| Show I Letter Box l' l ADVICE TO A GIRL OF 17 WHO WANTS TO LEAVE HOME AND HER UNCONGENIAL FAMILY THE SENTIMENTAL GIRL WHO WI-tO PINES TO WRITE DOWN HER FEELINGS FOR A MARRIED MAN WHY EVE WAS TEMPTED INSTEAD OF ADAM DEAR MISS DIX I am 17 years of ago the tho youngest of a family of girls I cannot get along with my family I go for weeks with without out speaking to any of them Do you think it il would be better for me meto meto to leavo home I have e no money but I have a avery very dear lady friend In New York who I. I Iam I am nm c sure would help hell mo me Wont Won't you OU 1 please lease help helpt t me to decide LONESOME Answer t You would certainly do a very foolish thing and one that you would bitterly regret If you ran away from home to escape your uncongenial fame Ily Home may not seem very attractive tive to you now but It would look mighty good to you when you found yourself cold and hungry wandering the streets of a city with no place to tolay tolay lay your head You would find then that there are far worse things than a family that falls fails to appreciate you at what you consider your faIr value DOROTHY DIX And dont don't pin your faith to your lady friend because Its It's one thing to sympathize with II a discontented girl and quite another to undertake that girls girl's support Friendship doesn't go that tar far very often orten Besides what right have you to foIst yourself upon this woman What claim have you upon her or her money or her hos hos- hospitality An untrained girl or of 17 Is utterly Incapable or of making enough m money ney to live upon Some one must teed feed her and clotho her and shelter her herand herand and it only her family who is rolled upon to do thIs Its It's not her privilege privilege lege to inflict herself upon strangers You say that you cannot get along with your family and that you go for days ut speaking This shots sho that you have a morbid disposition which you are carefully Ing and I warn you right now and here that you are preparing a most bitter and unhappy future for For the more you Indulge In the glooms the more they blot out your sun sun- sunshIne shine until finally your life will become just one black welter of despair Happiness comes from within not from without It is I by any condition or In life It emanates from our own souls and If we fill them with dark bilious pessi pessi- thoughts we are going to be miserable and lonely where ever we we are For no one In the world wants to associate with witha a grouchy grumpy melancholy woman Perhaps you and your family are temperamentally antagonistic antagonistic That very often orten happens There are mothers whose chIldren are arc as allen alIen alleno to t o them as if they had picked up their youngsters off of a doorstep Instead of having borne borno them There are sisters rho have havo not one thought or taste in common and I think It Is a wise thing for the different members of such a household to scatter and go and live hive at peace among strangers instead of waging a perpetual battle In their own homes But your time for tor going has not come and will not until you are arc porting In the m meantime try to get along with your family That Is certainly a small price to pay for your food and clothes and so long as you are a guest in your parents parents' home the least you youcan youcan can do is to try to make yourself agreeable Besides which you will be getting a discipline that will stand you in good stead as long as you live For you will al ways have to get along with some one You will have to put up with the of your employer if you go to ork You will have to learn to handle him bins diplomatically and to gIve the soft answer that away wrath if you OU keep your Job and to wear a smile that wont won't come oft off for the young woman who wh-o sulked about the office for tor weeks at a time without speaking to anyone would get fired at the very first exhibition she made of her temper And If you get married you will have to get along with your husband And believe me me no mother and no sisters can be any bossier or more plaIn spoken or trample more roughshod over overall overall all your little pet sensitive plants than can a husband So my dear child take my advice and cheer up Try making yourself agreeable at home and see sea If that plan d doesn't work better with your family than silence A woman who doesn't talk when she is angry is She is likely to explode DOROTHY DIX S 5 S C a DEAlt flEAR DOROTH DIX I am terribly in love with a married married man and I I believe that he loves but I do me not break up any happy home I ani am planning to leave for Florida soon and I want to write this man a few tew love letters and tell telf him oh oh so many lUany things Do you think there will be any harm in my doIng this RUTH nUTH Answer I I. believe there would be plenty of harm In It Ruth and I also think It would be the biggest fool thing you could possibly do Theres There's a perfectly simple rule that tha Is called the Golden Rule which will tell you exactly how to deal with a married man Treat hIm as you would want a girl to treat your bus hus- husband band If you had one If you ou were a married woman would you ou like a pretty young oun girl sIrl to write love lo letters to your husband Would It make you happy to find a lot of slush slushy gush notes in his pockets And no matter how much he denied that he hall had done noticing to them would you yu believe him Wouldn't it make you OU Just a little bit suspicious auspicious of hh him 11 Well then do as you would be done by Dont Don't kill any womans woman's faith In her husband and dont don't keep the poor husband hustling trying to think up an alibi Above all an consider what a ridiculous position put yourself in if you write thIs married man oh oh so much sentimental telling him how you love him and how bow your our heart is broken because a cruel fate has built n a barrIer between you and a lot of other nonsensical rot Think how he will laugh over over It and how he will show It around to other men to prove what a devil he Is Is' among the women and how they will chuckle over it and what a contempt they will have for you and what a little sentimental idiot they will think you are for not having sense enough to keep from slopping all over a ream of paper Dont Don't do it It my child It is bad enough to write love letters to the man you ou are engaged to to but to write love lovo letters to a marrIed man you are leaving forever Is utter Imbecility DOROTHY DIX C C C C S DEAR flEAR MISS 1 Why DIX did God choose Eve and not Adam to be the U first to know good from evil There was a reason reason-a vital and reason you women must stop and think The truth Is there and simple it- it you women will look for tor Jt It B. B G. G T. T 1 Answer I have pondered deeply over your question Mr B. B G. G T. T but r I have gained no light on the subject Its It's as much of an In mystery as why the serpent was sent to tempt Eve Personally I have alwa always s 's had a great respect for Eve as the first original investigator and have been very proud of my because she was so keen for knowledge ledge that she risked paradIse to get It My guess Is that the reason why the serpent came to Eve Instead of Adam was because she needed the Inside Information It could give more than he did It takes so much more knowl edge and subtlety to manage a husband than It does to manage manago a wife DOROTHY DIX CopyrIght b by Public Ledger |
