Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Sunday January tasiimiesses WntilhKDOflti igazxodl ©einniiniDiiaiiDDiidDin) shut By Mike Cheteleln You may remember being told as a child “Keep quietl” “Children should be seen not heard” and “You talk too much" You were a “good” kid if you kept quiet However being quiet when you are little causes big problems later in life As an adult you may have been punished for communicating For example if you admit you committed a crime and are sorry about it no one cares You still go to jail If you honestly tell your spouse you are thinking about an affair your marriage suffers if your spouse is not very understanding If you tell someone you feel a little crazy who knows what might happen' So you learn to keep your mouth However businesses fail when managers do not talk to employees or employees db not talk to cus- tomers Everyone mistakenly believes telepathy is working “I ’ thought you knew I was unhappy with your performance” “You should have known I was over- worked” Marriages are ruined by poor com- munication Rather than openly dis- cuss sex money body problems or whatever couples hint about their ' concems or simply say nothing But without support and understanding from your primary teammate you do not go as far In fact a bad marriage can ruin everything in your life Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give and receive communica- - tion from their spouse on any sub- ject Life is miserable if you have no one to openly communicate with' Friendships are based on communi- cation The lack of friends or a 4 spouse to communicate wjth often leads to mental problems So the first communication skill you need is to get out there and talk Unfortunately on some topics you’ve learned to watch what you say to keep it under your hat to zip it up - “So that is the basic lesson that anybody learns in this universe They learn to keep their mouth shut and it’s the wrong lesson When in doubt talk When in doubt communicate” — L Ron Hubbard Whenever you have doubts about something communicate' Talk talk talk until the problem resolves When you feel stress disagreement or resistance between you and some- one near you the wrong thing to do is ignore the problem Instead start communicating When you know you should say something say it! For example an employee knows another employee is embezzling money and so says something to the employee andor boss A doctor knows he must talk about the patient’s rude behavior to the office staff An employer knows she must discuss poor performance issues with some employees Take the bull by the horns Move ahead in life Spit it out If you’re worried about the conse- quences of saying something you 14' 2003 — A9 raiD can ask first Examples: “Lisa I want to say something about your driving to help keep you out of accidents but I don’t want to upset you Can I tell you what I diink or should I keep my mouth shut?” “Boss should I tell you if I think ' you are giving me bad advice?” In the long run you are always better off by communicating Take responsibility and talk Staying silent solves nothing Provided by TipsForSuccessorg a unteer organization to promote the works of L Ron Hubbard Copyright (c) 2002 TipsForSuccessorg All rights reserved Acknowledgment is made to !°r P®88'00 J“ Rolubbari righted orksrt LIRHubb C°Py’ Court upholds P&G rumors ruling Coach Continued from A8 Covey Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and Lions International Recently she started training for life coaching she said and felt that it was something she was already doing Up until recently she helped small businesses with the softer side of their operation: communication interpersonal skills time management The work she has done has led her to believe that businesses often production at the expense of their employees Now in addition to working with small businesses she is looking to help individuals reach their goals both in and out of the workplace Too often she said businesses and individuals won't give themselves the support they need to make lasting changes That's where she comes in So has Borgogna ever had a period when she felt like she needed a change? Her first response was no: she has always been able to get what she wanted from life But on second thought she remembered a time when she felt burned out as a over-emphiisi- teacher She gave herself two years to explore different avenues she said: she started serving on hoards and writing curriculum When an opening came up in the Georgia Department of Education she went for it and got it So she followed the advice she gives her clients: she made a plan and found a solution For her it was a way out Chris's story has a different path: she found a way to be happier in her job But though her coaching sessions showed her that she needed a life outside of work she said they also made her a better professional "Ultimately I'll be a more successful business person" she said "This will help me go to the next level" For more information SALT LAKE CITY (AP) — An appeals court has ruled that a federal judge in Utah was coirect in dismissing a lawsuit by Procter & Gamble accusing Amway Corp of spreading rumors linking P&G with the Church of Satan and devil worship The unanimous Monday decision by a e panel of the US Circuit Court of Appeals in Denver upheld a 2001 ruling by US District Judge Dale A Kimball who held that the rumors were not defamatory and that Procter & Gamble had not made a case for specific damages In upholding Kimball’s decision the Oth Circuit ruling concluded that throughout its "protracted and duplicative litigation P&G has tried to evade the law of the case doctrine and has squandered scarce judicial resources” P&G spokeswoman Linda Ulrcy on Tuesday said that while the company was disappointed with the 10th Circuit ruling1 they have a ease in Texas against Amway and individual distributors — including an Ogden man — that remains to he tried sWe believe it is wrong for anybody to spread false rumors against our compathree-judg- I 25-pa- ge ny" Ulrey said rumors began linking IX'vil-worsh- ip look online at P&G's former logo crescent-shape- d depicting a bearded man on the moon and stars to Satanism in the late 1970s The supposed Satanic connection was further fueled by a rumor that the company's president had promoted on a Phil Donahue show No such show was ever taped In 1995 P&G sued Amway distributor Randy L Haugen of Ogden for allegedly spreading the Satanic rumor to other Amway salesmen on a phone-messang system Haugen passed along the Donahue story in Amway 's common message system and one of its subscribers relayed the message to Procter & Gamble Amway says it tided quickly to quash the to Haugen rumor sending a “truth-kit- ” who put a retraction on the message system Procter & Gamble later named Amway as a defendant in the complaint against Haugen In a Tuesday statement Amway general counsel Michael Mohr said the Ada Mich-hitse- d company was "proud hut not surprised that Amway has been completely vindicated in this ridiculous case We never spread the rumor — in fact we spent years helping P&G fight it" Cincinnati-base- d P&G has sued 15 times to stop the rumors eight times involving Amway or its distributors Amway has spent at least $3(1 million on legal hills since the suits began nearly eight years ago company spokeswoman Susan Stcyens said’ Tuesday Ulrey ' declined to say how much P&G has spent More than 60 lawyers for the two sides have generated more than 2 million pages of documents in three federal lawsuits filed by the companies in Utah Texas and Michigan The Michigan ease was dismissed in 2001 A federal judge in Texas threw out some of P&G's claims in 1999 and ruled for Amway in another part of the case As in Utah P&G claimed Amway sales agents spread the rumored Satanic tics and said the company was responsible for the actions of its salespeople On appeal a three-judg- e panel of the 5th US Circuit Court of Appeals upheld part of the lower court ruling hut ruled that P&G's trademark and racketeering claims should go forward In October 2001 Amway lost its Supreme Court appeal on that case w hen the court without comment declined to review the Texas lower court's decision that rumors spread to hurt ii company arc not entitled to protection “That doesn't mean the case ends: that just means they declined to hear that portion of the case" Stevens said five-spee- GOVERNMENT BOOKS & MORE! 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