As an illustration of this; take (h,e I I matter of money wliich is a bone "of I j contention in the majority of house-I house-I -i holds. If women could voice their bit-I bit-I terest complaint against -matrimony It I h rould bo that the wife is an econpmic I slave who is required to work for her I I board and clothes without (receiving a I i penny as the reward of her labor. mi Often she is given the most lavish If- sums. She has jewels, and fine I 1 clothes, and automobiles bestowed up-I up-I I on her if her husband is rich, but the I S fly In the ointment is that these things I I are given. They aro .looked upon as I i gratitudes for which she should be I I properly grateful to her husband. I I Housewife's Money Situation II A wife Is never supposed to earn a I I penny by her work, no matter' if she j cooks, and washes, and sews, and; J cleans, and sick nurses for her family, ? and performs the services of half a c dozen high priced experts. Even the census rates the woman who works i outside of her home as a laborer while j f the housewife is put down as following no gainful operation. 5 The average wife never has anyj it ; i ..money that she can spend as she pleases, and without giving an account to her husband. If she has poor and unfortunate relatives whom sho would like to help, and to whom she would j give money If she were an unmarried working- .woman, she cannot do so i without the humiliation of asking her husband for it and making him feel that his wife's people are graf tng on him. For he seldom realizes that th2 l wife is entitled to a part of the family Income, not because she is his wife, jbut because qhe earns It by her labor ;In the household, i Economies A Vital Subject , Now, women canuot understand why men cannot get their point of view on this vital subject. They cannot comprehend why a man who is just and fair about monoy to everyone else, cannot be just and fair to his wife. They cannot see how a man can love a woman and yet force her to come like a beggar to him for every cent The explanation is that men have an idea that tne two sexes do not regard money In the same light. A man knows that he would, rather starve than be dependent upon even the kind-jest kind-jest and most generous of fathers or I uncles. The reason that a marriage , between a poor man and a rich worn-I worn-I an almost always results In misery for , both is that a man's sense of dependence depend-ence eats Into his very soul. The very foundation stones of his selfrespect and happiness are the possession of his own individual pockei book. j Woman A Beggar l But ho thinks women are different, 'and that a woman actually enjoys rattling rat-tling a tin cup before a man "like a" blind beggar, and wheedling, and cajoling, ca-joling, or brow-beating him into giving her enough money to buy some specific spe-cific thing which sho has to describe j before hand. If mon could only realize that there jls no difference between the sexes on the money question it would do more rto make marraige a success than any 'other one thing, for It is ignorance, not istlnginess, that makes husbands dole lout carfare to their wives instead of giving them an Individual bank ac-i ac-i count. . ' ! Another illustration of the alleged difference betweeu the sexes shows will' crt infinT K-tantr. f-.il ii..,:.. ....... iimii; mvuuiu inn iu tjivv men husbands the appreciation and tenderness tender-ness that are their due. A woman knows that the love that expresses itself in warm words of endearment, en-dearment, that lakes note of her sacrifices, sac-rifices, that pays the tribute of praise I to her endeavors, is as the very breath of llfo to her. She knows that this, and this alone, makes marriage, worth whilo to her. Sho knows that if her husbtmd surrounds her with this aura of appreciation, that sho is repaid for all of the hardships and sacrifices that matrimony inevitably brinngs, and il : he fails in appreciation that marraige Is cinders, ashes and dust in her teeth. ! Men Not Unsentimental But sho ihas bee"n taught that men are strong, and soli'sufficiont, and prosaic, pro-saic, and unsentimental, and shj novcr : realizes that her husband is just a." heart hungry as she is, that he longs and pines for a few words of real affection, af-fection, or little praise, some sign that sho knows and appreciates the sacri-lices sacri-lices that he is making for her. There are millions of tired, dishcart-; dishcart-; eneti, discouraged, gloomy nnd grouchy ,men to whom marriage is an utter faii-iure, faii-iure, who could be made happy, and 'contented, and cheerful, and find marriage mar-riage a paradise regained if only their 'Wives would show them some of the .tenderness, and love, and appreciation they really ftfel. j "Do as you would be done by," is the .golden rule of matrimony as it Is of I life. For men and women all havo j souls cut off of the same pattern, and with the same needs and desires. ! Dorothy Dix's articles appear regu-, regu-, larJy In this paper overy Monday, Wednesday Wed-nesday and Friday. oo |