Show LI Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Boxi Box Box I THE DESPERATE ATE WIFE WHOSE TYRANT HUSBAND RULES HER HEI LIFE i INSPIRIT WHY CANT CAN'T t NT THE MIDDLE AGED MAN YOUNG IN SPIRIT BE HAPPILY MARRIED TO A YOUNG YOUNG- GIRL SHALL SHE WAIT OR MARRY HER DOCTOR FIANCE NOW DEAR D EAR MISS DIX My DIX My husband and I are ar always quarreling and hla ht contention Is ls that h he is s always T right because he I le Is a man No Now I shaH S all let ou decide whether he be Is rIght or not I am expected to do as he says rays In all thIngs He expects expect me to work as 88 hard bard as s he h does al 4 though I am In 10 poor health Ile He II will not take tak me meto ne t to places of ot amusement that I enjoy but I must go e 4 with him wherever he be b wants want to go I must take care ot of o him when he ho Is sick but he doe does not take care ot o me when I am sIck tick lie II doesn't want me n to read any books book because he says that a woman should spend her time In taking care car of ot her husband and home borne He think 4 h he should b be allowed to flirt with women because i h ho he Is a a man and that I 1 hould not resent It ft II lIe says ay that I shouldn't have friends because they put 4 evil in my head He lie thinks my money should all be b bin I in Bis lIs account and It Jr I 1 dont don't give It to him bin I dont don't LI trust him He feels feel that he h could live Use just as well 1011 without VL UL ULme me A DESPERATE WIFE IFE Answer Well I should think you would feel that you could live livo mighty comfortably without that kind of a husband Th The code o ot of conduct that he h has baa drawn up for you and to which he expects ou to subscribe belongs to lo the dark ages ies when elves were slaves It has ha no place In la this enlightened age when women are tree flee and husbands and wives wl are equal partners I should say lilY that your husband was wrong In every sin sin- single sin single gle gie solitary particular In the tho th first place the tho th mere fact of his having been born a man didn't endow end w him hl n with supernatural wisdom Some Somo Som of the tho th biggest fools alive are ar strutting around In pants and generally speaking women have Just as much sense as men and are quite as apt to be correct In their con con- conclusions con conclusions No woman Is under any obligation on to obey her husband husband Even Eyen the church has hi recognized that and has taken the Ur obey out ot of o the marriage ceremony Husbands and wives wires should talk things over and agree together on what Is the best be t thing thine to do A woman who loves lovs her husband will naturally want to todo todo todo do the th things thing he wants her to do whenever he Is reasonable but a wife Is under no more obligation to obey her husband huband arbitrarily than he Is to obey her Probably every wife does make more sacrifices sacrifice ot of her tastes and Inclinations and gives elves to her husband nor more personal service than he does to her She takes take more trouble to amuse amuso him and go to with him to tho the places ho he wants to go CO to and she h nurses him with her own hands when he Is sick tick while he be sends send a nurse nurs In to take care ot of o her But this Is a matter of convenience because a mans man's man busi busi- business business ness occupies his time and because women like Ilk to pet and cuddle their husbands husbands- However wives do it ot oP their Grace arace not because of Its Ita being their duty As for your husband not wanting you to read or have any friends nd that shows how unintelligent nt he h Is He should know that the woman who never reads grows crows dull and stupid and narrow and prejudiced and nagging and that the woman who has no human contacts contact but who lives lI live shut up within the walls of at her own house becomes morbid and fault and an impossible person to live e with It Is the th reading women and the tha women who go about and have hav a good rood time who bring brine back freshness and good cheer to their own firesides As for your husband demanding that you turn over all of yur money to him that Is a sure sign that you ou need to hangI hang I to It with a death grip for a good husband wants his wife to have the sense of freedom that the possession of her own little bank account gives her DOROTHY DIX S 0 a a e eD EA MISS Do DIX DIX Do you think that a man who ho Is Th only old In DEAR D calendar years should be b relegated to the fireside class and not permitted to marry a young girl Dont Don't you think that differences In calendar calendar- years Is a bygone Issue In these thee the times ot of o ours Which makes the better husband the older or the th younger man with with ever thing else equal except age ace H H W Answer r In a way It Is foolish to measure age af by the number of ot birth birth- birthdays birthday days das day one on has baa celebrated Age AEe Ac Is largely a matter of at temperament and there are men and women who are ar born old and others whose birthright Is youth W We all know boys and girls Iris who are absolutely senile and octogenarians octogenarian who are still sUll rollicking lads and lassies But speaking by and large the passing of the years brings certaIn changes to most of us changes of the spirit as well as of the th body We may not be aware of these thes changes We W may delude ourselves Into thinking that we w have not altered that we are ar Just as strong as a we were at 20 that we see things In the th same sam light tight that our appetites appetite are as a keen and our enjoyment of everything brings bring us the th same cam thrills but this Is not true Something intangible has haa ha happened to us Somehow somewhere our feet of the dances ar are weary and the music has ha dropped from the th song Th The years year have tak taken their toll toil of us u This Thi Is why It Is a dangerous thing for the middle aged man to marry a very ery young girl cirl And the tho danger Is one on that Increases with every year ear For the th man who Is I In his prime prim at 45 or 50 may not be such an unsuitable mate mato tor for the th girl Irl ot of 20 but what what- tort sort ot of a husband will he be for tor her when she sh is In her prime and aud lie be h has reached a state ot of doddering senility We W cannot stop top the relentless march of ot the th black oxen who tram tram tram-pi plo pIe out the th years year and they go co with such uch terrible swiftness after alter one an has passed th tIle the century halt mark If we w could eliminate these thOle awful calendar years the old eld elder er man would make a far better husband than the th young man because the th man enan of 45 or 50 SO has acquired tact and wisdom and patience learned about women from many woo wo wo-mn wo men and nd would know far better how to manage a wife and get along alona with her In peace and comfort than a boy would DOROTHY DIX S S S S SD SEAR EAR r EAR MISS dISS DIX I DIX I am a girl of o 20 enga engaged ed to a young doctor who who J DEAR D Is I In his hi first year as a a practicing physician and is working hard to make good tood lie He H wants want to wait walt until he has ha established himself be before fore we w marry but my say opinion I Is that now Is th the time when Ihen he needs me m most Please Pleas advise me BROWN SHOWN EYES Answer Anwer I think that you can help your sweetheart far more mor by waiting than you can by rushing him Into matrimony before bf reh he can afford It A A young doctor starting out to build up a ft practice needs to be befree befree free ot of all entanglements and to have hav nothing on his mind but his patients And It if you really rea love lov him and want to be b of ot assistance to 1 him leave him free tree Dont Don't burden him down with a family and debts debt 1 And if you think you yu have hav It in you yu to InspIre him Just remember that your ability to do that Is I not lessened l ss ned by your not being married to him On the th contrary It Is I strengthened for marrying you y u will be b the th coal to t which ho he h will work w rk forward DOROTHY DOROTHT DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |