Show I The TIle Marriage Problem n Dy fly REBECCA WEST ol of Tile Tae judge Iud Tile Tae Return Kitura tl of b tit tae SO 4 ate ite The TIe Small Apartment Responsible bye bIt for So Many Divorces Divorce marriage will be a century century cen een- W WHAT tur tury b hence nce depends d d ends not on chasing the boy and girl off orr the dance floor fluor and subjecting them to Puritan talk about lovemaking pretending that that which Is really renny extremely pleasant Is unpleasant but on three points Pointe which on the surface are tot totally any unconnected with sex Two Tuo ol of o lh them l m look li like lite e making milking mar rings ringe less leu stable liable more likely to 0 b be b. broken up by y divorce one on o of them looks look like lik keeping it il more stable Habit These three things art are louses liquor and transport The Tie future of mn marriage depends denda very little on what people say lay and think about sex sex because bec sex flex Is II so deep drep a force that what people say 80 and think is II as 88 likely as not to be just a surface pretense designed to disguise from others and themselves them selves what it really realty means to theta them fl TAe o of marriage doe depend on the hou houses homes people life lie in ini I what Itha they hey drink and nd the extent to ro which they hey are able to 10 move about abou over the he country The houses housep people live lire in tn affect their marriage relationships pro roundly This Is not true of very verJ rich people who everywhere andIn and andIn andIn In all nU ages have been given to divorce dl di vorce voree because they get gel a restless feeling that they cnn can have everything everything every every- everything thing of the best and that they had better get gel on with It before they die So they pass from marriage to marriage e just as ns they travel from country to country It Is also not true of ver very poor people who everywhere everywhere ev ev- everywhere and In all ages cannot get divorced because they cannot afford alimony Hut But it Is II true of the vast class claa that lies 1118 between these extremes The English Victorian middle class dau practically never neter got divorced They Ther pretended it II was because he they were seers virtuous i Out itt u was af Ga it Ill If II you go 10 and look et at the Ih villas they lived in ill an a at explanation trill occur to you Those Je house houe hate hat three and our lour targe sitting room fitting rooms with maybe mayb a billiard room as a. well and eight elgh or ten en or more bedrooms bedroom and good good gardens Even allowing for their large lar- families they had plenty of 0 room to 10 get getaway e away from Irosa each others other When the husband and wife felt res resentment against each other he could go o Into his study on one story she Into her sewing room roam room o on another h nut But ut a husband huband and wife wi living In a three roomed d apartment or a bungalow cannot move more than han a few fete yards yard f from Irom root the scene cne of their heir disagreements The person who li is really ally breaking up modern marr marriage lg h It the he bricklayer And as It Is la unlikely that th the e cost COlt of building will go down It seems probable that he will go on doing so The fhe only essential condition of marriage Is 18 that the persons con can concerned should admire each other It Is Impossible to admire a person per son who Is eyed bleary and Incoherent Incoherent Inco into herent and undignified Though the small apartment an anthe and the cocktail bar are working against the stability of If the marriage marriage mar mar- of the future the earth It It- s self lf the soil roil we walk on on Is workIng work work- Ing tag for It It People do not get di divorced dl di quite so 10 lightly If It they are ere fixed for life Ute In la one community Only one In every hundred English Eng Eng- lish marriages Is dissolved In America things are different People Peo pIe rush up an and down the new c country staking out Its resources seizing Its opportunities and In the process they lose their husbands and wives n as they might lose their I I luggage I John fohn Smith goes goei to 0 California and leave lene hit his wife wile Mary In I Nebraska I Mary MaTT forgets forfeit him and makes maket other a ar arrangements I or maybe John fohn participate participates pates pate In the he advantages that ha are sold laid I to belong blong to 0 the he visiting team leam and mt meets somebody who ho admires admire him to so 0 much that ha he forgets forget his Ml Mary One In ten n American marriages marriage is it dissolved nut But this hit will end America Americas resource I will be b. staked naked out ou her opportunities opportunist wi will l be rationed and John loh Smith will willI have to stick ck to 10 his hit lob Job and consequently conse I quen to 10 hit his wife wile As for tor the essence of or marriage apart part from froU I Its stability It will 1 be bethe bethe bethe the same a century hence as It Is la Isnow isnow now a curious kind of cross between between be be- tween a dog fight dog fight and nd the peace that all n understanding something that nobody quite likes and nearly everybody likes likE'S well wen enough to stay In n for life Ufe once they have got tot In So It will be IMI one century cen ecu tury hence or any number Dumber of cen ten centuries hence O e PI IU Lodger lAds Lad Inc ferric tc |