| Show THE RIGHT THING at the RIGHT TIME by MARY AARY MARSHALL DUFFEE J SOCIAL CALLS tho the old order cha chanreth chane ngeth oth yielding place to new TennY tennyson A steil freit all it Is usage that makes abour rv our code of manners no matter what may seem to be the most courteous thing to do and no ao matter what the authorities on etiquette may write and preach if well brod bred people don donti actually do those things then they are not essential to good manners A year ago if any one had asked me whether it was necessary for a busy man to make a call as a mark in rk of courtesy after going to dinner at a friends house I 1 would have said emphatically yes dinner calls had for a good many years been pointed out as really essential marks of respect the idea was that if you could find time to enjoy a good dinner at a friends house you co could uld likewise find time to pay a call rut ru it there are so many people who bever do kiy dinner calls that it Is not mr to make these sweeping statements in what we ive know as formal s acty 0 CA I 1 v ilos ills is still the rule but icalla the majority of even well avell bred folk do not have glinc time to conform to these strict in many communities married foil have 1 aau few li fur for going out together in the eveni ij A con senal geral set of such folk will occasionally meet for a tanner party or eains ei ins of entertainment at each others hows it if there are children at home and no iii macd iad or a mald maid who takes it for granted ili hint it lier her ee aings are her own this means that some one cne must be got to hold the fort while the mother and fattier father are away with such people though the women of the managed to call occasionally in the afternoon there la Is a rort ort of tact tacit agreement that party calls will bof not be expected fro from in the men inen because the only time they can any these la Is in the evening even tag and when they do go out in the evening they like to have some more substantial diversion lhnn alian paying oils calls so also it happens that in large sties where distances are great the busy business man takes a dislike to going to a friends house that friend may not be at home lio meto to receive his call it means sometimes an hours trip with a chance of only leaving a card at the end and of course no one properly telephones alread ito warn a hostess hofsess of a call the newcomer however always makes a better impression Impress lon IT he does pay the party call and it should be within ten days 0 of tire the courtesy entertainment tain ment for which it Is paid moreover he should pay it whether he has as attended if hg has received an actual stated invitation tor for a definite entertainment then the call Is due e b but ut if the invitation lias has been verbal ar I 1 and only indefinite then lie he need not con consider lder it ns its requiring a call 0 1923 by mcclure newspaper sy indicate |
