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Show I'M' Is For The Many Things.. M A .ttJL I; - t doubt I could be a much better, smarter person than I am, but my shortcomings were not caused by any flaw in my upbringing. Michele Bartmess My leaving the nest was very hard on her, but she never let me see that. Again, she was willing to sacrifice. Her feelings for mine. I learned all of those things from her that women should pass on to their daughters. My cooking doesnt taste as good to me as hers does, but Im not bad. I hate to sew and iron, but I know how to do both. I can stand only so much clutter because I grew up in a home that was always clean. I dont like conflict. Probably because I never had to endure it. Our parents did not snap at one another in our presence. Nor did one overrule the other. If one said no, that was the answer. Period. We learned to work and to apwe were Im grateful that she believed . ' never abused, but I learned that each action has a consequence, I tested her. Oh how I tested her. Then I tested her some more. And finally, I learned I learned to have faith in my Creator and in my fellow man. I was taught to place my trust in Him and in them. I knew, probably from the instant that I entered life, love. And so I learned to give love. And to accept it. We grew up in a home where sound morals and good character were not merely preached, they were practiced. There was constan-cy- . Rules applied to everyone, every day. Not just when it was conve- nient. f '' e. r j." - ( t f jf t i '' j am what I am today because of high expectations. I ' Not that I always meet them. No She didnt need Womens Lib. Though her life centered around her family, and still does, she was a success at it. If there were any unfulfilled hopes and dreams, we were not made aware of them. Perhaps Womens Lib and sacrifice dont go At any rate, she chose the latter. I know she went without many things so we could have the things kids think are important. When I needed a costume for a school play, she always went the extra mile. My baptismal dress could have been borrowed, but it wasnt. hand-in-han- When college was discussed, it if you go, it was when. So I did. wasn't We learned that life didnt always seem fair, but that there was generally a reason why things happened as they did. The value of give and take was instilled in us from the beginning. We learned to say thank you and please. We wrote thank you notes to those who bestowed gifts upon us. Most of all, we learned to communicate. If we were in trouble or needed help, we knew right where to g- - Of course, since we were normal to the max, we didnt realize how very good life was until we became adults and saw that not every kid had the advantages we did. O is for the Other things she gave me, as the fractured version of the song goes. The list goes on and on. Easier To Form Unformed DEAR JOHN -I have two young children, Im divorced and scared to death of knowing I am responsible for raising them alone. Kids today seem so different than when I was young, Ir- responsibility, acting out, drugs, etc., etc., etc. If this is what the new generation is all about, Im not sure I want the hassle. What to do? TOO LATE TO BACK OUT - t r f 3 . V . - ' - J I " I 1 : f ; ; . DEAR TOO LATE -Its not too late to put things straight. In fact its I' easier to put them straight now i ,Qn to have to straighten them out down the road. Its always easier to form the unformed than to reform the deformed, so dont be intimadated by the responsibility. Young kids need three things primarily to get off on the right foot: Love, discipline and high expectations. Love makes us feel secure and helps to develop Discipline helps us direct and refine our abilities. It also helps l. High expecto develop tations on the part of those we care about help us to reach out and achieve. We tend to measure up to the expectations of others, whether dont give up. theyre high or low. So of developing Youre in the process three things: Two human beings, their future, and your past. self-wort- DEAR JOHN Lets see how objective you really are. I doubt that youll print this one. Im 17, with my whole life ahead of JOHN WATERBURY Dear John Letters me and my parents cant seem to understnad that Im a person capable of running my own life. It should be up to me where I go and what I do. My friends and I drink a little. Sometimes a lot, but you only to around once. Youd think I was committing a sin. My moms always uptight about it. My dads always yelling. Its my life. I know when to stop. Theyre always trying to run my life. I wish they would get off my back. They must have forgotten what its like to be a kid. Im in control of me. When I get ready, Ill straighten up. But not now. Things are different now and I wont live their kind of life. They cant make me either. LIVING THE GOOD LIFE DEAR LIVING -Who pays your bills? Who buys your food? Who pays the rent? With your kind ef thinking, youve got a lot of problems ahead of you. Treatment centers, jails and cemeteries are fuH of people who thought exactly as yeu do now. There are two things you dont mention: Respon- sibilty and respect. It appears you have neither. Odds are you wont appreciate them till you have a who things as you do now. But then again, as you said, you only go around once. Too bad. DEAR READERS In the magazine for the Lions Club, The Lion 1984, I found the following list. It was directed toward Lion members but seems appropriate for every group, religion or social group. TWELVE WAYS TO KILL A GROUP -- Dont attend meetings. -- Be sure to leave before the meeting is over. -- Next day, find fault with the officers and committees. -- Take no part in the groups affairs. -- Be sure to sit in the back, so you can talk to a friend. -- Get all the group will give you, but give nothing in return. -- Never ask anyone to join the group. -- Talk cooperation, but never cooperate. -- If asked to help on anything, always say you havent the time. -- Never accept an office; its easier to criticize than to .do anything. -- If appointed to a committee, never give any time or service to the committee. -- Never do anything more than you Continued on last page. - There's Still No Free Lunch never overworked. I was t But We Keep Hoping preciate that value. But in discipline. . . . . . I dont really care for the song, but the sentiment is valid. Each year as Mothers Day approaches, I try to give a little thought to the many things she gave me. This column at 10 times its allotted length would not be sufficient to list them. Depending on whats going on in my life at the time, some will stand out more than others in a given year. As I look at societys ills I count myself blessed indeed to have been given to a mother who helped provide a stable home life where I could grow into the person I would become. r f- is for the Many things she gave me by Dennis Hinkamp Consumer Writer Utah State University rats? This is not to say that a product being suspect of causing brain abnormalities isnt a matter of great The television station helicopter importance, it is. The oint that on landed and in flew that afternoon needs to be considered is that we are the university quad. about a The Security and Exchange Com- talking a modern-da- y sweetener Holy mission called the USU researcher Grail and the next best thing to the to see if he owned stock in the pro- Fountain of Youth. duct, radio stations from Los After cancer scares about Angeles to New York wanted inter- cyclamates and saccharin, the views, the manufacturers stock public was ready to welcome the free dropped enough to get special men- discovery of the mythical tion in the Wall Street Journal. or at least the calorie-fre- e lunch What kind of research was this? A lunch. cure for a cancer? A way to convert Oops! Somebody found the water into gasoline? A way to erase possibility of something being wrong the national debt? Would you believe with NutraSweet. The publics hopes the reserach involved NutraSweet are crushed. However, there were just as many (the brand name for the low calorie sweetener aspartame) causing people out there who were glad to brain abnormalities in laboratory Continued on last page. low-calor- ie - Teacher to Parent Helping your child succeed by Betty Condie President, Utah Education Association Its tempting for a parent to plan a childs life. You may place a lot of stress on what you think he or she should be, or even what you wanted to be. But your feelings may be vastly different from your childs aspirations. Throughout the high school years, the question of Whatll I do after I graduate? becomes increasingly important. Early planning is helpful, but flexibility is even more crucial. s A goals often change over the years. We all know each child is an individual with special talents and capabilities, but we often forget it. Schools and parents need to help each student recognize and develop those talents - but making arbitrary decisions for them may be disastrous. College is great, but its not for everyone. About 65 percent of Utahs high school graduates go on to higher education. Most go to a college or university. For many of them, the choice is a happy one. teen-ager- nut higher education can take other forms - junior college or vocational school. The choice needs to be based on the students needs and interests. Further education may not be appropriate at all. Entering the world of work is just as honorable as go- ing to school. And perhaps getting more education is simply a matter of time that is, when the individual is ready - not on graduation from high school. Help in making these decisions is available from the school. Every high school student is assigned a counselor, someone who has - of your knowledge child's background and expertise in career and educational opportunities. Counselors also have information their programs, enon colleges trance requirements, costs, and so forth, as well as information on sources of financial aid. School libraries have information on careers. Some districts even provide career counseling programs. to use the Encourage your teen-age- r schools resources. - |