Show 1 l why we behave like human beings 1 bj B GEORGE DORSEY ab D LL UD D why men dont understand women THE HE newborn neNi born is a loaded stimulus astl ill 1 is for parents and community ti the ie nature of 0 the load it blidge will III vary with the BOX of the child the girl runy may bp be as welcome as the boy but tie the fact of girl or of hoy boy colors the for tile developing child suppose there are twins d a boy and a girl each may seem to face tile the same saine sHut si mation tion lay jay after duy day but as society la Is constituted each faces a different situation tile the slater sister makes certain appeals because she Is it a female lite hoy bov because lie Is a male certain erti ln modes of behavior tire are expected because you yoli are a boy quite different responses are expected because you title nie a girl As aa a C conae before they have a verbalized bolin flor they have acquired the manual and emotional habits expected of bog and alid garla the girl has no inherent impulse to play with ith dolls and mud vic or ar to wear earls curls dresses shoes necklaces earrings carr lus nor has lite boy for drums and other noisemaking machinery or for short hair and pants the girl Is molded to make wom only responses the hie boy to behave litte like a little man boys are conditioned to fice face one world girls to face another the two sexes do not see alike because their eyes have not learned to look at the same things alike for each sex tile glasses have a different color focus and range men blen do not understand women how can they but the reason Is not because nature Is fundamentally ily different from nicas mens rather that ten or twenty or fifty years of having to lie ie like a woman go into her makeup make up freedom of movement Is soon limited for girls some learn leam to skip the rope and play jackstones jack stones only under parental frowns and as tor for climbing trees marbles going off swimming ming who ever heard of such a thin tiling shades of limited freedom for girls depend ou on fL mIlles communities rank ranis eoj clas etc cut but in the background la Is alwais a general limit to in movement moT ement emotions and language beyond which the girl is not supposed to go a proper spheres womanly ways ly manners etc the boy of six has a much wider field of exploration than his sister especially if sister Is handy about the house cy by ten his freedom Is greater yet lie ile can stamp abou arou around nd and shout and whistle and scrap and talk back in ways denied dt aled to his sister because they must learn nice ways girls have less opportunity to learn certain specific motor habits and in general less occasion to de elop clop their skeletal muscles site she cannot throw a ball when she Is 13 fourteen she did not begin to throw stones at the age of three rules of habit formation and limits of dexterity are not inherent in each sex how ninny boys of twenty could run a hundred yards in ten seconds flat if they had worn dresses and such accessories cess ce ories all their life it if it Is unwomanly unworn anly for girls to throw stones and run races it will be unnatural for them later to be expected to compete with men on equal terras terms A boy brought up on dont be a sissy will have a behavior different from that of a sister for whom being a sissy Is normal behavior men and bomes are emotionally different by training tears pouts whims tantrums grow up bisexually sexually bl about sixteen bears are required to train girls to certain womanly needs and desires thereafter it requires some one mans lifetime to satisfy these desires it if women degenerate or go in for luxury they are only following their bent their training fitted them tor for such paths many men think such paths natural to women and find themselves adjusted when they hand a diamond dog collar about the neck of a woman who finds her life adjustments in luxuries from an others hands bonds she has given all she lias has for all she wants that Is adjustment life learns such behavior as readily as other forms the two sexes may grow up together but they travel divergent roads by the time they mate they are likely to find themselves far ap apart art even words have different values they may not understand each others language but if their habits have not been abnormal and if they retain the cap capacity acety to learn and the inherent love for knowing a whole new world confronts them after all there can be nothing in a mans mails world more interesting than a woman all normal newborns are efficient after a few years little sister can never become as effle tent as little brother in many things A woman requires a stout heart to dare to compete with a man her own sex says you should not the other sex says you cannot if women follow tho the easy path it la Is because that Is the only path in which they have been trained it to show efficiency biologically man roust must mate why mm men marry Is a matter of individual beli beh ailor if marriage Is a failure as we are arc often assured it must be tor for tile same reason that any other social I 1 institution falls man learns new ways to adjust to living impulses by george A dory dorsey |