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Show THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE, Kind and the Other Kind Upon Mothers! The Nice It takes philosophy faith, disenchanted with :- -: 28, By Kathleen Norris if, like myself, you prefer or husIJWhen a woman suddenly becomes completely disaas make she can things band, home, children and domestic duties, is the and as she family helpless. for likes, everyone greeable IJA11 life, for everybody, is a succession of dull repetitions of the same It would seem that vJiere is no utiea, over and over and over again.will come into the busiest and stretches for anyone long, stupid "escape life. most successful SUNDAY-MORNINGr-JUL-Y-8r49- that term- - to endure life Joyfully. IJGreat wealth brings its humilations and problems, its disillusionments and disappointments, just as poverty does. CJWhat things are better in all the world than love and service! IJYou cannot buy real service any more than you can buy real love, and being needed is a much more heartening thing than being rich. - ' . England for races, leasing mansions for' terms of years, and leaving them after terms of days onlyf ' Does' that sound like happiness! One extremely rich woman, with whom I had a alight acquaintance many yeara ago, left her nursery to go abroad with a married man a man, incidentally, whose wife was In her expecting a second baby. own home were two children a boy of four and a girl of eight months. Eventually, she married the mau with whom she went away, but they never had a child, and after awhile she came back to ber home city and a steplingered about watching mother manage her two beautiful children, until she couldn 't 'bear it, and married a third time, wretchedfrom public ly, and disappeared view. Well, in poorer and more obscure dayt I have been very unhappy, very envroui and discontented and puzzled by what I used to think the unfairness of life, hut I have never been so miserble that I could turn boy, my back on a four year-oland a baby girl just big enough to Four in chair. sit a high years old the most enchanting age of all, the age whose ryes are so full of infinite faith and love for mother and eight montha old no, eight months perhaps is the 'most enan one picchanting age of all. ture agony of spirit terrible enough of to force one to fail creatures these ages! Life is a stupid and disappointing business for almost everyone; inside mealtime she tells us how bard she because unless you can get it takes philosophy or faith, if, like works, and what it does to her hands, their souls you don't know any- myself, you prefer that term to endi"it. would thing about Why are the Great presidure life joyfully. and what her grandmother think about it. Day after day after vorces, the family estrangements, the dents have their hour of power and She doesn't seem to think law suits, so general among promi- glory; their little span of flattery day. that anyone else ever has anything nent film and stage folk, eminent and adoration, and then sink into If you praise writers, and society's most promi- neglected, embittered old nge, indisagreeable to do. a pudding or biscuits or anything nent members. Why are wealthy finitely less happy than that of she is a good cook, but a fussy one persons so generally restless, moving their less dramatic neighbors. Great she gets wild, and fays, 'Oh, I'm into Italian villas today, rushing to wraith brings its humiliations and sure it's a great honor to be able ts make a puddingy like any immigrant servant! on Long Island of women wbohousekeeping many nomemaien how many of the great armv H OW lre fookine, dusting, marketing, making beds, sweeping, for the family, really like their job t For that matter, how many women who are working downtown are doing what they really want to do and how many men f It appears to be one of the great, fundamental .tragedies of our congested, feverish, half asl" V IV i similated sort of living that after a girl or a wo man has moved heaven and earth to get a job, it bores her to death, she wonders why on earth Or she marries, and in a jenr or she wanted it. two the samo insidious, poisonous query crops up in her mind, and begins to make her life unendurWhy did I think I able; "Why did I do this J ' -- fudge won Some-time- s uews-wifdo- 253030 suc-:es- There is a lot more to this letter, evidently the little writer 's heart and was bursting with affection pity, resentment and impatience, all Those children love their at once. mother, they love their father, they would be quite cvitent with the humble home and the humble jobs. But Mama, who ought to be their ally and friend, simply won't let them. What Mama apparently has forgotten, or never fully realized, is that all life, for verybody, is a succession of dull repetitions of the same duties, over and over and over It would seem that there again. is no escape for anyone long, stupid stretches will come, into the busiest and most successful life, and quiet. dreary moments when a woman ask' herself desolately, "Is this worth wiiilef What 's it all about f Why do other wnmPTi ttcr wan4 to do, and I have to do what I at hate?"' mt I d I Wim ) l L m Has s Deaf Hear Again Through New Aid Ten-Da- Wealth and leisure have their serious drawbacks, their moments of bitter disillusionment and discontent; just as poverty and hard work do. It would be absurd to say that a childless woman living in the Kit?, hotel worked as hard as the wife of a subway conductor, living with four children iu a five room Bronx apartment, must work, and nobodv does make that statement. It would be equally absurd to say Hint the Bronx housewife has as much money to waste as the guest at the Ritr. But it is not absurd to say that the conductor'! wife may be the, happier, the more popular, the mor successful womm of the two as she Sh certainly isthe more useful. h a s. hef, J? ?.rn r.T S J? e, s n i. 4 ;a: , ig. inuragenient and envy, of course, but she also has many, many busy cententd hours, and many inter-va!- of that rxqu:site, instinctive content that comes to the wife and mother when her man recehej a li' tie dutinfon or a rsie, when th bad li'tle throat of a delicaf youngster clfars up, whn the children are all deliriously as!"ep in their shabby little bds. and the piraie lunch nn- dcr at for a long Sunday at the b's'-Nobodv aster's tnmirrow. that hr life ij alwjyi happy, but on the o'hrr hand, no!ody can deny that it ! i's utterly hapy moments. y. herraa I know rich perwl sons, and arsons, who never know what happins Is. All se'v wp! t say, "Well, if I had their mnny, or half their STuney, I'd l "jerfectlj- bar-pjl- J Young . . . gets a thrill "l law one of these new Oldstnobilcs out at the country dub yesterday," young J . . . said, "and I want to tell you that it looked right at home among those ex- pensive cars." chaufreur-dfiye- n He opened the door of a coupe. "Nice upholstery," he said. "Rich-lookintoo. And the appointments are in perfect taste I guess you can't beat these Fisher g, 99 bodies." Then, turning to the salesman, "But will it perform as well as it looks?" 3 $ Before starting out on the demonstration, he went over the engine and chassis asking questions thatclcarlyshowca a sound knowledge of cars. The success of the new OlcUmobile Is easy to understand when you know uhy this new six was created and how it was per- Its new engine embodying the most advanced features of design-prov- ide true fine car smoothness, snap and speed. Its insulated chassis and silenced fected. interior create true fine-cenvironment. It was created specifically for those whose modish Its bodies Fisher a new exreveal reference is for a fine automobile, ft waa developed totruly pression of fine car beauty; while such standards of quality, features as Lovejoy hydraulic shock absorbstyle and value that madeno compromise ers and radiator shutters contribute the with price. It was proved by over a million final touches of fine-c- ar luxury. miles of relentless testing. And from the day of its announcement, this Oldsmobile has Naturally, all this in a car selling for $925 ramMlv errrwi'no recooni- minveA has kindled genuine enthusiasm J J JT. Car of Low Price. , , , SEDAN among thousands tion as the Fine V of buyers of taste and discrimination. That's why In performance, in comfort, in ease C thousands who have seen of control, in sophisticated beauty it driven it critically it invites the most exacting com- finest ana the with have "You can buy a bigsaid, Earison Swa Tire Extra being built today. ger car, but not a better oneP high-compressi- -- ar TWO-DOO- . motor," he "Looks as if it would deliver plenty of power without straining. "Husky And say, that engine mounting that yon tell me about, is a great Idea ! Entirely new, isn't it?" On the open road, his enthusiasm reached its peak as, under his guidance, the car swept smoothly and silently rubber-cushion- ed . 925 PRO DUCT OF JiP it-ins- pected Oiosiva OBfllE J JmmfrndtmLkM com-cnite- lt aggr-wtt- 1 -- j those Contrast that case with others with which the papers are so frequently rich parents full, fighting for children, disgraceful domestic details blazoned abroad, and the chimera of "happiness" and wrecking hundreds of lives, you have to deduce that poverty does develop character, and does teach lessons that we all need, and that to make with your own hands a bre.id pudding for the family you love, is to do more than engage for them a governess, private maids, and a suite at the Biltmore. Proof of this was given In a recent newspaper story of two rich parents who went to the new made tomb of their only child and suicide together. With their moral and spiritual fibers weakened of by the sweetness and softness life, they had to sneak away from the first trouble they couldn't buy or bribe or impress with their In all the yeara in which wealth. I have had first personal, and then affectionately neighborly knowledge of poverty, I have never known the father or mother of poor children to act with similar cowardice but rich persons do it all the time. Tossibly the "Mama" of my little friend's letter has never stopped to think that nine out of every ten of our country's successful and rich persons came from poor homes. Per UT NOT ABETTER, ONE well-to-d- "I I felt." roDdu-to- YOU CAN BUY A BS GG.ER. CAR. men!'"' t e In Zeal for and 't allow it. She hates informality, and says she doesn't belong to the generation of women wha think it amusing to put on a bungalow apron and wash dishes while talking to their We never do come home friends. to peace and pleasantness; sha stays at home all day. brooding oven things, and if we beg her to go to some concert or meeting she says she hasn't white "gloves and clothes like the other women, and she doesn't want them to pity her. "N'ight after night we have a good meal, in a pretty dining room, with Mama sighing and gloomy at If Daisy or the head of the table. I dress for a party or anything she comes up and watches us, and says, 'Go ahead, by all meahj! Marry a poor man, as T did, and get all dragged down with babies and housework.' Sometimes I tell her that some of the richest men in America married when they were ppor, and 1 she says, 'All right. Try itl Your father isn 't don 't blame you. able to place you in a social circle where vou would meet Terrible moments, these, when the highly stenographer or buyer, or the pretty, busy wife, of 2S or 30 or 32, suddenly stops short, and realizes, with a devastating-ielearnes- s ,pf vision, that she is doing something she doesn't want to do. a man who hates the confident and Kathleen Norrla tb dull routine of an office ledger or a teller's rut, getting his enjoyment from hia home, bis leisure hours,hia will go on atea'dily for years plugging away in the same papers and club, hia wife and children, when be can. Sometimes a woman who realizes, on her very honeymoon, that her marriage has been a mistake, and that there is no happiness, no real companionship, ahead, will nevertheless play the game to the- bitter end, concealing her disillusion-- . waiij jn anj visit with Mama, and ment in the depth of her own soul, perhaps make her see things differsnd presenting to the world a brave ently. There are. three of us chiland serene front. dren, my twin brother, who is 22, . If she is a working woman, rather snd a sister of Ifi, and Mama and than a wife and housekeeper, she Dad and myself are the family. We must keep up an appearance of have a seven-roohouse, and a car No matter and everything quite eomfortab! and cheated she feels, it is a part but no regular servant. Dad works of her duty to her employer, and in a piano bouse, and is paid $15 a even more of her duty to herself, week, and Arnold apd I each pay to appear neat and fresh, to pre- in t2o a month. Daisy is still in tend to take an interest in her work, chool, of course. even if she does not, aad to conceal "Mama's people used to have the inward discontent as best she money some money, and she hates housework. may. It isn't our fault that But at bm it is different When w ran pay took and nor a woman suddenly becomes com- that we were born, is it? But she pletely disenchanted with husband, makes us feci it is. Everyone in borne, children and domestic duties, this neighborhood adores my father, she can make things as disagree- - he is a great reader, and I think a as she likes, and real philsopher, he loves music and . able for everyone the family is helpless. picnics, and we three children just A little midwestern librarian who think he is wonderful. lie helped signs herself "Girl Twin' writes me all through my normal course, and me about a situation in which a Arnold had one college year, but middle-agewoman ia making sev- then we had sickness at home, and eral persona very unhappy because he went to work, and is doing well. the is unhappy herself. "But it is terrible to come "This terrible rainy aftrnoon," home at night to Mama. She hates' her letter says, wish vou could cooking, beds and dishes, and every e home-mad- haps she baa never reflected that it American Cities Excel may be one of ber three children Music whose home they will be seeking in 19i0, to ay admiringly, "Here's Anstrlt (IF). Owtp r)At fiASTKlX, the kitchen where she used to eat tb lntrnatlonll7 flmoas r hrr breakfasts, when she was young Ctrllorttrb. u that th raited Bute lt1r. trada tha wnrlt in tha car ftraa ia and poor! " a armphoar eoaeart. And perhaps, if the day romes "Wi work4 fonr rrara fa IVtmtt 0 Racli'a Paaslna arrortltnf' to flt. Hattbaw," when Mama's linreSFjlrt-ii--gf-t ba Mid. "hfora tba performaaca was ukva actress, living in New York, and to rm Jerk. "Thtra la a tea'tearf' la larra Europaaa Mama's only boy is a great inha said, "for oirhaatraa a&d lead ventor, married and living in South rotra," Earonaan of- U) rest no thatr laurela. m first-bora traditloa or'S hundred raara has r!wraa a is America, and Mama -; t naraaaarf tor snd nortbrto think It las married to a rich surgeon, and liv- fha r mora tbaa ooca or ing in London, Mama may find her twtra llb thtm. I ara qafstloolnf tba plarera. Thar ara. la many self established in a beautiful lit- abtllt of tbamarsaloua. Tba Sana tblfif a trul.r casta, tle home, with a car and two fine to tha choral aortatlta. "It la wrong, ttiourb. to arfM from tba servants, plenty to eat and wear, of tba that numaroua 'irfHenra eoneerta and card parties hers for Talta tha New are uontressiry. the ask Big, and just bimonthly let York" rlillharmonlo orchestra." "ft, tno'has a '" and bonorabl tradition. Tat Tuaraolot ters from her adored trio and then lonf would Dot think of contacting blmftalf with she'll find out what trouble is! Then two rehearsals." she'll long for just one of these summer daya back again days Swedish Army Unit when it is her privilege to keep the Church to Sell little house dark and cool, to have the tall glasses of coffee iced and PTOCKHOLM 'API. "for iala Church waiting on the table, to greet the In IdtallT located. ContalDlnt some isluabla historical workers with homecoming Apply First Hsgi cheerful bit of the day's news, some nifnt Itoal Bodr Guard." This offorlns for alls tha Oaa little surprise in the way of ice tauis Adolpbua rliurfh. Ions a placa of cream or fresh cold blackberries, 'vorshlp for thta Stockholm rsrlroant. ta hrau of tha reraot Svadlsb lome little touch of that motherly af- !r'adrastradnrtlon. Whsn regiiUHona want Into affect In 102S fection that shows itself in a pair rutting Sweden's arm? to about of cleaned cloves, an unexpected of Its former atrenath. many old uolta a of silk or re present etrlnrt, others were greatly reduced, stockings, tmd several church cougregatlona nia1o up been bill has that ceipted dentist of offlcera aod enlisted an were broken taking away a whole dollar every up ' The reform haa now emptied tha rjaataraa week from Dad himself. Tha "regiment cannot Adolpluia rhurcb. What does she think life can ever nfford to turn tha rhurrh Into a maaaum and so watiia to aell It to tha blrhei: to her to bring compare opportuni bidder. ties like that! vhat things are in all better the world than love and Tribune Want Ads have shown service? Love and service; the many the key to splendid opportuniIn business. ties two thisgs that money forbids us to give those nearest us. 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OiiH-giti attractive, anil friends in and make daintr for his homecoming for the rest of mv scramble eggs Mama lifef"' ""rook "bis meals, and make tnysolf and problrms, its disillusionment! disappointments, just aa poverty does. ihe rich man who knowi be was married for hia wealth is not much better off than tho poor man who, truly loved by his wife, can't give her the luxuries be would so love to give her. The other day the seven year old boy of one of the finest mothers I ever knew, was smashed flat by a truck right outside hia own 4oor. This boy and his equally lovely little sister had never had a day's illness, ncr a meal that their mother had not provided for them fresh milk and vegetables, cookiea and applesauce. The. mother wa lying in bed, with a new girl babv, when the. news came. bhe eouldn't afford the luxury of grief So she they are poor people. rose Cp when the time came, crushed and quiet, but as "patient, ai efficient, ds before, an example to all her world of what love and faith 6he waa nursing tbe baby can do. when I saw ber, and she looked down at the contented little working face, and said, "It wouldn't do any good to hurt her with the way GEN ER A L... M O T ORS . over the highway throttled down to a walk one moment then glided swiftly away at top speed as his foot came I L J - "Any car can nub hills," he said, "but U king hills slowly in high gear is a real test of Ac EL power." Then as the Oldsmobile crept smoothly over the top of a rather steep hill, youcg J . . . pinned. 465 South Main Street, Salt Leake, Utah Corner Bannock and 11th, Boise, Idaho H N "That t power," he said. "I'm satisfied. Let's go back. You've got a new owner right cow." Qrmi that in tt today. y |