Show I Dorothy D rothy o Dixs Dix's tx's Letter Box ox I ITHE I THE Nt NESS SCHOOL S WORLD TEACHER ACHER WHOSE MOTHER BELIEVES THE BUSI BUSL BUSINESS DANGEROUSLY FULL ULL OF MEN WHAT CON CON- CONVERSATIONAL LINE ATTRACTS BOYS THE BEST WAY TO TREAT A RUNAWAY FATHER D r HAR AR MISS HISS DIX DIX I I am nearly 30 years old oM and have bave never done any an work work except teach school I hold only a second second-grado certificate so i usually set get term short schools often In undesirable places I do donot donot donot not expect to become a first class teacher and so I thought of ot taking a business course as I am good la In spelling and arithmetic My Iy mother has bas always alwa's objected to my going into business because In an office girls are usually associated associated associated with men Would you advise me to take the business course CAROLINE E Answer I certainly would At t 30 you arc are too old to begin I the long college course that you jou OU would have to take In order to command a fine salary as a teacher but I l you OU are arc Just the right age to become an efficient of of- office S flee fice woman You are past the foolish Coolish flapper lapper stage rt and are ready to settle down and put your our mind andt and OC-I OC t r your TOW heart and your our back bak Into your our work ou Your mothers mother's objections to your going Into an office because yd r would be associated with men Is le a foolish one Wherever you go you will meet men and men are no more dangerous In an office than they are on the street or In a ballroom Indeed they are far Car less so for during business hours a mans man's mind Is not occupied with making love but with money He Isn't chasing petticoats He lie is pursuing the almighty dollar He Ill Is not pos pos- posing posIng posing ing as a sheik He lie is too busy trying to hold down his Job Probably there Is le no other plate place In the world where there Is as little flirtation and where sex cuts as little figure as It does In a business house where men and women work side by side Most of the lurid pictures and stories about employers who make love to their secretaries and seek to lead them astray are pure fiction f nine Ninety bosses out of a hundred are more Interested In their stenographers stenographer's spelling than they are in their eyes and never think of them except as part of the office machine So your mother can put side her Victorian mid apprehensions alone about the dangers you will encounter In an office They are negligible Business offers a woman oman every eyer opportunity that it does to a man and on the same terms which are work intelligence faithfulness en en- Make yourself an expert Do not count the hours you you have to work Put plenty of pep Into everything you do and you cannot fall DOROTHY DIX DEAR D EAR DOROTHY DIX When DIX When a girl goes out for the first time with witha a young man should she talk to him about herself Should she tell him she has bas lots of boy friends and dates and try to make him think she Is popular or should she say that she Is lonesome and doesn't go out much CURIOUS Answer She shouldn't do any of these things If she ever expects to see the young man again I can think of no more fatal line of conversation that she hand out In the first place no young oung man wants ants to hear a girl monologue about herself hersel No other human being except your own mother wants to hear fill ell the commonplace details about your uneventful life lICe or Is interested In the small chronicles of your our dally life Whether you drive a car how many holes you OU made at golf and what you ou like on the radio and the particulars of the dance you went to and the good time you ou had bore a stranger to tears Can your private private private vate affairs and put the tho loud pedal on the man Fish around until you ou find out what he Is Js interested in and then ask him to tell you the story of his life lICe and get him to talking about himself if It you want to really Interest him Never brag to one man about other men Never boast of your conquests Never Intimate that this one is crazy about you and that you could marry that one It gives him cold feet and scares him off for he Is suspicious that the next time you tell the story you will pretend that you have got his scalp at your belt and he has no mind to have you glorify yourself at his expense Never think that you can get a man by appealing to his sympathy for you as a poor peor forlorn neglected girl that all the other men have passed over Nothing would drive him away quicker Men are like Ilke sheep where women are concerned They follow the leader and flock around the girls that other men are flocking around Also the less you run after men the more they will wll run after you and the best beet attitude to take Is one of cordiality but not of humility When a boy shows you jou OU attentions accept them with appreciation but hut dont don't execute of gratitude Act as if you were pleased but not overwhelmed DOROTHY DIX EAR MISS 1 DIX DIX About About a II year ear ago when my sister and I had Just DEAR D about forgotten the father who deserted us when we were small we received a letter from him He did not write as a sinner but as one who had never done wrong lie Is in Europe where he has bas been cultivating his mind while mother has been working her fingers to the bone to keep us alive But he say he ho is now miserable ayrl un un- unhappy unhappy unhappy happy and wants to lo get in touch with his children What would you write him TROUBLED SIXTEEN Answer I should u write lt him that as long as he had failed In his duty I to me I considered that I had no duty to him I think that a aman aman aman man who deserts his little children Is the greatest dastard on onearth onearth onearth earth and I should refuse to have anything to do with him I have known many cases of oC fathers who have e gone away and anI left len their helpless little children to fend for themselves when they were mere babies left them to know all nil the hardships and struggles of pov pov- poverty poverty erty ert and be denied denle l the education a father er should give gl them And I have known these same men to come back old and broken are diseased for their children to support And I think the children are foolish and weak to do it it DOROTHY DIX I Copyright by Public Ledger Company I |