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J a J JJ I Judd u J home for lunch every day and 1 I hate have no help By KATHLEEN NORRIS HOEVER said marriage marriage marriage mar WHOEVER is a lottery said it a long time ago for forI I cant can't remember the time when I wasn't familiar with the phrase Naturally it doesn't mean anything to children children children chil chil- dren nor even to youth for young lovers feel perfectly confident of each other other other-no no lottery about it they know But later on after a few years of matrimony wise women recognize the truth of the old saying For every wife gets good and gets bad out of her bargain but the good isn't the good she expected and the faults she presently discovers even in the most perfect husband arent aren't in inthe inthe inthe the least the faults about which she sheso sheso sheso so lovingly and jokingly teased him when they were only engaged A woman named Tania Quinn writes me about it Like a n million other American girls Tania married a serviceman last year she had known him only seven weeks when she became his wife and at that time didn't think that he had any faults at all Hes He's a flier and ond while all servicemen poss possess ss a romantic attraction for women fliers have a special glamour Tania Tanis admits that she has been unusually popular that thata a great many of the boys wanted to marry her and she S says she made special stipulations before she would consent to say yes to Judd She must have her own separate room He was never to be home for lunch They weren't to have a baby for five years At the end of the first year they were to have a afrank afrank frank rank talk each telling the other the 10 qualities or habits he or she most disliked in his mate and if 11 they were not able to come to a fair agreement then they were to sep sep- arate Flier Agreed to Terms Judd rather weakly it seems to tome tome tome me but perhaps he was too madly infatuated to be reasonable agre agreed ld I to these absurd terms he and Tania Tanta were married and he flew away Now he is home again to stay Because of a foot injury he cant can't fly any more but has hils been heen placed as an instructor at at au al important post i Of course I 1 was pert perfectly delighted delight delight- ed to have him safe sate at tome rome says Tania's letter But everything came out differently from what I 1 expected and I 1 want to know ItI if It I haven't the right to claim the old promises from Judd Space is terribly terribly terribly ter ter- ter- ter short here we have one room and a bath and tiny kitchen Promise Promise Promise Prom Prom- ise one Judd is home for lunch I ever day and I 1 have bave no help Promise Promise Promise Prom Prom- I ise two I am expecting a baby which makes me simply furious al although although although al- al though I h have no doubt I will love loveit it when it comes Promise three i And when in June I proposed that I we have that long talk and see how we really felt about things Judd only laughed He hasn't the slightest notion notion notion no no- tion that he is failing me so terribly and has broken every promise that he ever made me I think that itI If it he was sympathetic I would not I care so much but I am Dm away from home lonely not a very good housekeeper housekeeper house house- keeper and feeling miserably sick all the time and I just go about resenting things and crying Not my idea of marriage at all I Well this letter with its unconscious unconscious revelation of prolonged adolescence adolescence adolescence ado ado- would be funny if it were not so pathetic Life has taken hold of Tania and made her a woman In spite of herself and she doesn't like so abrupt a treatment But one cant can't quite blame Judd after his scalding experiences in the war hi his I HUMANS CONSTANTLY CHANGE CHANCE II Human uman beings are constantly constant constant- constantly ly changing either cither for better or worse Rules o of f behavior cannot cannot can can- not be laid down by one ate iu Itu- human man for another to follow That is the mistake made bythe bythe by bythe the young wife in in the situation discussed today by Kathleen Norris This young oung lady laid down certain regulations that her suitor was teas to follow when they were married He lIe hasn't followed them and she is dis dis- Marriage is not a cold blooded proposition to be planned and worked out according according according ac ac- ac- ac cording to a formula This young joung lady is finding this out No husband or wife can be expected expected ex ex- ex to remain the same year in and out They change Hidden hidden Hid hid- den qualities are developed some good and some bad months of hourly danger his heroism heroism hero hero- ism and his injury for not taking too seriously Tania's schoolgirl high conception of what true mating between between between be be- tween a man and a woman is Men Changed by Marriage Take it as ns a law you girls who are jumping so gaily and confidently into marriage his faults and his virtues virtues virtues vir vir- tues his tastes and his dislikes will all be a complete surprise to you 00 whether youve you've known him a month or ten years The frequenter of ot night clubs and d dance halls wants to settle down with the newspaper and the radio The waster of money who bought orchi orchids ls and candy and champagne for you before you were married turns out to be a miser at heart The flatterer turns silent and unresponsive the big burly outdoors outdoors outdoors out out- doors hero Is afraid of getting his feet wet But on the other hand unexpected gener generosities helpfulness wisdom knowledge patience have a way of ot appearing too The man who seemed blunt and unappreciative during courtship days amazes you with roses on an anniversary The Theman Theman Theman man who slighted your family develops develops develops de de- de- de when he be has joined it it a feel- feel sing ng of real affection for it The man who didn't want or like children becomes becomes becomes be be- comes the most infatuated father of them alL Good comes as surprisingly surprising surprising- ly as bad And anyway its it's living living its its it's life So when fate offers it to you take your lottery ticket like the rest of us |