| Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box B THE HE OVERWORKED MOTHER WHO BERATES HER HUSBAND FOR NOT HELPING WITH THE HOUSEWORK MISS EIGHTEEN WHOSE PARENTS KEEP HER HOME WAITING FOR A FAIRY PRINCE HOW CAN A STENOGRAPHER DISCOURAGE HER FRESH BOSS DEAn flEAR EAU MISS DIX I DIX I am the young mother of three small children mar mar- marJ a J nod to a a. man who thinks that If Rives gives his wife ICo Ife plenty of money his duties titles are ended and that she tho should raise tho the children cook excellent food for him pick up his clothes keep them mended entertain often orLen and keep smiling Now F he wants to have hare a room of his own where he S will not be wakened up early by the childrens children's t jabbering J Not once since the babies came has bas he ever offered to take care caro of them and give mo me any Teat rest Being human I reproach him often oCten d s- s for his neglect and toward I me and his reply Is always the same that I II Iwas ads ads- I was wag born unpleasant have a chip on the tho shoulder shoulder 4 seS hIAl der tIer etc and never do anything he likes any any- anyway way We are very unhappy and would like your L a 1 advice R. R R. R Answer r 0 0 Of course It u Is ls selfIsh of your bus hus- husk Siaa band not to lend a helping hand now k E. E a and then In taking care of the ehll- ehll DOROTHY DIX dren but after alter all Mrs R. R that Is I. your job just as much as at making the money to support the home is il his hi job And he takes care of his end of the partnership without expecting you to do his work for him Try to look at the tho problem from that angle la Itt these days of fierce competition in business it takes all of the concentrated effort of which a 0 man is capable to hold his own and when he comes homo home at night ho he is worn out In body and mind and he craves rest and needs It Therefore unless his wife is sick she has no right to superimpose her work upon him and turn him hint Into a nursemaid and a dishwasher Nor unless she Is physically unable to do so go should she make him take care caro of the children at night It Is more Important for the man to have his hi unbroken sleep than It Is II for the woman because his whole success de depends upon his hi going to his hi tasks with a clear mind after alter a good goodnights goodnight's goodnights goodnight's goodnights goodnight's nights night's rest The man who has been up half the night walking a colicky baby or 01 who has gotten gollen up to get water for Mamie cover covel Johnny and see If Sally Is In a draft Is nerve frazzled and peevish and Irritable the next day and In Inthe the frame of mind where he will fight with his partner and Insult his best cus cut customer customer tomer and turn down tho the opportunity that would have made mada his fortune Of course the wife may feel the loss of her sleep just as much as at the man docs does but she doesn't have to make any Important decisions and some time lime during the day she can find time to take a nap whereas the tho man has to be on his bis job all the time lime So I think If It you are a wise woman and want your husband to succeed you will not object to his having haTing his room where he will not be disturbed by the tho children And if your husband makes plenty of money and Is II I gener gener- generous generous ous eus with It It as you cay he Is why dont don't you use some come of It In hiring a servant to help you do the work and take tako care of the children My diagnosis of your case is that you have lose Iou your per per- perspective through being overworked Instead of reproaching your husband with not helping you make him realize that the reason you are Irritable and nagging is because you are worn worn out with lack of sleep and working beyond your strength De- De Believe lIeve me he will bs ba glad to buy domestic peace at th the price of a maid Anyway realize that your husband Is I as he lie is and that you OU have to take Mm him on that basis and make ninke the test Lest of oC him There arc ara men who enjoy enjo taking care of or their children and ami helping with the housework but but- you didn't gel get one of that type But Dut you OU did get a man who is ha a money maker So hire what help you need and antI quit quarreling with him about pushing the perambulator and wiping Johnnys Johnny's nose note Otherwise you will wreck your whole married life DOROTHY DIX I a S C DEAR DEAn flEAR DOROTHY DOn THY DIX DIX I I am ani a girl ot o 18 but my my- mother molher will not let me go out with either girls or boys She says Stay Slay at home and wait walt and your fairy prince will come along some day But Dut I 1 dont don't be be- believe believe lieve In fairy tales Youth Is la when a girl should enjoy herself because when you are married and settled down you cant can't have r f good time lime That Is when your troubles begin Is mother right DISGUSTED Answer These are arc the days of the go getter my child In matrimony as 81 well as business and those who sit at home and suck their thumbs while they wait walt for fairy princes to come snooping around and find them have a mighty poor pOOl chance of ever being discovered Of course a girl shouldn't run after men That Is not only enly coly it Is bad policy because most men like to think they th y are the tho hunt hunt- hunter huntor er or Instead of the hunted But Dut all the same the Ute girl who v. v ho wants to have ha havea haea a good time and plenty of dates dales and eventually to catch a husband has baa hasto to lo keep herself In evidence c and bo be the Sally Men dont don't go out of their way nowadays to seek out the shrinking violet They grab off the sunflower that Is III blooming In their pathway and that they stumble over Therefore I think your mother Is making a great mistake In trying to segregate you from the crowd She should let you yeu go y wh h other girls and boys and have all Of the Innocent pleasure to which you are entitled at 18 But Dut dont don't tako take such a pessimistic view of matrimony If It you marry a nice chap whom you love lovo and who loves you It Isn't the end of or all ot of your good times It Is Just the beginning of or them and you wont won't mind settling down You will be bo glad to and to go about the real business of life fe DOROTHY DIX C S C S S C S DEAR DEAn flEAR MIS II S DIX What DIX What do you jou ou think of bosses who get fresh with I their stenographers I r am only 17 and have only had two bosses but both of them tried to pet and kiss me rae and both of oC these men moon were married men with nice wives and children What Whal should a girl do about It NANCY Answer I think there Is no other thing In the tho world Nancy sadder or sorrier or more sordid than the fact that so many men offer Insults to the girls who work for them that they would kill any other man for offering to their own daughters That That-a a girl goes Into an office or store to earn urn her own liv liv- living livIng ing Is proof of Itself that she Is honest and honorable and that she ehe wants to run straight and it would seem that If a man had one spark of chivalry In I his soul It would be called forth by the spectacle of these frail little soldiers going out so gallantly to fight their battle against the th world d. d One would think that any decent man would do his best to protect them to help them keep their banners unsullied but bitt alas many men consider the I L ne who work for them their legitimate prey pre and some are even base enough to take advantage of ot a girls girl's poverty and her necessity necessity to hold her job to make her ber yield to their advances But dont don't stand for tho the petting potting Nancy The first time your boss tries to lo kiss you ou tell him there is nothing doing you are arc not that sort sor If he has one Iota lota of manhood about him he will respect you the more for refusing him And If he Insists upon petting as 31 part of your duties quit cold It Is better b to lose your Job than your self And there are plenty of employers who are also gentlemen DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |
