Show I The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday August 12 1999 — Page 25 Bizarre wedding upsets guest By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: I recently attended a wedding Both the bnde and groom had been married before and have chil- dren by their previous marriages who were to participate in the wedding — a very nice touch This was a formal affair to be followed by a catered reception The bride wore a gorgeous gown with a veil and long train There were mounds of fresh flowers on the altar and the elegantly dressed guests filed into the church and took their seats on the arms of the luxedoed ushers The bride and groom entered and walked down the aisle Instead of going to the altar they seated themselves in the front row which was most unusual The minister then stood up and annninv-f-d “The couple will not be getting married today Unfortu- nately the groom's divorce is not yet final Please enjoy the reception" The reception went on with the father of the non-brimaking a toast to the couple Everyone seemed in great spirits The left immediately after the dinner for in Acapulco the I cannot believe any preacher in his right mind would go along with such a farce I'm betting he didn't know until he arrived at the church just like the rest of the guests that the groom’s divorce had not been finalized Ann this didn't lake place in some zany place like Hollywood It was in Decatur 111 grassroots Pride of the Prairie Soybean Capital of the World If they have a real wedding in a few weeks I'm NOT attending — Still in Shock in Illinois de non-marri- non-marri- DEAR ILLINOIS: I'm sure the other guests were just as shocked as you were I am also certain as you surmised that the minister did not know until he arrived at the church that the groom was not free to many My guess is the couple waited until the very last minute hoping the divorce would be finalized When it didn't come through they decided to have the celebration sans the wedding I hope for their sake when the divorce DOES come through that they will not have another wedding DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband and I are currently undergoing fertility treatment It is stressful for both of us but we are managing The problem I am writing about is my mother Mom is in her 50's and is an intelligent woman However she is constantly saying things to me that are totally inappropriate and downright hurtful Last week she said “Maybe you should get a dog instead" Yesterday she told me "I never had any problems like this I don't know what is wrong with you" She is forever telling me I am too tense and that I should "simply relax” I have told Mom that her comments are very upsetting but she insists that I have lost my sense of humor I don't find her remarks funny in the least and have told her so but it seems to make no difference I cannot discuss this with any other family members because my fertility problems are my own business and I wish to keep them that way I don't want to stop talking to my mother hut I see no alternative Any suggestions? — At Rope's End in Utah DEAR UTAH: Your mother must have had a lousy relationship with her mother and you are the victim of that awful legacy Do not confide in her Stay off the subject of your efforts to conceive If she asks questions simply say “I'll let you know if there is anything to report" End of problem FOR BETTER OR WORSE WMMA GO 0UMMI8NT MWN?MlKC APRIL left me ItiS UTTlf SLUE oh— MAyne - I WANT 16 GO CAR ShgUG O ' out with people m cmn&e OUf WITH HER PUMBRUENPfc-BU- T SHE ANOTHER NlSflT then WONT GO our wrrwA DILBERT I'N GOING To A NO NATTER A WHAT NAN WITH CAPTURE THE QUEEN BEE OF NARKXTING A ROPE HERE TO SEE YOU SHE SAYS OONT BE SEDUCED BY HER NARKETING I WASNTT LOYAL ENOUGH TO STOP HIN BUZZ I ARLO AND JANIS ITS MOT mmekjud MMotW The increasing human lifespan Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association disease and a host rtf degenerative afflictions are a major cause of disability in the elderly and are an increasing public health concern In this century living longer is rarely associated with living better so I am not surprised when older patients tell me they don’t WANT to live to 100 By DEAR DR GOTT: Years ago three score and 10 years was considered a normal life span Is it true that because of medical advances people can now expect to live into their 90s? DEAR READER: Yes if people take care of Therefore FlPfcAS WNNINTHEPUMW TOWN - future medical efforts to increase longevity have to take into account the very real problems of disability and dependency DEAR DR GOTT I have a heart murmur Could this cause a rapid pulse? 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