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Show The Salt Fake Tribune. Simdav M , ril 2. PI7X Claustrophobia treated head-o- n vvay n Soioinun: My stMor hav elauv i thi 0i a qu.to badly This makes it hard fur her at home or at the office no matter v. here she is or in the (ms But there is just no way she can a fm (I gon.g to a psychiatrist for a couple of j t ars on the ( hance she might lie able to clear it up And the trouble is that the more difficult Ilnurs become for her, the worse she .seems to fet, so it kind of a vicious circle What does someone do in a situation like this? AT Dr I Dear A.T.: A lot of doctors are now try mg to ill .d with troubles like your sister's in a fairly rather than s i,ughl forward, practical way ili Jung around at great length to find out what ma;. have caused the problem some id or Id i ars ago Lit me give you one example of (his that I Duke University one across recently Medical Center's "Bad Habits Clinic. It Uses behavior modification techniques to help people kuk all sorts of bad habits. They u.,e the term c i broadly to include phobias, insomnia, j i m creating, tension, anxiety, smoking, and a vtial difticulties Dr Patrick Boudewyns, who heads the clinic, ys that the medical psychologists there think i themselves more as teachers than as iberapists. People who come to the dime are c. lied clienis lamer than palieiils and nnijuuy 'I. nks of his or her condition as abnormal wnung the techniques for getting at phobias and le "systematic 'il'aidmg In .systematic the client first mis how to relax and (hen, in later sessions, hi gins to (ace his tears. If he has a phobia about cakes, he might be told to (irst think about toy ikes, then about, real ones - and go on until he .i.ild hold a live one (harmless variety) while i. maining very relaxed II you are relaxed, Dr Poudewyns says, you can't be anxious In flixxling, the client is simply asked to do, i i ler supervision, what he is atraid oi doing by and keep repeating this over a period ! time until the anxiety dies out. Dr. Boudewyns that, contrary to what many people think, a o rson with a phobia doesn't go crazy when o iced to face his fears ( f course, I don't know if this kind of - havioral retraining would be the host method r your sister. I mention it ju-- as an example of direct ways that are now available for '. ding with quite a number of psychological nblenis. For guidance, your sister should nsult a doctor or a local healh clinic. Incidentally, phobias are quilt- common and There is .ie in hundreds ot varieties iM,ihobia dear ot fun. levophobia (fear of on the left ndei. erulhophobia 'fear of icdi and aureraphobiu 'fear of Not them lights', o name but a few There is even phi bi a phobia 'i. ar of be mg atraid' ( , 71 )y'-- 3 v . v..- AnM&Uiiici Sorry for 95 percent of study women Dear Ann just read the results of a survey that said 95 percent of tlx- - men in this country are lousy in LuimIi-is- : 1 lied Thats not all the women who were asked percent, five four percent are even iable ' " full-tim- l- i means This that only one,j a man hundred 1 1 not teac Mi" didn't say how m my xmiit ii were interviewed, lull led soiiy tor 5 pel cent of them Dear Ann Landers: would novel let! my story to anyone else because I mu si protect my husband, plus the But I'm sure nolxxly would believe il I am married to a min.stcr He gives me room and board. Beyond that provide for myself by wot king a e job. I have worked outside th home (as well as inside for 2.) years The only time off was to have live children. As the wife ot the minister, I am expected to take part in hutch activities and I do My husband lavishes love and allot tion (and gifts) on his parishioners, but he doesnt have a kind word tor anyone in this house except the dog He is a splendid minister and people think he is an angel. Every time someone tells me how lucky I am to be niarm-- to such a saint 1 could sl earn I often wonder how many othei minisiers wives have this problem Do they ever writcj to you or am I the only one? Please print mv letter Perhaps someone in your vast reading audience will find a moment to say a kind word to the minister's wife. Believe me, she would appreciate it Without Benefit Of Clergy Dear Without: You are not alone Over tile years, Ive heard from many women who are walking in your moccasins, dear. Borne are married to d CtOP5 Who ha'L time foi t araiK Fit their own families 1 their opinions declared. "Of the remaining in Dr Neil Solomon Dc.tr , vG ; v v ' tl in is c a are totally inadequate or utterly hopeless The women who participated in the.se studies wc-ineilher feminists nor traditionalists they were just average women from 2b years of age up to the middle 40s most of them married The bottom line was as follows "Women are patient, tender, nurturing and giving. Men are competitive, aggressive and assertiv e Will you kindly state your view s We are Dying To Know In Miami Dear Miami: Please dont die. Here's my opinion for whatever its worth The survey sounds like bullfeatliers with a sprinkling of balderdash. Some men are patient, tender, nurturing and giving, while some women are competitive, aggressive and assertive. To a: igr. th...c qua.'die- - to one -; r'r h. other is simply absurd good lover. The rest hope you are finding rewards and satisfaction in your children, your work, or your Inends to make up for the emptiness m your mat riage Dear Alin Landers: Please my side I need your help. I have to know it it is right lor a mother to spank a kid the sec ond time if he laughs alter the (li st spanking? I am 11 years old and live in Harold Trenton, N J. A kid who laughs afler ilaruld: Dear a spanking g.ves the idea that the spanking did not accomplish anything that it was sort of a joke. He is then apt to get a second spanking which is not so funny. So wise up and stop laughing already. Dear Ann Landers: Your advice to the woman who was lightened by obscene phone calls was good. You said, "Don't utter a sound Simply hang up The caller gets his jollies trom an angry response and will continue to harass you if you fall into the trap My husband works tor the phono company. He suggested another way to got rid of thesickies Buv a dimostme whistle and keep it beside the phone When an obscene call comes through or someone- who likes to play games like breathing hard .md not saying 1 lx-o- n - - any thing those ol w 1, i U't a I y "U - blow (lrl elates .. av - the whistle as hard as you can and il will just aixmt take his car oil i"i It s a No charge tor this. voui the v all tor il' back pa me and my lainily -c olumn has giv (Irand ILipid-- . Mich .it M i Bell Dear Grand: My lm-m- l lolls me the whistle Is not a gixxt idea A "violent reaction trom the viciim w what the sit kie wants, and it will bring him back tor more The i way to turn him off is to hang up without a word. Dear Ann: My 2" y ear-oldaughter is Ux heuuMful iol her own gixxi Siive childhcxxt she- was unable to make friends. Gills considered her such out of heavy competition she was left everything. As she grew older her troubles multiplied Now men get into lights over her. 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