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Show WHY THEY ARE DULL TALKERS. Th AYftrugn Ymin? Mun Must Raail If Ha 1)00 Nut Willi to be n llore. Tho lloston Journal says that there nro threo causes which go far to ox plain tho uon-ontertalulng character of tho avcrago young in .in tn the avorago young person of tho oppnslto sex. Tho llrst is that ho Is too much engrossed in himself and thu things which Intorost him. Tho tlnost point of courtesy in conversation is to seek those subjects which will Interest tho penplo with whom wo talk. Tho young man who goos Into tho society of cultivated young women mid has nothing butter to offer as his contribution to the conversation than baso ball talk or romlnlsconvus of collcgo scrapes, will mnku himself entertaining, en-tertaining, if at all, only by making himself ridiculous, and that, itissafo1 to say, is not what ho is nfter. So of tho various other subjects, either of business or of pleasure, which nro, chiefly tho concoru of men. Thoy ought not to bo forced into conversation conversa-tion with women. If tho latter want tn know nbout them, very well, but tho information should bo given ns brightly bright-ly nnd interestingly as possible, and without nny appe.irauco of a condo-sccnd'ng condo-sccnd'ng onllghtenment. Thu true gentleman gen-tleman who outers tho society of women with tho deferoueo 'which ho should, fool, will study them sufllclontly to know what things nro likely to intorost thorn nnd what aro not. Another dlQleulty is that tho avorago young man is likely to make a mistake as tn thu things which will interest young women, oven when ho makes a sincoro attempt to adapt his conversation conversa-tion to thorn. Old notions dlo hard. Thoro uro still a great many young men who cannot mulorstaml "that tho young women whom thoy kno,w, soma of thorn nt least, have minds whloh nro capablo of somothlng more than small talk, nf fashliia, ijlatos. or society gos-MMttMMMUsjMN gos-MMttMMMUsjMN u 1 1 1 n jKfMI K to bo HTrMMIMlrMnHWtho men f tholr acquaintance IaSjo average young man realize that tlioNpvurago youug woman with whom ho talks knows probably nt least as much as ho doos, nnd ho will mnko his conversation hotter worth whilo bv puttlug a llttlo intellect iutn it. A third dllllculty Is that tho avcrago young man is seriously In dnnger of being left behind, intellectually, by tho avorago young woman. Wo do not expect that tills alarming statement will bo accepted without dispute. Hut we commend to tho solemn consideration considera-tion of young men tho question whether a voting man. who iu college gave his chief thought to athletics and after ho loaves college is engrossed in buslnuss, Js likely to keep up with his sister, or snmo oilier fellow's sister, who stnrtod with a mind nt least as bright 11s his, has had equal educational advantages, and has both timo and disposition to impiovo liorsolf. Wu maintain tjiatno young man can afford to doprivo himself him-self of the broadening nnd elevating iulluuucu of good books. Tho newspaper newspa-per has Us place, but it is not thu placo of Shakspearu or Milton, of Addison or Huskiii. or any other of tho great masters mas-ters of English. Business has Its exacting ex-acting demands, but they can best be , met by a man who rolicvcs tho tension upon Ids mltid by nn occasional excursion excur-sion iu stamlanfnmt current literature. If tho young man of thu period is to converse to thu cdlllcaliou ami entertainment enter-tainment of ruung women he must 1111 bis mind with something besides baso ball, or stocks, or politics. These tuny enter Into conversation, but thoy must not bu Its staple To restore tho proper conversational relations of tho boxes, the iivuragu young man must Improve his habits o'f thought and spuuuh in more wnvs than one. |