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Show iiXTTXntrtLI r Coping With The Inevitable bermit and says its just a sense of adventure, and that we ought to be proud we have such an By MARY MARKER . Dear Mary Starker; My husbands mother died seven months ago and it has done terrible things to our married life. He Insists on the deepest mourning. We cant go out or have anyone in our house. He doesnt want any kind of marital ontact, and he just sits around at night and broods. Ive $ied to talk to him about Wednesday, in melancholy, gloom, and depression is unhealthy; and it tends to suppress the happy, positive memories that such a relationship has afforded. it, bit he just gets mad and tells me I have no feelings. HOW LONG i I was fond of his mother, but cant see any sense in this, and Im wondering just NEGATIVE RESPONSE And the person whose loss is genuinely felt, and who is how. long mourning should be most continued.: Ant I tsing unreasonable, as He- says, or is he? R. W. Dear R. W.: Mourning is suclj a .personal thing that many of the conventions have been relaxed. The depth of peoples feelings varies, as do their abilities to cope with painful, but inevitable, situations such as death. Sijthely to submerge oneself I sincerely mourned, would be the first to discourage such a negative and destructive response. . Your attitude husbands does seem excessive. There may be reasons for it of which he is not truly aware. He might have inexplicable feelings of guilt that a discussion with his clergyman' or doctor could dispel. Try to encourage him to - It talk to someone, and be patient with him. His reactions are extreme, but his sufM.5I. fering is real. Dear Mary Marker: My little boy, three and a half years old, has suddenly started running away from homeland Im half crazy with worry. Im so afraid something terrible will happen to him that hell be run over, or kidnapped, or hurt in some way. But I cant get him to stop it. Ive punished him, and hied to reason with him, but hes so little its hard to get anything across to him. NO HELP My husband isn't much help. He kind cf laughs about Gandy but logical tv blame his running away on a feeling of displacement that the arrival of a new baby always brings in greater or lesser degree. He may or may not love the baby, but he is screaming for attention and reassurance from you and your husband. Encourage your husband to play with his son in the evenings, to let him watch him shave, to plan some little activities just with him. And you save time just for him, too. When the baby is" napping, cr not needing your attention, devote the time to your little boy. Play with him, read to him, and above all, lavish love and attention on independent son. Of course, I try to keep an eye on him, but he manages to slip away whenever Im taking care of the bauy. I wondered if the baby might have anything to do with this, but he just loves her, and likes to pet her and get things for her, so it doesnt seem very sensible to blame it onto her. Do you have, any suggestions? Worried -- Dear Worried: When a perwhether it is son runs away from home, or from a situait isnt independence tion nor a sense of adventure, but fear and unhappiness. him. LOGICAL, SENSIBLE Mexican Fiesta A child cannot explain nor understand his feelings, but he is very much a prey to them, and it is only through his actions that he can commun- The Police Mututal Aid Auxiliary is having a Mexican Fiesta Saturday, 7 p.m., at the Police Clubhouse at Ensign Downs. Dinner will be served. Guests are invited. icate them to you. It seems not only sensible Making-Fu- n, Easy Marilyn Dickson By WINNIFRED JARDINE Deseret News Food Editor Tjhe month of August begins to hang heavy for school children who have almost had their,-filof vacation, and yet woqt admit theyre anxious to go back to school. Extra projects need to be on hand; constantly to keep them happy and occupied. And what; more desirable place thap In the kitchen! At J the home of John B. Matheson Jr., 1458 Wilton Way, young Mark and his friends find one of their favorite 'kitchen' pastimes is stirring up' a batch' of Danish Fudge (similar, to the Virginia Ftnjge that so many enjoy). ; IDEAL RECIPE ToWed a l . Charles Craig Brown will claim Miss Marilyn Dickson for his bride in a Salt Lake Temple ceremony to be performed Aug. 22. : made.,, 1 If h r' v; , t' ' mi vdt V The evening of their wedding, the couple will be honored at an open house at the Brown home. Aug. 28 a garden reception will be held at the home of the brides grandfather, Lige Dickson, in Ta- coma. L ; Marks -.- w.- has attended note.-Mar- DANISH FUDGE y . iy2 squares 1 pound , brown sugar cup canned milk 1 pound package powdered sugar minus cup , 1 teaspoon vanilla - , nuts' 1 cup broken (pecans or walnuts) In heavy saucepan, melt deli-cioi- i:. " butter package , ir i- t ' .4 BYU- summer school in Mexico. Mr! Brown, also . One , Miss Dickson is a Brigham Young University student and Mark Mathesorv left, and Michael Spafford find candy making a fun and. delicious activity. This recipe for Danish Fudge is quick and easy. and Mark always use butter in the feci- -, pe. The flavor is so 'much better, they, told us, and , when you consider the price jjhe candy keeps, beautiful- - s' .of. good candy, this- - is still , ly- pa an airtight container in pretty reasonable. So for those hungry, restless ' for 2 or 3 weeks,, asserted Mary, 'and teenagers, (and younger), turn it id; creamy, smooth and them loose in the kitchen with . ;i t this recipe for Danish Fudge! -- The future bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Reeve Brown, Brigham City. - mptijer, Mary Matheson, famous as a hostess. She has used it for open houses, luncheon drop-i- n guests, etc,; etc.' V . ; STORES WELL : Miss Dickson is a daughter of Mi-- , and Mrs. William B. Dickson, Tacoma, Wash. II! V For impatient youngsters who like quick results, this is an Ideal recipe. It measures and combines in a minute, cooks for only 3 minutes, takes a minute or two for cooling and then is beaten quickly to a smooth firmness. reward-- i And there you are ed for the effort of making it! This isnt only a young, peoples recipe, however, , for. it fhas M.M. a BYU stu- dent, has attended Utah State University, where he affiliated with Sigma Chi. He has fulfilled an , LDS Argentine ' butter, add brown sugar and milk and stir to blend. Bring to boil and cook for exactly 3 minutes, wiping down sides of mission. pan with wet pastry brush. Remove pan from heat and allow to cool for about 2 minutes. Have ready powdered sugar that has been sifted (necessary for a perfectly smooth candy) and beat into candy until all is well blended. Add vanilla and nuts and spread in buttered 12 x dish. Mark pieces with a knife, chill. Cut into squares and set into container and refrigerate. v air-tig- sV ' , a - Salt Lake Group Schedules Meeting v Christian members , Womens Club are planning a fashion show Back-to-Scho- : to be held Thursday, 12:30 p.m., at the 2960 Highland Dr. Chuck-A-Ram- 'X - v. ri-- s Tbe young idea that ' THE turned an old art lata a great new way la da yam thing! PRE-POS- RING AL These are the smart new jars that proved those groovy designers at iu.i know what modem homemakers want! 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Bat AMS, DiamMd Bar, CaKfcmii S176S ' salt & illusirtiion enlarged DIAMOND ELEGANCE IN I4K GOLD M.Y) 9 AT LAST THERES A GIFT THAT TELLS HER JUST HOW YOU FEEL! SHELL TREASURE !T, FOR IT WHISPERS . , . YOURE MINE " pepper sets. Enclosed find 50$ tin coin) and 3 box tops ONLY I STATt CHARGE IT AT YOUR PENNEY'S FINE JEWELRY DEPARTMENT Setcialliinf in fine DiamrvUl, Diemend Rammmtlne, Welch!, end SwvicM. - Xir DOWNTOWN SALT LAKE COTTONWOOD MALL Appearances can be deceiving, as demonstrated by this attractive pool area. Here, concrete has been colored and scored to give the look of brick. TRY THIS IN YOUR YARD For A Handsome Patio By PAULINE GRAVES Everything is not always as it seepis. We who live in the e fibres know age of this, and we know also that frequently the synthetics outperform the originals. In building materials, lumber, clay and rocks are just about the only native materials available. Other products are just that, products of mans research and inventiveness. man-mad- is By integrally colored meant that color is within, not just applied or painted on. However, instead of the entire depth of the concrete being colored, a top layer, about one inch thick was poured after the base had hardened. TOP LAYER The color was in this top layer, which was then scored recin a pattern of 4x8y tangles. The scoring looks like thel ; mortar between bricks, it rounds off the--' edges of the rectangles, tliei,; area looks as though covered; with handmade bricks. It and;-becau- is-ve-ry ' ; ipleasing. In fact, the whole desigtC Is pleasing. Each step is.'! like a narrow platform, ranj- ; ing from 24 to 28 in depth,'-;- , - creating a gradual approach . to the pool. Betrothal Announced HANDSOME DESIGN Here is a handsome patio, designed by landscape architect, Sidney Galper. What Completing plans for a Sept. appear to be bricks edge the 17 wedding are Miss Carol patio noxt to the house and. Holindrake and Dan W Niel' ' form broad steps that lead to son. , the pool. is a daughThe bride-eleBut they are not bricks at ter of Mr. and Mrs. E. Vernon ' all. Concrete has been inHolindrake, American Fork. -. NielML. colored dark red and and Mrs. Doyle tegrally scored to look like an installason, also of American Fork, are parents of the prospective tion of bricks. . ct -- bridegroom. The. engaged couple will bfi wed in a Salt Lake' Tqmplr ceremony, That evening they? will be honored at a receptiptC at the State Training Schoqk LDS Chapel. 4 ; Miss Holindrake and her; , t fiance are students at Utah State University. |