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Show Lakeside Review North, Wednesday, January 30, 1985 2B 10 Million Women to Face Life After Death of Spouse Learn Grief Natural Feeling Self-Relian-ce SUSAN TANNER HOLMES deeds are. A central location such as a lawyers office or safe deposit box is a good idea, said Review Correspondent Each year FARMINGTON hundreds of thousands of women are left in the potentially insecure state of widowhood. Government statistics have shown more than 10 million widows living an average of 19 Preparation for the loss of a spouse can begin the day after the wedding. Mary Hughes, director of the Davis School District's Parent Education Resource Center, said, Young wives should be encouraged to finish their education and then keep up their skills. Dont put marriage certificates, will save a major house cleaning effort and a great deal of stress, she said. If you are doing your homework and filling your own personal needs in life by keeping your own identity, it is easier to handle the death, because you are able to realize your own potential, she said. Death doesnt choose one age group, careful marriage planning could save the remaining partner stress during an emotionally tramatic period, said says what you want it to say. It goes without saying that you should have one. Go over the sources of income. Some of these items secu- rity, pension plans, bank accounts, stocks, bonds and other securities, veterans benefits, properties, and trusts. Know where all the policies, copies of policies, contact people, passbooks, certificates and Start Day DR GEORGE SNELL Special to the Lakeside Review A few years ago a researcher from Stanford University discovered seven behaviors which helped people be better achievers. This improved achievement in people in many occupations including college students, business owners and managers, professionals, athletes and skilled laborers. It's easy to guess what some of those behaviors were: regular exercise and moderate alcohol use. One, however, the may be a bit of a surprise eating of breakfast regularly. Breakfast is a time to fuel up at non-smokin- g. - the start of the day. Too often people get jazzed up only at the coffee pot. Or maybe sludged up, with high fat breakfast foods like eggs, bacon and sausage. This meal is an ideal time to take on some nutrients which are often overlooked in our American diet - iron and fiber. Iron is the essential mineral our bodies need to carry oxygen to all tissues via the red blood cells. -- High Blood Iron deficiency (lack of iron) is the most common nutritional problem in our country today. Groups of adults particularly prone to develop iron deficiency include the following: 1. women, who Menstruating need twice as much iron as men. The RDA (recommended daily allowance) of iron is 18 mg for women and 10 mg for men. 2. Dieters who exercise. These people restrict food intake and have increased iron loss in sweat and feces. 3. Vegetarians - especially those who eat no animal protein or products. Lean red meat is rich in iron. - 4. Natural food" eaters those who eat foods with no additives often avoid preparation which are commercially producted. Fiber is the structural part of plants which is not degested in our intestines. Fiber soaks up water and provides bulk to human waste, thus speeding up thq fecal stream and improving iron-fortifi- high blood pressure. The high prevalance of the disease concerns health professionals. but the real concerns are that many people are not aware that they have high blood pressure. Even among those who are aware, there are several million who don't have the disease under control. The president of the Utah Heart Association, Dr. Farrell M. Calton, said high blood pressure, also called hypertension, is a peculiar disease because it usually docs not have any symptoms and the only way to detect it is by having a blood pressure check during a medical examination. A person can look and feel terrific and still have high blood pressure. And thats where the risk lies, because uncontrolled high blood pressure can lead to stroke, heart attack and heart or kidney failure, r he said. of under- standing of the consequences of high blood pressure is one of the major reasons why people dont think of it as a serious disease, the Heart Association president said. Everyone has blood pressure. It is force of the blood against the walls of the blood vessels in the body. These vessels expand and grams daily. So what should you eat for breakfast? Check cereal boxes for iron and fiber content per serving. The information in the table is printed on the side of each cereal package. If you add milk and orange juice, you have added vitamins, calcium and other nutrients and also improved iron absorption. Vitamin C in orange juice enhances the absorption of iron in cereals by as much as 2 to 3 times. So gas up in the morning, and be champions! You can do it quickly and inexpensively too. likely to go up again, he said. High blood pressure needs g treatment to keep it under control," Dr. Calton said. In some patients, high blood life-lon- medication may cause side ef- fects. These side effects should be reported to the doctor so that the medication can be changed. Dis- ' ' Mrs. Ellison, wife John and Katherine B. or Layton at . ing to the edges came to rest between a grape-juic- e stained tee shirt and a grease-smudge- d pair 1 of sweats. 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No pack rat could stowe away a more colorful cache of loot than the tinfoil gum wrappers, empty Pepsi cans and dead boxelder bugs those kids home that werent tacked down. stash beneath the clothes hamper So I promptly bought a couple of lid. throw rugs and positioned them One son, in particular, has been near the broom closet. known to tunnel down a long hallway, navigate two flights of Logic and one semester of stairs, and maneuver through the freshman psychology told me that three basement doors that lead to although its perfectly normal for the laundry room, just to avoid youngsters to sweep garbage unmaking a legitimate deposit in his der a rug it's downright perverted for them to stowe it with the fambedroom waste paper basket. Do you really want me to ilys soiled clothes. The plan backfired though, wash all these bent-u- p football when I found that while my chilcards? I once asked him. Yes, he replied and without dren were perfectly content to batting an eye added, And iron dispose of soft stuff like dust and out the wrinkles when theyre crumbs beneath the nearest rug, unwieldy stuff like moldy banana dry." Some of my kids even bring peels and deceased pet grasshopthings home from school to cere- pers went with increased regularimoniously bury beneath their ty into the hamper. Thus Ive become reconciled to dirty p.j.s when Im not looking. fact that for as long as the the But the teachers trash can is such a long way from my desk," patter of little feet resounds my first-gradexplained when I across my washroom floor, the asked how a petrified Halloween laundry will have to be sorted incolors, and to three piles-whi- tes, cupcake wrapper with stale particles of pumpkin icing still cling unmentionables. Rental 0J ofervtce Q!))rJding ofpecialuls 298-344- 451-338- uon:uv PLUS- 394-763- 5 widowhood For more information, help or a booklet, call the Davis County Mental Health Center in Bountiful at Farmington at to the Lakeside Review continuing the medicine because it has side effects is not a solu- Groom Tuxedo Ph. though n; FREE QLloh't Allen Cooley. Six children were born to the Ellisons, four of whom are living. They are Mrs. Daryl C. (Jean) Warren, Denver, Colo.; Mrs. Ralph W. (Kathryn) Firth, Lay-toPete Ellison, Sunset; and Ted Ellison, Fruit Heights. One son,. Comdr. John C. Ellison, was killed in Vietnam. Another son died shortly after birth. A WEEK OFF E. Bay View Literary Club. Mrs. Ellison was born Feb. 2, 1905, in Mason City, Iowa, to K -- of Harold Ellison, is active in the LDS Church, and is a member of the To Choose From IN-STOC- t , LAYTON Florence C. Ellison, formerly of Layton and San Francisco, will observe her 80th birthday, Saturday, Feb. 2, at a special family dinner. BRIDAL GOWN SALE 400 s 80th Birthday Event Dated contract to accommodate blood tion,- the Heart Association prespressure as it goes up and down ident said. during heart beats and between Among the elderly, Dr. Calton heart beats, Dr. Calton explained. said, especially among those who When the blood pressure rises may be taking several medicines above normal limits and stays for a variety of ailments, there is often confusion about the frethere, it is dangerous to the individual's health. quency of use and the quantity of For most ailments, people are the dose. in the habit of getting cured if Dr. Calton said that if all or most of the cases of high blood they are taking proper medicines. Unfortunately, a majority of high pressure are controlled, We blood pressure cases cannot be stand a chance of considerably recured, they can only be con- ducing the incidence of stroke, trolled. If patients discontinue heart attacks andor kidney failmedication because their blood ure, along with savings in health pressure is back to normal, it is care costs. GOWNS ARE . v V FLORENCE C. ELLISON Family - Even changes a womans life,, it is an opportunity for growth. SHARON NAUTA STEELE Special kernel grains. The average amount of fiber recommended each day is five grams, while a high fiber diet would contain 10 Pressure Sometimes In fact, the lack accept it. Many decisions will not wait until the new widow is able to cope. Good legal support at this time may be invaluable. Laundry Hamper Hides Treasures Important research in recent years demonstrates that people with high fiver diets have much less colon (large intestine) cancer, appendicitis, diverticulitis (a serious colon disease in middle age ane older folks) and hemorrhoids. Fiber is found in vegetables, cereals and breads made from whole Undetected, Often Uncontrolled One out of every four adults in this country is estimated to have toward her are changed. It may be necessary to seek new friends." Emotional support and practical assistance are two fo the chief helps relatives and friends can give. The widow needs a sympathetic ear most. Let her express her emotions and talk about the death until she can When the widow becomes aware of the reality of the loss, she may experience a range of confusing and alarming emotions. Sometimes there is pain, loneliness, depression and sometimes guilt. Breakfast With hus- world". attitudes ness. Rain or Shine the The third and final stage is a long, difficult and painful process. The decision to let go of the past and look forward to a new life marks the beginning of recovery. Sometimes a woman is surprised to find that peoples During this time memories preoccupy the widow. Often there are physical symptoms of loss of appetite, and sleepless- Your Familys Health t the states. press grief. Mrs. Hughes. anger--a- God, Sometimes she feels abandoned and isolated from others and unable to cope, the booklet Government statistics show that three out of four married women become widows and one out of four widows is under 45, often with young children. While grief is a natural process, each woman must learn to deal with the death of a spouse in her own way and in her own time. The process may take several months to several years. The booklet lists three stages the widow must go through: Impact, recoil and recovery. In the impact stage the widow is numb and indifferent. She is unable to feel and react strongly or ex- adoption, birth certificates and said Mrs. Hughes. The first item on that yearly agenda should be wills. Make sure it band, Center. legal advice, accountants, stock brokers, bankers, and real estate agents. Knowing where all the personal papers like tax returns for the past six years, employment records, auto registration, deeds citizenship papers, social security, divorce or separation papers, shelf. It is a good idea for couples to go over finances at least yearly, periods of FARMINGTON Becoming a widow can be one the most stressful of all lifes changes, according to the booklet, About Widowhood" provided by the Davis County Mental Health whos who when talking about voursclf and your skills up on a It is not uncommon to have Review Correspondent ' Mrs. Hughes. Then know where your monetary outgo is going. How much do you owe on your house, loans, short or long term debts and which are covered by insurance, she said. Husbands and wives should take a few minutes to discuss years alone. might be insurance, social SUSAN TANNER HOLMES 4 0 Rlverdale Road Qcjden, Utah 4 |