Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box BoxI Box TH THE GIRL WHOSE FIANCE IS NEVER SATISFIED WITH LESS THE BEST WHICH GIRL SHALL HE MARRY HOW TO BE A POPULAR MOTHER IN LAW EAR r EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am engaged to be bo married to a oung man ho bo DEAR D I think thinks think too much of appearances lie He will not Dot go co to the theatre for tor weeks wees at nt a tIme timo so 80 o as to SS sale e 0 money until he h can have havo havethe the tho best bost seats seala seat His ills eats at but bus his clothes from the the smartest shops Ito IIo Is I a aas anas a- a ana nas as na s tring to cop the Iho ways was wai and manners of ol people I In a higher luher rank than ours oura our I think Its It's foolIsh and we are aiwas alwa arguing about It because he h lints mo me to do the same way ho does What Shat do ou think c 1 C Answer Why I would either break off the en engagement engagement engagement or else els get ready to din din- with my young man For he h Is going to the top of the ladder Any young chap who wh has ha got the grit grat jl 1 of self denial to do without what he wants at atthe ati ati i 3 the e moment to get something better In the ic r future Is going to have the things he wants in the run I i DL DIX DL Ho lie has vision and sees tees the prize ahead of o him Ho He 1 s where he Is la going 1 01 n 1 and he is on his hi way ay and he be Is fitting himself for It as ho he goes gocs along alone because ho he is learning He Is akine nhat ehat hat th the hae ha o e to give from e eel e el embody body he meets And Its It's a neat gleat talent to be bo able abl ble to do that It seems teems foolish to you for your yur sweetheart not to be will will- willIng willing ing to take a back seat at the theatre but its it's the men who are willing to work and walt wait for the front seats in life Iff who get They refuse to compromise on a third best or a second best and to be satisfied with It and they are the real go get d te rs And dont don't undervalue clothes Mabel Somebody said that clothes do not not- make malte the th man Perhaps not but the gh ehe gie e ou a II mans man's man num- num num-L num il r ber her A kind heart does often otten beat under a shabby coit t and a brIlliant brain function beneath a battered old hat but ninety nine nille times out of ofa ofa ofa a hundred It wouldn't be safe sate to lend either cither one money If it sou ou expected e e to bet it back For shabbiness is the hallmark of efficiency The Ulan man who doesn't know how bow to dress himself and ho Is out at elbows and needs pressing and cleaning and general fi fixing mg up Is nearly al a s lazy and shiftless The spick and span man the well dressed man the man who knows know what to t wear and how to wear it t IS i the man to tie to and Id I'd put my mondy mony mon y any day on the young toung chap who will punish his stomach for the sake of his back DOROTHY DIXe DIX e S e S e SD SEAR EAR MISS There DIX DIX There are two to girls cirl I marry and I cannot J DEAlt D choose choos between them Both are prett well nell educated attractive girls equally desirable from every point of ot lc lebut le but one of o them I think is more amiable and pleasant to get eel along alone with than th the other Which one would lou ou choose it If ou wel e in my ray place SAM T f McC J JI Answer I I t marry either unless I had more of an urge to toward ward matrimony than you seem to have When you are arc mar mar- married married ried ned ou are married a long long lona time and it seems longer unless you are very much In love with the one to whom you are united in the holy bonds of which matrimony matrimony which are apt tos to fi s be gal galling long if f they are ar not padd padded d with a deep d ep personal attraction attraction tion toward your Generally speaking however the lh greatest harm charm that any omon can have after marriage marring is amiability Beauty l palls halls alls upon the tile s eif-s of the beholder Wit dulls in but wo e c never weary eary of th the s tranquil disposition which is like oil on upon the troubled waters if f family life The best loved wives are not those thos who have really done the most for men who have worked the hardest for them and who have helped them to realize their ambitions The adored wives arc are the placid women who are arc nervous and out of sorts who never nag or lecture or fret but to whom a man can go gc home sure of rest and peace The most 10 loed ed moll rs irs are an not the mothers who ho ho most for fot their children and who ho make mae of their hard worked Hrkel shoulders a ltd hel liddel dEl on CD which their children climb to success The mother soother whorl whon chil chit children children dren worship is the gentle sweet s mother who ho ho never scolded who ho neer ne had spells of o who ho had no nen neres es or temper they had bad to sidestep It is the mother on whose hose quiet breast they could sob out theIr childish sorrows sorro S and come into a bat bor safE sate from all outside storms ll the cleanest 1 The happiest homes are not those which are the most orderly the best kept They are those in which a natured woman and spreads about her her J happy good reigns own aurora of peace and good will In an old New England graveyard I once saw this Inscription Inscription Inscription tion on a tomb over a womans woman's grave She was so pleasant There could be epitaph for a woman and wise is the theman theman theman man who chooses such a woman for a t wife DOROTHY DIXS DIX S e S e S e S e eDEAR SD SEAR EAR T EAR MISS M DIX My DIX My son is going colne to be b and it Is absolutely DEAR D necessary ar that I should Ine e with him and hIs bis wife nife How ITow can I get s Ion with my daughter in law lass DISTRESSED r-n r MOTHER Answer By remembering that you are a guest and conducting your I self accordingly A guest does everything in on her hec het power to make makeI herself agreeable to her hostess and to give as little litti trouble I f as possible And she never never never no matter mitter how much she is tempted to do so offers any criticism or suggestions about how her hostess manages manage her household or what she sh spends or where she goes or what she the does Also a discreet eue gue t spends part of her time lime in her ber own room so as to give lT her hostess and her hr husband an opportunity to have hae the at conversation thit th every Cry nd and wife wire mid and especially eHry oun oung husband and wile wife desire If you can only make up your mind to be as a polite to your daughter in law as you would to any stranger you are visiting t f ey you will have no trouble getting along with her DOROTHY DIX COP right 1923 b by Ledger Company |