Show Millard 2 Page I County Ihurs SPS Dec 25 19H6 The Christmas Gift As we help our children grow and learn sooner or later we must use some form of discipline Punishment if used properly will produce rapid changes in children’s behavior recommend strongly however that parents use punishment sparingly It does encourage the child to refrain from misbehavior but your real task as a parent is to teach the child to be a person By using the more positive methods you can teach the child positive ways of behaving Effective relies on punishment withholding rewards or privileges and provides a clear cut method of earning it is a them back Before punishing good idea to give a cue (a physical or verbal warning that the behavior is to stop at once) Then punishment should follow immediately after the offense so that the child understands the association between the misbehavior and the punishment Always try to remain calm while punishing Anger is likely to engender the hate feelings in the person being punished to fit the Design the punishment child and the offense Carefully weigh your child’s reaction to a punishment to avoid damage to the child In all cases the cardinal rule is to punish the behavior not the child Hatred builds quickly when punishment hurts the child physically Physical punishment should be neither severe nor prolonged It can be harmful to a child and often does not accomplish the goal Besides parents shouldn’t want their children to fear them If a parent slaps or hits a child in anger the undesirable behavior may stop but two things are wrong with this method: (1) both parent and child are likely to be upset for some time and (2) no pare it can hit a child every time he or she misbehaves Community Calendar Dec 24 Christmas Eve service Delta Community Church 7 pm Dec 27 Kurt and Jennifer Alloway reception 7 to 9 pm Sutherland Ward Cultural Hall Dec 28 Merlin President and Mrs 9 Christensen farewell testimonial am Delta Utah Stake Center Elder John F Christensen mission farewell 10:40 a m Oak City Ward Chapel Elder James R Stubbs mission 11 am farewell Delta 7th Waid Open House pm parent’s home 2425 So 5th West Delta Dec 30 Dive for money and prizes 2 pm West Millard Pool Dec 31 New Year's Eve Dance 10 Palomar pm 2 am New Years Eve Party ME Bird Center 7 pm Bingo 7:30 dance 9:30 Jan 5 Beef tag deadline Millard County Jr Livestock Show Immunization clinic 1:30 am & pm Delta Public Health office 14 Jan Basic EMT Course in Fillmore Call Kent Dalton for information Jan 7 Dedication of new Fillmore City and Building Library 5 pm Openhouse follows Vaughn J Featherstone will give dedicatory address and prayer Delta Public Health Blood Pressure 40 pm clinic 1:30 am & Jan 9 Karen Lynn Palmer Sheldon Dwight Western Open House pm Hinckley Ward Jan 12 Artslide lecture from the National Gallery of Art at Fillmore Library 7:30 pm pm WBWiMJg® Preep The John Adams family was the first presidential White House then uncompleted family to live In the Millard County The Chronicle Progress USPS Alcoholics j Anonymous I I J Meetings: Mon & Wed 8 pm at Delta Mental Health offices J 51 North Center 5 J located Publisher Editor Susan j Dulson Editorial Amott Mark al Large Reporter ALANON: For info call Advertising Riley Wood Sales S TEENAGE Ward Circulation Circulation Commercial Comp Production Printing Dutson Shellie In Advance Subscriptions SIS 00 per year In County In County 00 per 6 months Out of Out County of County PROBLEMS? Call Geno: Circulation Julie $10 00 per 00 per 6 0 DHii Offices to Close year months cents Single Copy Send Address changes POSTMASTER Box 249 Deha Utah 84624 P Advcrtumf lUtn Clan Poftiff 3400 All Millard County Offices will be the 26th of on Friday 1986 and Friday the 2nd December of January 1987 By order of the this Millard County Commissioners 1986 25th day of November closed to I NEW PHONE NUMBERS hwSaiua I j I Legal Billing Sales Dawn Carder Design Fillmore Office Manager Evelyn Mallei Deb Greathouse Accounts Receivable Rita Bullcreek j j Fillmore City Fillmore City Library £ Soldiers coming home from the camps the trenches and battlefields of the first world war brought a plague lhai swept the country in the fall and winter of 1918 influenza There were many sick and dying in our town in late October The medicine as ailublc had little effect and the weary overworked doctor was too busy to make many house calls d The schools were closed and (he schoolhousc ihc new yellow brick was turned into a schoolhouse All public gatherings were hospital dosed Many families had lost someone Our family stayed home away from people so we would not get the deadly disease and bring it home to Mama Mama had lain in bed five of over seven months to have a living child to add to our family of three children Papa was the superintendent of Sunday Schools One night a man came to our home on Sunday School business He was not ill He stayed a few minutes A few days later this man was ill with the influenza and was soon gone We were afraid Afraid hat he might have brought the disease to our home and he had Mama got the influenza and pneumoniaShe became desperately ill and threatened to lose the life she had lain quietly so long to save after so many disappointments and her own life Papa was angry angry whh himself for letting the man through our door even though the man would have never come if he had any idea that he had been exposed and was coming down with the influenza Papa had to go outside and walk around the house to cool his anger when he saw how mama suffered Papa’s sister a RN came to help through the hard time She wore a mask over her face whenever she attended our mother and never did get the disease at that time The outcome looked terrifying but with prayers of faith love and good nursing our mother survived She was too weak and ill to prepare Christmas for her family On the 24th of December 1918 Christmas Eve our brother was worn alive and well We knew this child was a special gift There were no other gifts no tinsel no Christmas tree no ribbon tied presents but there was the greatest gift a family could receive We had a baby brother a living loving mother who would be well and our gratitude to Him from whom alt gifts and blessings surely come Henrie Mary Millard County Chronicle Progress staff and correspondents Wish you peace and prosperity joy and cheer As you pedal thru the holidays and into the Mew Year JOHN WATERDURY Dear John Letters Dear John My husband used to be so strong He was healthy involved in church and in love with me and the kids Now he drinks and everything has changed He doesn’t know what he’s doing! Do you have any advise for him? Fractured Faith Dear Fractured I really believe that we all know what we should be doing at least for the most part We tell ourselves “I should should be doing be doing this or that” In fact we are sometimes our own Wr'sY enemy setting up limits or expectations that we feel are essential to follow Then because we don’t follow'fTirough we often interpret that as a sign that we’re just not as good a person as we should be And once we believe we’re not really a good person we give ourselves permission to behave as if we aren’t a good person Then anything goes My advice for you and your husband is to get some help At a minimum give him this information: Never take the first drink This bit of advice sounds so simple that I almost hesitate to mention it However it’s the first drink that spells disaster not the last one Alcoholics like to prove me wrong on this point They take the first drink and then point out that the sky is not falling that the world is not coming to an end Then they proceed to get drunk Maybe not that hour or that day but they get there nevertheless It’s the first drink that does it though Not the last Just like when you get run over by a freight train it’s not the caboose that kills you! Do not experiment with drinking This advice is useless All alcoholics periment with drinking different kinds of alcohol trying to find the right brand or type of drink that will allow them to drink without losing control Ultimately they find that no such drink exists but that learning process often takes years to unfold And in the process everyone loses or Understand that alcoholism chemical dependency is a legitimate disorder It is recognized as such by the American Medical Association the World Health Organization and the American Bar Association It is not the result of a weakness in personality or stress or anxiety But rather it is a disease process that has specific set of that follow a signs and symptoms predictable course Do not think of alcohol as a challenge This is a hard concept to understand especially when the teaching of the day is aimed at meeting in life the various challenges by developing sufficient strength to overYou don’t overcome come them alcoholism or chemical dependency That concept underlies all successful treatment To surrender means to hit the bottom to recognize that you are that life has powerless over alcohol become unmanageable despite every effort on your part It is a concept which is only fully understood by becoming sick and tired of being sick without and tired incomprehensible the presence of tremendous pain and anguish Wisdom sees to indicate that for us to make the most of the present it is essential to learn from the past and plan for the future without becoming too preoccupied with either It’s a juggling act and as long as balance is maintained success has an opportunity to show itself There is no guarantee and even at it’s best life is a gamble I guess that’s the way it’s supposed to be Now for you Call Alanon for support and call a treatment center for inDon’t resign tervention techniques yourself to a life of pain Psychiatrist offers holiday advice to women “We want everything to be just right We feel like we have to save make something cute for money baked everyone prepare delicious send Christmas Cards to goods everyone we haven’t written all year decorate the tree and living room for Christmas and keep up the regular chores of laundry meals and house cleaning No wonder women feel so much stress during the holidays” exa plains Dr Katherine Greenwood psychiatrist at HSA Riverwood Hospital in Provo The holidays are known to put some mothers in over their head ”The holidays should be relaxing” says Dr Greenwood Cooking should be simple and planned in advance Baking for ail the neighbors can be too much when a simple card could do just fine We tend to get so busy doing that we forget that the most valuable gift is not in giving presents and service Dr Greenwood believes that “spenfor your ding time being available" spouse and children is a far more important and valued gift than what mothers and wives often spend their energies on during the holiday season “You’re not much good to others w hen you’re not in good shape yourself" Dr Greenwood explains “Taking on more than is reasonable during the holidays can greatly detract from giving good time to your family” Taking care of yourself first is essential to being valuable to others says Greenwood “I come first” is an important attitude to reserve space and time for proper sleep exercise and time to read and relax Then when you have taken regular time for yourself you are in much better condition to spend time with your husband and children activites can be acSome complished while being available to your family comments Greenwood light reading and even Crocheting cooking can be personally relaxing while allowing availability to your family without upset Some activities can even be good to involve family be accan members so that tasks complished while visiting with them Dr Greenwood finds some of her best time with her children has been when she has set aside blocks of time (even days) to do light activities at home while being available and willing to share time with her children on an individual basis The holidays are traditionally stressful to women when traditions run them rather than the reverse Dr advice is to simplify Greenwood's where possible and make a priority of being available to your family to give them the most valued gift— the gift of self OHS Journalism Class Middle America Search for “Middle America” Zeddis Copyright by Bob Thomas San Francisco 1986 There was never any doubt in mv mind (hat Bill Zeddis was an artist No way in the world he could have been anything else He strolled into the lounge of the Kennebunk Inn late of a morning and helped himself ito the bartender’s cof fee pot He used no cream at all but he plopped five rounded teaspoons of sugar into his cup was admiring framed seascapes and waiting for the dining room to open at noon but of a sudden his presence distracted me He had a full head of hair that was coarse for a trim He was wearlong bedroom slippers baggy ing slacks and a shaggy blue gray corduroy turtleneck sweater that looked like it had been knitted for Sidney Greenstreet It did not hang well on a 145 pounds man guessed at His eyes seemed all but lost in dark sockets and his face sported a stubble With all of that though it was his hands that kept reclaiming my attention They looked like the work of Rodin and fixtures that belonged on the end of a surgeon’s arm Or maybe the insured property of a concert pianist They were big hands but finely sculptured The fingers were long and they looked like they well may have been the strongest part of his body "You’re an artist aren’t you?” asked “I’ve had a few days when felt like one of those" U answered It was a friendly voice— one that knew something of humor and laughter "What makes you ask?" tried to explain to him (hat thought there were certain people blessed with the appearances of their roles in life Like Patton looked like a general Roosevelt like a world leader Churchill like “John Bull” himself and Mussolini like a pompous dictator told him belonged in some He Greenwich Village garrett or a Paris atelier We had lunch together that day and he agreed to show me some of his paintings the next afternoon and to "think about” my suggestion that I do a story about him for the local paper saw his work the next day: landscapes and seascapes still life and portraits all done in tempera- -a technique of the old masters that involves the use of albumin They were all commissioned pieces Bill Zeddis no longer believed in “painting for the fun of it” He was from the Midwest I would His early training learn was in Chicago and when he learned all he could there he went on to New York He supported himself as a draftsman while he practiced his art And he mar- - ried once twice and maybe another lime as recall our chatting And he had children now grown and on their own Bill Zeddis is a chain smoker He can’t remember a tirrte when he didn’t smoke four and five packs of cigarets a day He drags on a filtered brand but they haven’t prevented his morning coughing spells or the fact that his emphysema is worsening would be to guess Zeddis’ age He gave no clues mentioned no dates in the telling of his life He looked but knew there was no poverty reason for that His works were bringing him sufficient money to allow him la dolce vita if he had preferred that He didn’t though He opted for a simple life in the relative quiet of a Maine coastal All he wanted was his community easel his paints his brushes and uninterrupted time to paint You should not however think of Bill Zeddis as a recluse He talks regularly to people at the Rockefeller and Guggenheim museums Other local artists are his friends Everybody in Kennebunk and Kennebunkport knows him Even Vice President George Bush who sometime vacations in the area had to wonder if Bill Zeddis had any unfulfilled dreams He did indeed He wanted to board a in Cincinnati and cruise down the Ohio River into the Mississippi and all the way to New Orleans And he wanted to sit high on a deck and sketch the scenes that maybe Mark Twain had seen a century before Whatever his age perceived that there still was a lot of little boy left in Bill Zeddis stayed in that small corner of Maine for the better part of two weeks bumped into Bill a time or two again Once in a coffee shop and another time out on a spit of rock as he painted the sea and an imaginary armada He was working quickly that last day-though time was his greatest enemy Or maybe he simply wanted to catch the best of the day's light would not am not an artist know which Bill is one of the people from “out on the road" that frequently think about may be a bit envious of him He can sit and paint and not concern himself with the daily grind would like to sit and write and not concern myself with the daily grind What I’d really like is to join him on the cruise aboard a paddle-heeler -Cincinnati to New Orleans Ah someday Maybe |