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Show Woman's World i i i . 1 A MOTHER'S VOICE. i I Fcem to hoar a gently voice Come floating down the years. go sweet and low, -so full .of love, i t?o free from earthly fears: "Fear not to do the right, my son, f Be gentle, brave and true; I Jlemembcr that there is a work I For each of us to do. ! -I " . . . llcniember that whate'er vvou do S I He Fees and knows it all; For in His book has He not paid -i He notes the sparrow's fall?" Ah. yes: It is a mother's voice Ft ill hoard, though gone before; i Her pentle spirit waits for me Upon the unknown shore. " L. E. Holeomb. WHAT MEN LIKE MOST IN WOMEN J (Dorothy Dix in Chicago Tribune.) Generally speaking-, it may be said j that man is the audience to which v-oinan always Mays. She is not in- , different to the admiration of hr own iscx. but it is man's that she seeks : -most, for the praise of woman of wo- is the profitless applause of those ! who have nothing but their good opin- j im to give, while the favor of man is I accompanied by perquisites and prizes i : for th lucky one who wins it. j : Of course,, women will deny this. The ! trkdillonal attitude of woman towards t man ia that of a gixldess on a pedestal. with her nose in the air. who haughtily dfis-ns to sniff at the incense that is burnt before lrer: not a a hustler who j is out to round up an incense burner. ! Nevertheless, the most casual observer I cannot help remarking1 that a woman j never quite treats a woman as she ti-PHts a man, or takes quite as much t trouble to please her. Xo woman listens ; j t- another woman's conversation with ' j the same rapt attention she bestows J 1 j upon a man's. No woman ever beams j I and gurgles with delight at the atten- . 1 I tions of another woman as she does ! 1 I at the notice of even a commonplace ; s f man. When a man tells a story a I woman's laughter 'is hung on a hair j 1 nigger that any old chestnut will ex- j I plode, but a woman who can make her j own sex smile deserves a medal as a J I wit and a faithful worker. Blundering in the Dark. . I All of this is as heaven ordained, for 1 3 n woman neither has to marry another t I woman, nor does she have to keep her j I s-atisfied and happy through all the I vicissitudes of married life. The strange j part of it. however, is that, having: I made a study of the art of pleasing: I men since the dawn of creation, wo- j men have not reduced it to an exact science. So far from this being the j case instead of a handy manual of the 1 J qualities that men like most in no- I men having been compiled, after pro- I found,study of masculine taste women j are still ignorantly blundering along in 4 .the dark, content to make guesses at j the subject. Naturally, when all wo- wn are trj-ing to solve, the conundrum, ( i many women guess right, and many f j others approximate the answer, but a f -ontinually increasing number guess I wrong, and inN consequence are the j; ! ranks of the spinsters swelled., I . According to popular belief, beauty is the quality ivhich is always put at f J the head of the list of attractions that 1 women have for men. but in reality this f j cuts a much smaller figure than is gen- J j orally supposed. In fact, men put a t ' much more liberal interpretation upon J what constitutes rood looks in a wo- ! I man than women do themselves. A wo- ; man demands regularity of feature, I delicacy of skin, sheen of hair, and i rce of figure before she will give a certificate of pulchritude :-tn -another woman, but men will substitute many I other agreeable qualities, such as good health, or a pretty dress, for beauty, j and let it go at that. I Tin's suggests that much of the time I and effort that, women put in in the I I vain attempt to make straight hair I curly, or convert, a short and stubby :. f figure into a Gibson ian thinness and; j j leVijrth. might be better employed in ' I cultivating an amiable disposition, or j f a sweet smile, which a man is likely as 1 f J not to mistake for a Venus like com- plexion. or a classical profile. That it ! is also true that men do not marry for i ! beauty, however much they may ad- i I mire it abstractly, is also abundantly t i proven by the number -of homely ma- I I irons with whom we are all acquaint- : j Oil. Next to beauty, women depend on )' clothes to attract men. and yet. although al-though the great majority of women spend merit of their time and money and serious thought on dressing to please men. they have never found out the kind of clothes that men admire I most. I I Simplicity Beats Frills. i j Men like simplicity in a woman's I J dress. It may be the simplic- I Sty that costs more than miles of frills, j but to the untutored masculine eye it I looks simple, old-fashioned novels, which were wriiten mostly by men. the I I girl who wore an unsoi hicated white J I muslin always captured the rich and r I diFt inguiphed hero from out of the very f I claws of the ladies who were dressed I 'y in silks and satins and lace, and the I same idal cf women's dress prevails I j tolay among men! ' I They hate the fussy and the frowsy in clothes, and above all they lay stress far more than women do upon I t cleanliness. Only too often a woman J w ill ft rgive chiffon for being messy because it is chiffon, or excuse lace for being dirty because it is old point, but a man makes none of there fine distinctions. dis-tinctions. Nothing would induce him 1o wear a soiled collar, and nothing dis-I dis-I gusts him in a woman m;;re that to I see Ikt decked out in finery that cries : aloud for the washtub. The woman who dresses to please man may spend I much money or little on her clothes. I. DUt pl,e tuupt oe always immaculately neat, and the trimmer and the tauter the better. The hour glass figure was woman's evolution to meet the requirements require-ments of masculine taste. Mn like femininity in woman, and the woman who affects the mannish in ) dress, or manners, or conversation does I it at her neril.. Indeed. . so great ir man's admiration for womanliness that I be v. ill forgive her all ether defects if she onlv possesses this one quality, j I This is the reason that the Filly little ingenue can marry six times to her i j strong-minded s'.Uer's once and whv , we see women who are dull, and stupid, t 1 and unattractive who are still adored by their husbands. A man may love I a - woman in spite of her being witty, and intelligent, and able 1o take tare I of heirrdf. but he never loves her be cause of these virtues. Mannish Ways a Mistake s "Women are never more largely and F.orgeously mistaken than when they ( think that they make a winning with j men by trying to make imitation men of themselves. The fallacy that men f pine for women to be little brothers to 1 1 them has gained ground of late and j! found many adherents among women i who affect masculine sports, discus? U risque subjects and endeavor to wipe 1 - out the sex line. Never was greater H folly. It is woman's unlikeness to man, a the difference cf her point of view, 2 that makes all her charm? and lends piquancy to her society. If a man ' wanted the ideas of another man on a subject he would seek one who been born to the masculine estate, not one V"Wfco had merely understudied the role. Men lke what we call the old fashr i loned virtues in women. It is the fash ion now. for .women to be blase and cyn- I ' " " " ' : ' " "" """ l t icsl, but there Is jio man so hardened thattie does' not shudder away from a hard woman. He may never , put his foot inside of a church, but he wants a woman to be pious. He may disbelieve disbe-lieve in everything in heaven or earth, but he wants a woman to have a childlike child-like faith in everything, and no matter mat-ter how much he laughs at her for her credulity, he loves her the better for it. He may judge the world mercilessly, merciless-ly, but he wan is a. woman to be full of tender and unreasoning sympathy and pity. No man ever loved a woman who did not cry. or who was not tender to little children, or who would not give to a beggar and investigate his needs afterwards. The girl who thinks it smart to sneer at domesticity and declares de-clares that fhe will never debase her talents by learning to- cook or-sew, .who haUis chi'.dren and mocks at religion, re-ligion, no matter how brilliant or beautiful she is, does not attract men. Men Hate Forced Gayety. Men like cheerfulness in a woman, but they hate forced gayety. Probably there is no other woman in the world that makes men so tired as the perpetual perpet-ual giggler and gusher the woman whose conversation in a series of exclamations, ex-clamations, who chatters like a magpie, mag-pie, and who laughs at everything that is said, whether it is funny or not. These women labor under the hallucination hallucin-ation that the way to be vivacious is never to be still. Now. in this country, where society is carried on after office hours, men seek the companionship of women for rest and relaxation. They want -quiet. They want to be soothed and sympathized with, and not to be irritated ir-ritated by the antics of a perpetual motion mo-tion machine, combined with the noisa of a phonograph that never runs down. The woman who wants to attract men must know how to listen as well as talk. She must suggest an atmosphere atmos-phere of quiet and peace, not a vaudeville vaude-ville show where there is something al-' ways doing. She must be deeply, softly comprehensive. It is on the bosom of the ocean that one dreams of resting, not on the babbling brook. It is the ,: sense of restfulness, of quiet peace they . give that form the attraction of the large, p'acid, bovine women, who are generally as stupid a? they look, but who almost invariably get the pick of 1 the matrimonial market. ! Should Not Roll Eyes. ! Above all, men like naturalness in women. Affectation and artificiality are the bete noir of the masculine sex. It i.3 undeniable that women roll their eyes at men, end men succumb; that men are taken in by the simple little debutante who is younger and more innocent, and ignorant, than anyone ever was by nature ;and that not every" woman's hair and complexion are hers except by right of purchas-e; but these women who affect to be what they are riot and still please men are artists. Their imitation of a perfect lady is so good that it look? like the real thing. What disgusts men is the elephantine lady who affects to be kittenish; the stringy spinster of uncertain age who lisps baby talk; the big, strong, capable looking woman "who thinks it cute to shriek every time she eees a mouse; and the vast sisterhood of feminine posers who go into hysterics of delight over; Browning and Wagner, when their real . tastes in literature and music are the , "Duchess" and "Bedelia." ' 1 Women haven't found it out yet, but! the qualities that men like bet in; them are tenderness, sympathy, affec-j tion and goodness, and a man never ad- ' mires a woman so much as when she is j just a woman. MARRYING ON A SMALL SALARY The Corn Exchange bank of Chicago has ordered thatlnone of its employes shaU marry on -'a" salary of lesg than 51,000 a year. Strictly speaking, this rule is the affair of the bank and its clerks. It has a public side, however, in so far as it operates in restraint of marriage and is therefore against public pub-lic policy; it has a more immediate and thrilling niteres as a subject of cogitation cogi-tation and expression on the part "of the Cook county "club women," a numerous nu-merous and influential class. Besides,: the majority of almost every oommun- j ity has to struggle through the world! on less pay than the Corn Exchange i economists have marked as the lowest permissible limit for a married man. Should a man marry on less than ' 51.000 a year in Chicago? The Tribune of that city has collected opinions. First place to the "club women." They frown upon what they believe to be rash and unadvised experiment. Mrs. Frederick K. Bowles doesn't believe that any couple could get along on less than 51,500 a year and live in a "respectable "re-spectable neighborhood." So a 'respectable 're-spectable neighborhood" is one in which everybody has at least 31.500 a year or tries to make the neighbors think so. Mrs. Bowles cut down her figures and made this lowest possible estimate: J Rent and fuel 360 Iight and cooking g3f 36 j Groceries 270 Meat .. 100 Milk : 60 .. 12 j Clothing .. 300! Laundry .. .: 751 Car fare 60 ! Incidentals 100 j Total .. 51,373 Mrs. Claribel , Schmitt's "laundry item" is 5100. She doesn't see how a bank employe can live in "a good neighborhood' neigh-borhood' on much less than. $1,350. So" "a good neighborhood" is $150 a year cheaper than "a respectable neighborhood." neighbor-hood." Mrs. George Watkins insists that a bank employe "cannot take hi? wife to live in a cheap flat." It would be discreditable to the bank, we suppose. sup-pose. And "every couple" should have 5400 a- year for "incidentals." Incidentals, Inciden-tals, accidentals and "sundries", cover a multitude of things and have great power of expansion, as every economist who keeps and probably "doctors" an expense account, know? to his sorrow. sor-row. Mrs. John F. Thompson, vice president cf the Social Economics club, views with alarm employers who-dictate to their employes "as to when they shall marry." Still, in the present state cf human nature such dictation i more likely to stimulate than retard marriage. mar-riage. Forbid a man to marry and he's apt to go and do it. . Now hear the other pail. The head of a paper house says that he lived in the married state for a good many I years on less than 51,000 a year and it "has been the making of me." A clerk i in Marshall Field's has been married two years oh less than 5900 a year and baf never regretted it But hs has "the. right kind of wife." Before he asked her to marry him he knew that she could cook and didn't spend money foolishly. He has a five-room flat, doesnt' "skimp," carries life insurance, has bought a .piano, entertains his, friends. "I would not be ashamed," J he says, "to invite the president of thei United States? into my neat little fiat." i We infer from this that he is carrying! some olive branches as well as life i insurance. Yet "among the wives of the small salaried clasp there is a, suspicious similarity sim-ilarity of opinion." an opinion sufficiently suffi-ciently hinted at,by one of them: "I do not care to tell the sad story cf our struggles. It would influence no one and might discourage some." Naturally the pinch in the household is felt most acutely by the women. The man gets a home, a domestic servant. serv-ant. N. Y. Sun. Girls Young- Enough to Marry at S5. Encouraged by suggestions by Fathers Fa-thers Alexis aud Richards, of the Passion Pas-sion Order, who recently closed a mission mis-sion ai. St. .Terome's, .church, five Bronx couples have hince presented themselves at the altar to be wedded. It is reported in the Bronx that half a dozen other couples' contemplate marrying mar-rying at St. Jerome's in the next month. The mission lasted three weeks, the concluding week being devoted to single sin-gle men and women. Father Alexis declared that there is entirely too siliy a notion about the age when a girl should marry. "After they pass a certain age, they begin to consider themselves no longer eligible," said Father Alexia "Their friends regard them as old maids. Now this is a. ridiculous notion. Girls ought always to consider themselve.5 young. 'A woman is young until she is 85. After Aft-er that she may be regarded at an old maid. "A young woman should not allow a young man to call upon her longer than six months. If he does not propose marriage at the end of that time she should dismiss hirn, or if she fails to do so. her parent? should. Too long acquaintance and 'keeping company' prejudice the interests of the girl. It gives her friends a chance to talk about her and prejudice her morals." Can You Boil Water? To boil water would seem to bea very simple thing, and yet the late Charles Delmonico used to say that very few people knew how to do it. "The secret is." he said, "in putting good fresh water into a neat kettle, already al-ready quite warm, and setting the water wa-ter to boiling quite quickly, and then taking it right off for use in tea. coffee, or other drinks before it is spoiled. To let it steam and simmer and evaporate evap-orate until the good water is in the atmosphere at-mosphere and the lime and iron and dregs only left in the kettle is what makes a good many people sick, and it is worse than no water at all." Water boiled like this and flavored with a few drops of lemon juice, Mr. Delmonico often recommended to bis customers and friends who complained of loft appetite. ap-petite. It is worth trying. Wed at Same Age. There is one thing in this world, at least in such part of it as is represented represent-ed by the city of Chicago, that docs not change. That is the average age at which people get married. Men may come and men may go, even a new mayor may be some day elected here, but people will not begin to get married any younger or any older than they did when the city was new. At least that is what Clerk Salmonson of the marriage license bureau says. "In the twenty-two years that I have been at this window," said Mr. Salmon-son, Salmon-son, "the average age of the thousands af couples that come in here for licenses li-censes has not varied a year. While, as the population increases, there occur oc-cur more frequent marriages of extremely ex-tremely youthful and aged couples, the age of the great mass does not change. About 25 for the man and 24 for the woman is the average, that haa held since this bureau was opened." Chicago Chi-cago Tribune. Boneless Blouses. At last the long sought shape in the way of a ready made silk or crepe blouse has arrived. Some were seen the other day of washable white crepe de chine, with insets of Valenciennes lace, which were buttor.cd up the back j after the approved fashion. They are also guiltless of belts and bands, and fitted seams, and particularly of . the boned lining so objectionable to the woman wo-man who aspires to being -fashionable. Underneath, instead, is a loose straight lining of thin silk attached to the yoke and hanging loose, so as to gain the necessary ne-cessary body and fullness, and in no ( wj iiiteneiing witn ihe ease of. laundering. laun-dering. ' In fact, a blouse of this cut and material can be washed, and ironed I so easily and quickly that at $7 it is! one of the cheapest investments in white wear. Fashionable Wall Papers. The fashionable wall papers to choose . this year are a soft or yellow brown for ycur parlor and rich peacock blues for your dining room. Red is no j longer fashionable and especially is it j banished from all rooms in which there j is oak finish. For the hall or library green paper is suggested. Or for the j dining room one is chosen which has a j touch of Oriental red intermixed, I while the pure peacock tones are sug-' sug-' gested for carrying into the hall. One ; of the prettiest bedroom papers is a j stripe in a deep French pink, which is I to be carried to within thirty inches of I the ceiling. The frieze and the whole ceiling is then done in a thickly j flowered paper, the roses of the same I shade covering a dark blue trellis. I There is an art cotton which can . be had in the same shade of pink to be used for curtains, and which is a boon to the housekeeper on account of its washing qualities. Blue and white washable rugs are suggested for this room if the blue is to be. emphasized 1 rather than the pink. Useful Table Novelty. A frame to fit over the chafing dish lamp and small enough to hold the coffee cof-fee pot is one of the useful table novelties nov-elties that will appeal to th house-I house-I wife. Another that will appeal to epi- cures as well is a deep and roomy platter into which is fitted an o-al oak board for the purpose of planking and serving: fish. These are of solid English make, and another English dish that is ; being shown in a great variety is the ' large piate both for soup and for serving serv-ing entree?, which has a riot water reservoir re-servoir underneath. It is made now with a metal bottom instead of china which makes it less thic-k and clumsy. ' MARIAN MARTINEATJ'3 ADVICE. (Chicago Tribune. M. 11. Y: What do you consider a gocd cream for daily use 'on the face" 1 wish to use it to take the dust out of the pores. Take a lump of mutton tallow as big as an egg. Heat it in a double boiler. Add a lump of white wax as big as a walnut. When all is heated add three ounces of the oil of sweet almonds and twenty drops of the oil of geranium. Pour into a wide mouthed jar. This will make a large quantity of soft and pure cold cream. If too stiff add more oil. f If. G. How can I bleach my hair? It is red and I desire to have it golden. The pure peroxide of hydrogen will bleach the hair. But you .will have to apply it continually to keep the color. It will not injure the hair, but its use is not considered good taste. Mrs. T. I enjoy the'beauty columns and letters and answers very much. Give me something to change my hair i back to its original color. You remo-ed s"orf!uous hair from my upper lip and I now desire to get my gray hair c!-uea bacK to black. Part off your hair and rub the parting part-ing with castor oil.' If you cannot endure en-dure the odor of the oil use sweet oil. j Do not grease the hair, but simply lu-! lu-! bricate the scalp. This will quickly re-' re-' store it to its own color. j Mrs. G. How many cold creams, ! skin foods, hair removers, and other ' recipes do you give?. I would like a ; complete list. There are twelve in all, including an excellent wrinkle cream. But, unfortunately unfor-tunately 1 do not put them up. You will have to preserve the formulas and put them u; yourself. M. X. What will remove sacs from under the, eyes? Bathe the eyes with warm water in which there is a little borax powder. Tell the druggist" how you are going to use it when you buy the powder. Eye sacs come from kidney' trouble, generally. And they can be cured only by treating: the kidneys. , .. ";i H. G. My nose is a spreading nose. In the Fouth the mammies call it a potato nose. My little girl has the same kind of a nose. Is there any way to remedy it? You might pinch jour nose at the sides twice a day. Do the same for your little girl. This will make the nose grow more classic in shape. Mrs. T. I followed your dietary with the best results. - I have reduced my weight considerably. Would you advise me to keep on? 1 Keep on 'by all means if it agrees with you. The trouble is that so few-people few-people like to eat the same things every day. If you can live on spinach, celery, baked potatoes, and the other articles of food mentioned, in the dietary you are fortunate. It is the best reduction dietary known. K. G. I am dieting, but am hungry. I have indigestion and my food does not satisfy me. Possibly you have a craving because you do not eat" enough. Take for supper sup-per at night the whole of two baked potatoes, a lamb chop, if you want it, and 'all the spinach you can eat. This will give you bulk in your stomach. Diink nothing with your supper, but take a cup of tea or coffee at the close if you desire it. Miss X I find capsules for the breath too sweet. They sicken me. Yet my breath is bad. What will cure it? Rinse your mouth after eating with peroxide of water. Tell your druggist it is for internal use. Or use dioxegen and water. Your bad breath probably comes from bad teeth. There is oidy one remedy. Have your teeth examined. f K. F. P. My teeth are crooked. Four of them are uneven and ethers are decayed. de-cayed. What can I do for them? I am too poor to consult a dentist, i Live on pretzels and water for a month and save money for a dentist. Money spent on dentistry is money well spent. Consult a dentist by all jne-ans. No woman with bad teeth can possibly lay claim to beauty. J. F. What do you consider the best food for a chronic dyspeptic? If 1 were a dyspeptic I would have my teeth put in cider. Then I would eat a small piece of beekstead once a day, chewing it well. I would not drink with my meals. And I would make it a. point to eat regularly. I would eat good hot breads, good sirup, baked potatoes, po-tatoes, and all kinds of vegetables. I would diet, and yet eat enough. f- Mrs. T. Give me a good remedy for a face lotion to be applied every night, i Do you mean a wrinkle cream? There is a difference. Write to this depart- j ment and inclose a self-addressed en- i velope and state exactly what you want. There is no charge for advice. |