Show f D 9 Why Ps That Whether 1 Consciously r Not They Are Often ff t J Really Anxious T Be Rid f j e Valuable Ornaments Which t R I w t F Have Acquired Un lean X V yH as r l r rr ol x ant Associations r i iv v o yi I t tr r t V 0 Ys t tp Y s F 4 r r aP aPa t tv y v vv a ar ar ac r c p tf ra a v 4 1 x a r SR a A 1 eMA n eM 7 r t i M e ea r j js jt E s t t se Y Yd Ya a aL at sf d L t e n f t tut ut aP a e gP f fsr sr erg a aFan Fan mss s g gc t ry The for e fie c h s 3 aN r 1 Y s Fa rY k r rd w Mrs d mu almu 5 d dw w r al- al Enrico YI 1 g We rr Y x l q I who t x C Cor Wt a da r e fortune m jewels short short- y e ee 7 after her fist r and was never Q mke sure whether they were sto en or ahe 1 r r carelessly had mislaid them t tet et ete x rip f e r a u s S k By Professor Ernest R Groies Of Boston University t t f A a ll s ff j 1 VERY newspaper reader knows know j I I EVERY the startling frequency with which women women the jewel lovers lovers lose their jewelry Men do not lose their watches w and pocketbooks nearly so eo often Yet women are arc fascinated by jewels the colonels colonel's lady and nd Judy OGrady are alike In their ecstasy over glowing glOW gems We hear bear of women who care more for Jewel jewel- jewelry jewelry ry than for anything else in the world Then why do women so often orten lose Jew dry elry Is it just part of the mysterIous feminine femmine character to fling away ab- ab absentmindedly absentmindedly ones one's most precious posses posses- possessions slOna Sion The jewel a woman wears becomes for rr her a charm to which she imputes super super- supernatural supernatural supernatural natural qualities similar to t the magical properties with mth which the savage endows endow his amulets Far beyond its intrinsic I beauty the jewel must enhance its wear wear- wearers wearer's wearer's ers er's power to compel admiration When a woman sees seen herself at a dISadvantage outshone or humiliated she shifts the blame to her ally aDy the jewel Either the jewel is less powerful powe DI than slip had bad supposed or it la is unfriendly to t her The woman of today day abhorrent of o I superstition tries to push these notions notion out oot of her but every unpleasant ex- ex pe ienco that she has hils shared with the lewd Jewel looms looma large dwarfing its 13 happier assOCIatIons Unconsciously she may ma wish to lose the jewel so as 03 to have a pretext pretest for getting a new one in lU its place The new jewel has bas no DO unpleasant asso- asso association it promises everything the old olione one denied Yet It it too will w U soon be old and aud will have bave acquired memories both bothI hot I pleasant and unpleasant How ow can cau II a woman guard against accidentally losing losin the second Jewel as she lo lost t the first Can AIn she ahe control her unconscious mind so that it will not dislike and get rid of all her jewelry Just lust as soon as s a ft waman unravels caravels the thread of emotions and thoughts that led to her unconscious hatred of first jewel she is 15 ina in a position to prevent a repetItIon of this happening happen g She will see that the feelings and ideas which she pushed out of her consciousness a because she did not approve of them are arc drawn the experience o of mankind through the he ages and are dangerous only when they are unconscious We all an lose objects given us by byone one ae WIth whom oar relations relation hove have become strained When a gift is lost last or broken the donor Is ap apt to take tako it as a personal slight Every one iscon is con conscious of thIS and tries to take especially good care ot of anything gwen given hun him by one whose who good goodwIll goodwill wIll be bo wants to keep epp even eVeD thou though h he Imay may dislike the gilt gift itself If It any anyone one oae wants to keep the good will wiIl of the person who made a gift merely be he thinks thinks it politic to do so t rather than because he respects the give e he is 15 very unlikely to succeed in taking g 4 good care can of the present His n scions feeling fading of ot disrespect if is apt to V snatch the tho first fast opportunity of g what it thinks think of the one who made the th o gift by breaking or toeing losing lo ung the object When we ve-oo ve Do longer care can to protect the t ta fl be I a feelings of the per per per- son Eon Yo who ho made us a present we gr grow grow w wear F ear careless e 1 e s s in our treatment of his j gift gilt half hop- hop hoping mg ing to destroy r I it if in m order to i i affront him h Ii i f m E jS even though it y m-iy m be an ar ars ar- ar W s ir tide of value and beauty l t This accounts 1 for some of the flost t h f Je jewelry elry f- f 4 lost by women V V fr s We 1 I lose o 0 s o a things ob- ob tamed under circumstances of which wi wido wido do not like to t be reminded The very artIcle we coveted becomes odious in our sight because every time our e eyes es fallon fall fallon fallon on it we are arp forced to recall the lengths to t which we WI went to gain possession of it It is possible that a woman might dis- dis discreetly dis discreetly encourage a man in the belief that he filled an important niche in her herl life l e when the importance of his niche was actually measured by her in terms of the value o of the th the gems ho he laid at her feet It is certain that many a woman oman in rn inveigles her ller fiance or her husband into bUYing for her jewels far more sump Bump sumptuous sumptuous than he can tan afford Later when she has found the charm of the jewels je somewhat less les potent than she had um Im- Im Imagined ao ned she is us able abl to free herself par par- partially par partially from their sway but only to become be- be become be become come a pr pry prey y to remorse over having rated insensate ow jewelry above hearts and lives She encountering the blazing blazin rays mys of tier per her dearly bought jewels and at last may find fund that she can caD restore her peace of mind only by banishing from her sight aught the turncoat gems ems This is not t clearly thought out it IS i subconscious reasoning barely guessed at by the conscious mind but it suffices for r the subconscious is a adept at getting rid nd of things It gets us to 1 drop fragile articles which it dISlikes d if likes it makes us u mislay displeasing mg things where we can cannot not find them again agam it lles to it that we w neglect the pets that are given gwen to us by b same one whom we do not like and It dexterously loses what it will w LIn In the he case ease of the women who whose e jewels torment them by speaking of their folly foil the tho subconscious comes promptly to the th rescue and loses loea the th once-loved once jewels The conscious mind then picks up the theban ban ball of action registers sorrow Borrow over the loss of the precious stones and proceeds to advertise for the lot loit jewelry This conscious program is a m self inflicted pen pen- penance pen pennee sues ance nee which the person is us glad to pay pa once she the is ss nd rid of the trouble maker malcer A woman stood on a wharf awaIting the steamer that was to take her homo home at the end of her summer vacation She Sho was twirling the ring on en her a finger finger iring ring which had hid been brAl given her when hen she shwas was graduated from high school On the Inner side of it was engraved the tho data dato of her graduation and the school initials j J X y it 0 a P l y yit U s 's w ew a e t i ft 1 sd r ig tr- tr 1 I Jp x e f e er r p n t trI I if n r r rn f k t tyl f W r I Countess formerly Miss Gladys l f and her husband searching a k to V v the streets of Newport for fora a J 1 i vw d 1 necklace which Ji g f believes the countess in her subconscious mind may r have wanted to la laze e Y Yla's las la's Mss Miss Ruth Thomas who as 4 recently left worth of jewels in ina a New NewYork ae aey y sM Ari q York taxicab taxicab another another possible case of what PJ y a V y y psychology dentally on calls purpose aci acci dif a m z It y i t ta a P h Re r c r ra w w a over Impatient Impatient over the late latea late late- lateness a s ness De s of 01 the ilie I bollt a she nervously slid 5 the ring up and down downe e sc her finger an stamped her foot In vexation The ring slipped rom from her hands rolled over the rough floor finer flooring ing mg and fell through a wide crack into the sea aea Perturbed over 10 losing ng the ring that had bad been a gift from her father this woman was wu at the same time surprIsed to t find herself swept by a wave of dabon cia ela lion In talking the matter over later WIth WItha a psychologist a she ho m u Y Mn Mrs Frank FrankC FranC C C Henderson and some ome of the jewels jewe which co- co according a cording to the newest psychological theory she might be subconsciously glad to part with wilh laying bare ban the cause canse of of t this odd mixture of grief and joy joy On the point as s she hoped of becoming becom- becom becomIng Ing engaged to be bo married she was In mortal terror lest the man who was in- in interested in her should learn her age ag This ring rung with its date date represented the th only clew clow she could not hide since loyal loyal- loyalty loyalty ty to her father forced fore her always to wear ear It it The accidental losing o of the ring brought great relief by freeing her from the hateful ornament without lay lay- lay by laying mg ing her open to blame But what of the jewels which a 4 woman purchases for herself out of money whIch she will never ml miss or those which are given her by one who can as well af- af afford afford af afford ford to make the g gift t as she to accept It These are arc o often ten rep reported among the mIss mIss- miss missing mg ing Why It is in the very nature of jewels that that no matter how acquired they shall bethe bethe be the objects both of love and of hatred or fear A jewel is more than han a decoration decora decora- decoration tion it is an amulet a sort of charm I It attracts peo people le to the one who a ho wears it Envy a admiration fascination follow follow fol- fol follow low her She carelessly ly displays a a sym sym- symbol symbol bol of power a badge of beauty B But t a woman expects more than this from her Jewel It must most help her to win WID the envy of her bitterest rival the ad- ad admIratIon ad admiration of her most critical acquaint acquaint- acquaintance acquaintance ance autt the fervent adoration of whomsoever ever ner she w wilL will L If It it fail her ber in ID one jot of the demands sire she has made of it she holds this against the Jewel When she succeeds she takes the credit cre lit when she meets failure she feels that her Jewel has bas played her false So long as tho Ole jewelry is new and and un- un un no untried tried believes it will wm bring her elegance e distinction the power to t in inspire spire love She is like the savage who strings about his neck nt the seeds Ids of certain COT COT- COTtain tain plants a rabbits rabbit's foot an antelopes antelope's tooth with tufts of monkeys monkey's hair and carefully cut cat shoes dices of 01 special roots roots m inthe the belief that they will ward off disease dJS male make him victorious in ID combat and tom corn pd pel every everyone one to t be pleased with him hum no matter what lie ho docs does When the savage thinks one of 01 hIS charms does docs not work he throws it away Here cre also the woman of 01 today day t day is follow follow- following following 1 ing in m his footsteps for when she sho feels feds that one ono of 1 her Jewels is not aiding her ber as she had bad expected e she discards it by accidentally losing It it Accidentally on purpose is the home home- homeI homely I ly Iy saying that covers this sort of union union- unconscious u II I CIOUS action whose result will be pleas pleas- pleasing ing mg to the conscious personality even though the person hates to admit hIs pleasure It is common knowledge that we do donot donot donot not forget valuable things where wd we donot do clo donot not wish to return If a guest leaven leave some of her personal belongings behind we say She wants to como come again It ItIS Itis Itis IS also LIso true tint thit th t we never lose what we value highly other things being equal and whatever wh we lose we usually do not I want Whoever heard of a woman losing a anew anew anew new ring or necklace While it is new aI I she wants to keep It it But as it becomes I I associated with disagreeable happenIngs It becomes a symbol of unhappiness mess It represents the past and the present present-Is present both attractive and repulsive e The Ther r 1 woman wants it she also wants wanti to be berId berid berid rId of It it though she ahe docs does not recognize I that fact Then she forgets it like the thesal r sal 83 are age who throws away the charm that does not work A most matte matter fact fact woman who i makes a fetish of her emancipation from feminine weakness maintains that she is strangely affected by precious stones She feels that they exercise a strong in fn o over her different stones of the same sort tort showing widely varying per per- per ller- personalities to which she responds It so 0 happens that this particular young woman is unable to bo dl distinguish tn valuable gems from mediocre imitations but this does docs not shake her belief in m the natural super attributes of true jewels SUper I 1 If It your w wife e keeps keep losing her wedding ring while on the honeymoon you ou must look to t your orange blossoms or your marItal happiness will be indeed short short- By absentmindedly ridding her her- her herself self Belt of the ring that symbolizes herI leer her I union with her mate she expresses the that she hc were again agam living l e a single r rw w 1 J |