Show Box I I Dorothy Dixs Letter THE GIRL WHO HATES TO SEE HER FIANCE SMOKING SHOULD A MOTHER CHOOSE HER DAUGHTERS DAUGHTER'S HUSBAND THE FARMERS FARMER'S SON WHOSE FIANCE WONT WON'T LIVE IN THE COUNTRY DOROTHY DIX l DIX I am engaged to a young man whom I love DEAR BEAR D very much and who seems to I made him promise to atop smoking and he be did for tor quite a while But tho the other evening wo we went wen to a dance and while we were sitting Bitting Among our ourI ou I crowd and all the other boys bo a s were smoking he cool coolly coo ly Iy brought out a cigarette case filled tilled with cigarettes cigarette t and lighted one I didn't apak to him the latter latte latterI I was so angry part of the evening and he has not been to see me mea m I- I Whenever he be gets angry he be nearly always HI since the making Must I make a r H stays away until I do up jd H UP lip IP with him the first time I hue hae ha e a chance or walt wait wal R rf HB i for lor him to make up with me e and promise once more mor SOMEBODY SAD 1 J to quit smoking Hr f i Inasmuch Answer as you are entirely i la Ie the wrong you CyS c should be the one to make the overtures toward a reconciliation re- re reconciliation re- re f conciliation You are Sic wrong because you had no right B z to force him to you to quit smoking because yo happen to have a foolish prejudice against It 1 1 DL u Of course courle smoking a vice If f It ItIs ItIs ItI does dou water drinking so 10 Is carried to excess So does eating to so does exercise so does doc every good thing Bu But the most mOlt learned and those who have given the greatest study to the scIentists effect of the use of tobacco on the human system are agreed smoking In moderation Is H harmless and often beneficial that find out first to sacrifice a pleasure So before you ask ak a man If you are Justified in depriving him of It It smoking They re- re resent reseat re resent about I know that many women feel eel as iou ou do tobacco that they might spend the that a man spends on sent seat money on bead chains or chocolate creams They Thoy get peeved over dropped ashes and cigarette stubs and burned matches Some women dont don't smoke and it gets gets on the nerves of ot other otherl p like the smell of tobacco l women to see their husbands placidly smoking and enjoying something tn in which they base ha e no p rt An anti ant tobacco wife will fight with her husband every day his without any result except Irritating for forty years year over pipe ing him hm and alienating him from frem her And this poor foolish narrow woman cant can't see ec that something Infinitely more Important tant than tobacco goes up in smoke and that is the peace of ef the home While she doesn't break him of the th tobacco habit she he does break him of the habit of ef loving her Believe me my dear girl women make a great mistake when they try to force their petty tyrannies on men and when they make men give up doing the Innocent little things they like The wise woman Interferes as little as al possible with a aman's anian's amans aman's mans nian's tastes and habits She gives him large liberty and as al a consequence he does not have to lie to her nor deceive her DOROTHY DIX C CD CEAR EAR MISS Do DIX DIX Do ou think that a mother should choose her herU DEAR D daughter daughters s a husband My mother molher refuses to let me marry the man manI manI I lose lo 10 e simply because he Is not rich She says she does not want to have as hard a time as she did I do not desire wealth and I I like to work Do you not think that thal my mother Is wrong PUZZLED I Answer br I certainly do If a mother knows that her daughter IS going to marry an Immoral a dissipated or a lazy man she does dees right to do everything in her power to break off the match but there her right of veto ends If a young man Is II upright and In- In Industrious In Industrious and has some settled way of making a living his hll lack of ef money Is no drawback to him Most of the middle-aged middle wo we- wo- wo women women men who are rolling around In limousines with real pearls around their fat necks were poor girls who married poor boys and began housekeeping with a handful of furniture In two rooms And nine of these multi out of ten will 1 tell teU you oa on that the happiest time of o their thea Is not now when they have an English butler to pass them a slice of gluten bread and a bit of o lean meat but the da das dais s when they did their own awn cooking and sewing and baby tending and watched for John who Is no now no the head bead ot of a trust trust to come back w ith his from the mill or the factory It Is natural that the mother who has had to work ork ork hard and pinch and economize and who sho saw hei hel own romance killed long ago by bythe bythe bythe the struggle to lo make ends meet In a family where the husband had hadnot hadnot hadnot not the gift for money making would feel that she could not bear to see her daughter risk such a fate and would try to save her from rom It her But she forgets or perhaps she does not know that money does dees not buy happiness and that a woman weman can be hungrier for leve iove than she can be for bread and aid that her soul can go In rags raga while her be body Is clothed In silk and velvet And after all the happy marriage is not a matter of ef good Judgment or of ef material compensation It is purely a matter of Inclination of taste The husband or er wife who suits us UI whO answers our every need Is II the one for us and no ethe other human being can Judge that for us The one who has to live with the husband or er wife surely should have hilve the privilege of ef doing the picking DOROTHY DIX S S S S S SD SEAR DEAR D EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am the tho son ot of a very prosperous farmer and havee have have e ery e cry ery chance of ot making good on a acre farm I I am engaged to a girl whom I love very much but bhe she says I I must quit the farm and come to town to live I I do not know any way of making a living except farming and If It I go to town I will not be able to for her as well as it if t I stayed on an the farm I think the girl will break the engagement rather than live 1 In tho the country What shall Ida I do T L Answer If the airl really loves you and has any conception of the duties of cf a wife she will go where your interest lies lIos The man manIs manIs la Is the bread breadwinner winner and a woman who Is a a good wife and a good sport will follow his fortunes even If It leads him Into foreign lands land and places place where the living I Is hard is You ask 50 d cl such sacrifice of ot your fiancee You offer otter her a life Ufe at which nine women out ot of ten would jump lump and If It she has such poor a poor and shallow mind that she he prefers the silly diversions ot of a town tawn to y you U and a good country country home I should say she would be small loss Dont Don't on t risk your Mure fr mr her DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 by Public 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