Show kathleen norris says there Is no way to get back lost sweetheart dell bell syndicate Servi service ceJ I 1 43 v 1171 11 1 1 I 11 14 aa I 1 1 T 00 6 N 4 U I 1 was so stupid that night that I 1 hate to think about it when bluga made lun ol 01 me I 1 said I 1 lets I 1 was getting a cold and went upstairs ho later told abary that when I 1 was a kid I 1 had been his sweetheart by KATHLEEN NORRIS HERE is no harder situation togo THERE for a woman of any ago than that in which site she suspects that the love of the man she idolizes is cooling the self deceptions by which abandoned sweethearts solace themselves are pathetic in their transparency it is almost impossible for any one of us to believe that she has I 1 ost lost her charm for the man she loves the girl who writes me a letter on this subject fortunately is young brenda is only 17 and whether she likes tho the idea now or not she is 8 going 0 to get over her passion for the fickle hugo 1111 hugo ugo was first my older sister annas annals friend says Bren brandas das tear stained letter but from the moment I 1 first saw him he wa was tho the only man in tho the world for me I 1 used to hang around just to see him and my chum and I 1 used to walk dom downtown town so that we could pass his office and perhaps have a glimpse ot of him my diary in those days was filled vath him and if I 1 only had a word from him it would mako make me happy for a week that was when I 1 was only 15 last year anno anna got it a school in a city a hundred miles away we had a goodby good by party for her and hugo came ile he and I 1 talked together seriously tor for the first time and I 1 think he realized that annas annals kid sister was not quite so Us as her years anyway alter anna left he carno came one night and brought mo me candy and stayed talk ing and I 1 was so happy I 1 could not sleep tor for nights afterward wrote meta E each ach other dally after that we saw each other frequently and there was no doubt of his feeling when he went on short trips we wrote each other every day and ana although my parents felt I 1 was too young to make plans ye yet hugo is 31 and could well support a wife and that made a difference tho the joy of those first days will remain with me all my life for I 1 can never feel tor for any other man what I 1 feel for hugo just his voice just his hand on mine when he taught mo me to drive the v very cry jackets and caps and neckties he wore were sacred to me he asked me to marry him and wrote me that night that he be would never forget the moment when a dizzy crazy little girl threw herself into his arms in that same letter he says you are going to be tho the most spoiled little wife in the world 1 I suppose the rest of this story the letter goes on Is a familiar one to you hugo had to go away for three weeks and even in his letters before he be came back I 1 felt the tho change when he did get back I 1 put flowers around in the tha house and wore a new dress but he come that evening all the next day and next I 1 hear from him and second of those days was an agony on the fourth day I 1 telephoned I 1 help it he explained that ho he had been terribly busy and that his mother had house guests an old schoolmate school mato ol of hers and the schoolmates twin daughters end and that squiring the girls up all his spare time I 1 asked him if they knew about me and he answered by asking what about you honey Invite dUls guests when I 1 hung up the telephone I 1 was war almost crying and my mother suggested that I 1 write asking his guests to come to our house for fok sunday supper he seemed pleased by that and they carrie came my mother NOTHING TO REGRET tho the brenda dranda who writes this tetter letter is undoubtedly in for SOMO some heartbreaking heart breaking moments but she has nothing with which to reproach hersell herself in later years she may ma have behaved like lika a silly gi girl r i throwing herself at an older man and then sulking when he to explained that she had misunderstood his brotherly br otherl affection fec tion but she can looz look forward or to a more real a more lasting kind of love in a few years jears then perhaps she will be 0 able to laugh at as what seems scents now to be utter tragedy had everything lovely but the evening did not have ono one happy moment lor for me both these girls are pretty they are 25 years old and have been everywhere and have seen all tho the plays playa one la Is engaged and I 1 think the other likes hugo in fact I 1 know she does and so 10 do mom and dad 1 I was so GO stupid that night that I 1 hate hata to think about it and when hugo made tun fun of me I 1 said I 1 felt as if I 1 was getting a cold and went upstairs hugo said to mary that when I 1 was a kid I 1 had been his little we etheart and we had made great marriage plans and were going to build a house up tip in n oak and live up there which made me seem like a baby last week hugo wrote me ma quite frankly saying that he la Is sorry that I 1 misunderstood his attentions that he will always love me as a big brother almost old enough to be my father and that he would uke like his letters back my mother who now says she Is sorry she did it since it disturbed me so much immediately without con consulting alting me sent back oil all his letters from my treasure box 1 I love him as much as ever ile he Is so wonderful there is nobody like himl if I 1 live to be 90 and marry 10 times I 1 will always love him better than anyone elsel what can I 1 do how can I 1 get him back please please help me keep from de despal rl the price of love it Is a cruel tiling thing brenda that tiny any human being should bo be given give power to hurt another as hugo has hurt you but it is the price of love love is the dearest commodity tri in life the thing tor for which we pay highest it la Is painfully obvious now that his affair with you was just what he calls it half paternal half brotherly affection for the little I 1 girl who so eo openly adored him he might inight indeed have made you his wife and he might have been a faithful husband to you there are men who have petted and adored a child wl e until her tall sons seemed older than she but as a general thing the man to whom a girl rives her heart at 17 the true mate and the real love affair cornea comes along sl six or seven years later you have a lot for which to be thankful evidently you have sensible affectionate parents willing to stand by you help you in your difficulties make your home a center of hospitalities those are invaluable assets just now also you in your infatuation for hugo throw away your self respect when you threw away your heart it might help you to read some of the letters I 1 get fet from girls girls who dont regard love affairs as their mothers did girls who argue in a moment of passion it affair but our own what we do and if I 1 love him end and want to do anything he asks im free to do iti |