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I A SK SIC me anything you ou 1 like lice A ASK said Maid Mrs Wright right cordially to toI toa toa I a 0 friend who had been Leen puzzled over some somo points I of ot etiquette You Vou aro are very good to help me mc me said I Mrs Irs Howe After M living out of ot town for some Borne time as I havo have done ono one gets getsI out of touch with man many things I In In town or out of ot town there aro arc al always always nII nI- nI ways certain accounts to bo ho kept with society ty Ill answered Mrs Wright In I smaller maller towns and country neighborhoods neighborhoods neighborhoods neighbor neighbor- hoods tho the same general duties should bo done I dont don't mean to call can them thorn duties duties' only They rhe should be bo pleas u ures res But Dut with my children to think of ot I havo neglected social duties or pleasures pleas pleas- ures uree pleaded Mrs tIrs Howe That is a natural and a frequent ox- ox cuse cuss said her friend but it Is not al altogether altogether al- al together talc rail to your our husband or yourself yourself your your- self to neglect society and not fair to seem Indifferent to your our friends Then Thin you must remember that you have havo two girls They should you ou a 0 now new In Interest interest In- In terest in social life But Du t they aro are children exclaimed tho the young oun mother In surprise In Touch fur for ur the Children They will not always be children They will be bo grown up before you real real- ize izo It ft Willie While the they are aro growing up you ou must not drift away from social socil Interests Inter Inter- ests or customs You must sta stay bright I and and young youn for the sake of ot your hus hus- band d children friends and society In general You are arc right I am going to try to follow Collow your example said Mrs 1 Howe gayly Then she added If It If my girls have as good manners when thc they grow gow up as ns your Rosamond I shall be happy I 1 I did not Intend to draw down so much flattery on m my head heat or on Rosamond's Rosamond's Rosa Rosa- monds mond's said Mrs Mr Wright laughing Then she continued confidingly h Rosa Rosamond's monds mond's coming comins- out this winter has been beena a Joy instead of a 0 task because I J have 6 tried always alwn's to keep In touch with so society so- so cloty clety and Us its ways A girls girl's coming out brings up lip all sorts of ot matters for dis- dis and ono one needs to be prepared with information I I see that you are having a n er very I busy winter said Mrs Howo Howe Yes Yea a 0 bus busy and delightful winter and now that you tell mo me you want my suggestions I shall havo o another pleas pleas- ure Is thero not something you ou want t to discuss Yes es it seems to me mo that ono of tho the most important things is ht tho the of ot cards carets It Is strange that a Il bit of or pasteboard means so 60 much Isn't It 1 The of Cards Not ot when wIlen you think think that cards help to unite society Wo e could never novel pay payoff payoff off ott our social debts or oven remind people of our existence without useful little bits bUs of pasteboard Cards aro are very often too the expressions of ot 1 kindliness sympathy or congratulation After all thoro thero Is a common sense reason reason rea roa- son about the Ule use of visiting cards as asIn asIn asin In most social matters Leaving cards is a 0 step toward renewing friendships forming or enlarging ones one's circle of or friends friend If It ono does docs not follow the prescribed prescribed pre pre- scribed rules It Is a Il sure aura stop In the wrong direction How should I lot m my friends know that I have havo come back beck to town to live liver asked Mrs rs Howe You should call on all friends and former visiting acquaintances and leave your our cards with your now address In largo cities whore distances aro are great rent and visiting is not easy many persons simplify matters by having a 11 tea or a lI series of ot teas tens and sending out cards to that effect This shows ones one's friends that one remembers them and wishes to seo them and they generally general re respond respond respond re- re spond b by calling on ono of ot tho the days s 's but after a prolonged ab absence enco It would seem eem moro courteous to call on your our list of or acquaintances I oven o though you send out cards later for 5 spine mo special event Ever Every ono one should tr try to make tit ut least one call caB during the year ear on friends and acquaintances Before Detore I forget torget It please explain what Is meant by leaving cards What hat Is 18 the exact form torm I Remember always that a n card oord la is a n reminder of ot your our call caB and your our ad- ad dr Hs On One 1 leaves eaves a card whether the hostess is s at home homo or not You may leave a n card on tho hall table when hon I entering tho house or when going away You may lay a card down un unobtrusively unobtrusively un- un I obtrusively on any convenient table I It If you OU are told at nl the front door that Mrs B. B Is not at nt home you mn may I leave your our card with the thc person who opens tho door Of Ot course ono one must never under any circumstances give ones one's card to tho the person on whom ones ono one i is s calling About bout my husbands husband's cards what cards what Is 19 tho the custom asked Mrs Howe A man Is not supposed to havo leisure for tor mal making calls callA Ills IUs wino wife leaves his hla cards with her hor own when making a 0 call can of at tho the season and whon when calling In acknowledgment of ot In In- In The general rule rulo to remember ber bor Is that a woman leaves one ono of ot her hor cards for each ench lady Indy In a J. J family and andone ono one of her husbands husband's cards for tor each lady Indy and for tor tho the man of the tho house house- hold Yet hero Is another point It Itt It t not considered in good taste to leave moro more than three of ones one's cards at nt a LL aLouse ahouse house Louse oven o where thero there Is 19 a n largo large fatally family For instance you might be bo calling on Mrs Ii B. B who has two grown daughters tier Her mother lives with her hor Three of ot your cards would Include them all nB and three of oC your our husbands husband's cards would be bo plenty plent As a n general rule rulo a married mans man's card Is not left for tor a young youns girl How flow soon la Is a call duo after attar an invitation 7 Within a Il week after a a. dinner n n. luncheon n a card party a Go homo home wedding wedding wed wed- ding or any evening party It Is 18 s obligatory to call whether one accepted ac accepted accepted ac- ac or not Is It right to call after a n tea or reception 1 Inquired Mrs 1115 Howe Howo Xo No o. o you do not call after atter a n. tea or reception because your call is made mado when going to the tho tea ea A hostess sends cards to cards cards' to notify her friends when sho she will be at home homp Thc They may go goo or not as they thoy please If It they go they leavo cards If It they cannot go goo they y of ot tho the thoI I tho the day dy send cards cants by post on I tOil tea and their duty Is done Rosamond moment pretty At that came carne In from a n Wall walk Seeing forward mothers mother's friend she sho hastened to oseo teo eo I am so 50 glad Klad Howe Mrs tIrs you ou Oh she said Bald as thc they shook hoo hands 5 J the tho Instead of ot chattering about ou ft l and showell her hOle mother girl sat near that sho she was war by her courteous manner Interested In n their guest Presently Mrs tu Mr IJo Howo rose roSO to BO go o This white while saying to her friendly talk has hae give mo new determined to lo try I 1 am and courage J the tho soto so- so so to surmount all In tray Cl world and and anti nth Rosamond rose Il ht Mrs tIrs and shook hands with their guest accompanied her r to l thedoor the tho Mrs lyre Wright f often otten as ns door saying Come to ino mo as us you ou wish with problems |