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Show CO ed eV. Lear to makechild’s bedtime pleasant By ELLEN CREAGER Knight-Ridder Newspapers So would a lot of other parents whose evenings are filled not with Mirianna Milo can single-handedly put 40 children down for a nap at the Childtime Daycare Center in Detroit. children’s fears, wild antics, tantrums and bargaining. “Part ofit is, you're more objective with other people’s kids than own 18-month-old daughter to bed you are with your Own,” says at night. Schaefer, director of the Better Sleep Center at Farleigh Dickinson “She's an insomniac. She’s wide awakeat 3 o’clock in the morning, singing songs,” says her mother, sounding exasperated. “At home we stay up late and chase her around with a plate of food, trying y's va- at work. Why doesn’t it work at en rie yner, yn, OS \di1nd no trouble putting children to sleep my house?” Milo was told about a new book, “Winning Bedtime Battles — How to Help Your Child Develop Good Sleep Habits” by Dr. Charles Schaefer and Theresa Foy DiGeronimo (Citadel Press, $9.95), and her voice took on a note of hope. “I'd sure like to borrow that book,” she says. University in Hackensack, N.J., ex- plaining whyit’s easier for Milo to put a stranger’s child to bed than her own. The bad news is, two-thirds of children will have some kind of sleep problem at one timeor an- other. The good newsis, most of these difficulties can be quickly solved by parents changing their methods. If Schaefer could have a heart-to-heart talk with parents, here’s what he’d say about common childhood battles. Parents just need confidence anda battle plan. His bookgives tips on helping with childhood fears, insomnia and more serious sleep disruptions.If Latchkey children must be trained By EVELYN PETERSEN en Knight-Ridder Newspapers ar- ire yn, Q. My 9-year-old is home for the summer, but I work and some days I cannot get a sitter. We live in a very safe neighborhood, and I uf- think he will be able to stay home in- alone on the afternoons I work. He seems confident that he can handle it, and he has always been responsible and dependable. Do you havea checklist of things I can do to make this easier and safer for him? A. Be sure to thoroughly practice safety skills, emergency plans and telephone skills with him on regular basis. Most latchkey kids are wellcoached about never opening the door or saying they are homealone if someonecalls, but unexpected things can happen. You want to be sure he knows what to do during an electrical storm or tornado watch, and what to do if the power goes out. You should practice yourfire exit plan, as well as whom to call and what to say in any emergency. Emergency numbers anda flashlight should be next to the phone. Do a homesafety check with ‘him: smokealarms,fire extinguisher (know how it works), first-aid supplies and flashlights. Use “what if” questions to make sure he knows what you want him to do in different situations: What 4 if the toilet runs over? What if a PARENT TALK friend wants him to come overfor an hour? What if the door or window is open when he comes home? Be sure he knows how to reach you or someone nearby that you trust. Check to see if your community has a “warm line” to call if he’s just lonesome and wants someoneto talk to and can’t reach you. It is important that he feels your loving presence even when you are absent. Leave him surprise notes and taped messages. Call him when you can, even if it is just to say “I love you.” Leave him jobs and fun things to do, including books to read. Have fun preparing foods and snacks together before you go to work, This will eliminate his need to use the stove or oven. Consider getting a pet if you don’t already have one. Mostofall, praise him for being responsible and make him feel suc- cessful and appreciated. This experience, although it’s a choice you would rather not make, will help him grow and become independent. Evelyn Petersen is an educator and consultant on early childhood and parenting education. You can write to her at The Detroit Free Press, P.O. Box 828, Detroit, MI 48231. sleep problems have been going on for a while, consult a doctor. But, for the benefit of most parents out there, here’s what he says about two commonbedtime problems: BEDTIME RESISTANCE: Bedtime? What bedtime? Seventy percent of 2-year-olds and 50 percent of 3- and 4-year-olds resist when told it’s time for bed. Bedtime should be an enjoyable ritual, but non-negotiable. Why? “Wehavea generation of sleepy kids,” says Schaefer. Children today are not getting enough sleep. Older children who doze or mope during the day are notsleeping enough at night. Manychildren who seem wide awake at 10 or 11 p.m. actually are just wound up. Even the 10 percent of children who don’t seem to need much ‘7 mean,’” says Schaefer. But this fear, he adds, must be outweighed them to sleep and we can't stand to hear a child cry. In reality, a child by the conviction that “an appropriate bedtime is necessary to your is capable offalling asleep and then going back to sleep on his own.” child’s health and well-being.” Yourbattle plan: Create bedtime rituals. Set a bedtime hour. Be consistent. Enforce quiet time, give ad- Schaefer. These habits do not allow the child to develop the confidence other reasons. sleep should have a set bedtime, go to their rooms, say good night and read or play quietly until they’re ready to sleep. “Some parents have trouble set- ting limits on their own kids. They don’t want the kids to say, ‘You're “PUTTING” YOUR CHILD TO SLEEP: A bad idea — unless you want the job for years. “As soon as you get the baby home from the hospital, you should let them fall asleep on their own,” Schaefer says. “In our culture, we think it’s our job to put Sara White -Borseth of Ogden .celebrated her “80th birthday ate ‘an open houses -for friends and «family. . She was born ~in Morgan July 3, “1912, to William Morgan’ and Flaurie Eliza ‘Francis White. oe ‘ She married Frank W. Borseth ‘on June 25, 1946. He died July 24, 1979, She is an active memberof the LDS 30th Ward andhasserved in various Organizations. She was a member of several musical groups and the Ogden Symphonic Choir for 33 years. She is a charter member of Bonneville Business and Professional Women’s Club and a memberof the Daughters of the Utah Pioneers. Her children and their spouses are Ann and Mel Barth, Arlington, Va.; and John and Denese Borseth of Hooper. Her granddaughters are Jennifer Borseth, Sarah Borseth, and Lindsey Borseth. ‘Sorenson ' Ivan Sorenson of Washington Terrace will be | honored for his ¢ ‘80th birthday at an open house from 2 to 4 p.m. Saturday at the Washington Ter- . race LDS 3rd Ward, 240 E., 4800 South. Hewas born in Koosharem on July 28, 1912. Sorenson June 18, 1934. They have lived in the Ogden area for the past 38 years. He wasinterested in civic affairs and worked for improvementin Koosharem, where he served as town president and was a charter member of the Lions Club. His daughters and sons-in-law are Karen and Darrel Floyd of Plain City and Colleen and David Biddulph of Winston-Salem, N.C. They have eight grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren. One grandson and one great-grand- He married Olive Marble on _ daughter are deceased. ‘als =. = 100th birthday reached by former Ogdenite to the Union Pacific Railroad, Poage birthday whereheretired as an engineer in 1958. He spends the summer months in Ogden. His daughters and their spouses are Gene and Zelda Bouck, Washington Terrace; Don and Lucille with a celebration Pierson, Port Hueneme, Calif.; and Former Ogdenite Earl Poage of Youngtown, Ariz. will celebrate his 100th in Youngtown. He was born July 15, 1892, in ‘Broken Bow, Neb., to Thomas ‘M. and ee Francis Richard, son Poage. He wage wed Iva Elizabeth Gardner Feb. 22, 1916, They were later divorced. _ A fireman for the Oregon Short Line Railroad, he later transferred . Ralph and Donna Faulknerof Roy. A daughter, Jackie Mitchell, is deceased. Six of his 12 grandchildren are Barbara Craner, South Ogden; John §S. Lannefeld, Mountain Green; Sharon Thomas, Layton; Heather Mitchell, Ogden; Susan Franks and Sandy Morgan, both of Clearfield. He has 25 great-grandchildren and 14 great-great-grandchildren. them, then leave the room before the child goes to sleep, and let the chips fall where they may. In the book, one woman told of the hornble scene she suffered after following that advice — but her story patting their backs until theydrift off, running to them in the night, or letting them sleep with you, “is a really bad sleep habit” says ended happily when her daughter discovered she could sleep without her motherthere. “Cynthia’s concern about feeling to put himself or herself to sleep, and can harm a marriage byrobbing parents of evening timealone. ‘cruel’ is a commonreaction toletting children cry; you may even worrythat sleep training may cause your children psychological harm, but there is absolutely no evidence to support that idea,” writes Schaefer. “If you explain your plan in ‘Frequent night wakings, as any parent of a baby can attest, wreak havoc on one’s emotions. “Untold numbers of children advance and give plenty of love and attention during the day, there will be psychological growth rather than damage done from teaching a child one of life’s most basic facts: Nighttime is for sleeping.” over one year of age regularly wake during the night andeithercall out for their parents to come into their room and help them go back to sleep, or leave their own beds and sleep with their parents.” Don’t be afraid to use ‘me’ in a sentence By LYDEL SIMS Scripps Howard News Service Q. I am irritated by the use of subjective-case pronouns where objective-case prounouns are needed. “It’s only between you andI,” says a national television journalist. An editor writes, “It’s becomea tradi- tion in my family for my husband and I to ... ” What’s happening? — Jean M. A. Scandalous abuse of the language is happening, that’s what. Intelligent readers continue to complain about the use of “I” instead of “me” in such construction, butit doesn’t seem to do any good. When the objective case is called for, “I” should become “me” but hundreds of thousands are scared to death to use “me” anywhere, so they say such ridiculous things as “between you and I” and “for my husband andI.” cases — either “your being here” or much less interesting our language “you being here.” Isn’t that great? would’ be without chester, chistas Perhaps you might decide wheth- and chestnuts. BRIGHT THOUGHTofthe week, er you wish to put emphasis on the person or the event, but overall reported by Mary E.: “In one ofhis there’s no real difference in mean- inspiring television shows, Geraldo Anyone who can curb this na- ing or emphasis. Just suit yourself. Rivera interviewed a woman who tional disgrace would be entitled to Q. Maybe you will enjoy the en- had married one man one day and become president of Harvard — closed advertisement that appeared or, for that matter, of the whole in our country weekly newspaper bloomin’ nation. recently. Q. I rememberthat one is sup— Local Citizen posed to say, “We appreciate your A. Thanks! The advertisement being here ... ” rather than “Weap- was for a yard sale, and one item preciate you being here,” but I am listed was “chester drawers.” Wow. The real term should be “chest of Can you help? drawers,” of course, but in some — Betty L. rural areas the shift to “chester A. You'd better forget looking for drawers” is fairly common. Still, “rules” on this one, because you it’s not the only version that has can get different answers from dif- wide appeal. Others include “chista ferent “experts.” drawers” and “chestnut drawers.” The one I favor says you mayuse And before you throw up your either form of the pronoun in such hands in horror, just consider how at a complete loss as to therules. then on the next day, without benefit of court action, married anoth- er. The abandoned husband looked at her furiously on camera and snarled, ‘I took you out of squander.’ My husband and I puzzled over that for a while, but decided ‘squander’ must be a combination of squalor and a quandary.” Lydel Sims of The Commercial Appeal in Memphiswrites this column weekly. Send questions, comments, and good and bad examples to Lydel Sims, Watch Your Language, 366 S. Highland, Apt. 410, Memphis, TN38111. The unitard is becoming a dance floorhit Fort Lauderdale Sun-Sentinel They are known by many names: body tanks, one-pieces, step-ins, bodysuits, even short union suits (shortened long johns). But a unitard — by any other name — is a unitard. And increasingly they are busting out of the gym and showing up on the dance floor. The perfect piece. “It’s convenient,” says fitness consultant Barry Roth, owner of Aerobics by Barry in Fort Lauder- dale, Fla. “It always looks neat and arranged. You don’t have to worry about tucking in your shirt.” You also don’t have to worry about mixing and matching pat- terns. Or taking too long to disrobe, And there are many brands and styles available: full-backs, low-backs, T-backs, in patterns and colors all over the map. Calvin Celebrating his 80th birthday with his family at Maddox Ranch House is James Leonard Russell. A native of Roy he was born July 14, 1912, a son of James Alexander and Myrtle Field Russell. He wed Emma Miller Russell z : Russell Dec. 9, 1932. They live on part of the land his parents settled. His interests are farming, hunting, fishing, camping and raising _ A woodworker, he was employed for 28 years at the Ogden Arsenal and at Hill Air Force Base, He received an outstanding citizen award from RoyCity and was honored by the Roy Historical Foundation. He helped his wife tutor foreign foster students at home. He has a daughter, Sherrie Snell of Roy, and four granddaughters, Mrs. Kirt (Melodie) Barrows, Liberty; Mrs. Rick (Tammi) Johnson and Lori Espinoza, Ogden; and Heather Snell, Roy. His family also includes several foster children and a brother and threesisters. 1912, in Bear River to Chancey and Louise Laws Miller. will celebrate the © occasion of her 80th birthday. On Dec. 13, 1926, she married She will William Arthur Cragun in Liberty. He died Dec. 12, 1975. Her children and their spouses be ily dinner, after which she will greet family and friends at an open house from 5 to 7 p.m. Saturday at her home. Nogifts, whee 4 Z 5 Cragun Mrs. Cragun was born July 17, are William Glen and Lois Cragun, Lloyd and Faye Cragun, Betty and Neil Udy, Bill and Nita Cragun and Larry Cragun. She has 19 grandchildren and 30 great-grandchildren. She is a memberof the Ogden LDS 62nd Ward, where she has been a Relief Society visiting teacher. HOLIDAY RULES Dueto the July 24 holiday, the deadline for the Sunday publication of weddings, birthdays and anniversaries for the July 26 issue has been moved up to noon Tuesday, July 21. Club notices will be published the first Sunday of the month. The deadline for these notices will generally be noon on the 25th of the month before publication. Notices should be brief and include times, dates and places of meetings or activities. Wedding and engagement announcements are published Sunday only, Anniversaries and birthdays are published Sundays or Thurs- days. Stories intended for Thursday should be submitted no later than 10 a.m, Monday. The Standard-Examiner will publish anniversary notices for residents married 50 years or longer. Birthday stories are limited to — anything. There is one stumbling block to the perfect piece: your body. If you aren’t a hard-body, you’d better be could change from athletic shoes to a taut one. nished-gold metalwork. Mamie Miller. honored at a fam- ble-lined) and Softouch (all based in Miami). . To take the unitard look from the health club to the dance club, Roth groovy enough to wear after the Cragun Cragun of Ogden & Because unitards have clean lines, most look great with accessories. Try thick chains, baseball Klein unitard underwear is substantial enough to wear to the gym. Bodymaster’s activewear lines are and training registered hunting dogs. He has always been involved with animals, especially dogs, cats and horses. He was a Scoutmaster. Russell gym. Roth wears two unitards when working out, for added support. He prefers DiDi Designs, Pezzi (dou- clunky construction-inspired boots, such as Dr. Martens. Or he could don western boots and strap on a heavy belt with silver or bur- -BIRTHDAYS -‘Borseth Give incentives. Give them opportunities to succeed. Kiss them, hug it is the child’s responsibilityto fall time business,” Schaefer says. After several nights of protest, your child should begin to conform. The book and for those who delaysleep for lights. Then, talk about the plan ahead of time with your child. provide a quiet place to sleep. But asleep. Putting children to sleep, whether by lying down with them, contains other plans for children who throw tantrums at bedtime Whatto do? First, set a newbedtime routine that starts at least a half hour before you turn off the It is a parent's responsibility to set a fair bedtime, enforce it, and vance notice, escort your child to bed, then leave the room. “Any hesitation on your part will be picked up by your children as a possible indication that maybe you really aren't serious about this bed- J JOC happy,-calm bedtimes but with But Milo simply cannot get her to get her to sleep. In three days she slept a total of six hours. I have renid ed Sunday, July 12, 1992 9E HORIZONS Standard-Examiner residents who are 80 years or older. A glossy black-and-white photo or a good quality color picture may be used. Negatives are unacceptable. If a copyright is stamped on the back of a photograph, written permission from the photographer must be furnished to the StandardExaminer before publication. The Standard-Examineris not responsible for damage to photographs or written materials intended for pub- lication. There is an $8 fee for publishing wedding, engagement, birthday and anniversarypictures, which must be paid before the announcementcan be run. Submitted notices should be either typed or printed neatly and include daytime telephone numbers. Stories are edited for style, length and clarity and do not necessarily appear as submitted, For more information call 6254237 or 625-4230, caps, see-through plastic raincoats “When you look good, they look very good,” says Jim Kevern, of J. Miles boutique in Fort Lauderdale. “If you don’t, they’re not very ... forgiving.” Many aging performers have much to contnbute It is amongthe largest, and most difficult, of questions, and it is al- IN YOUR ways out there, darkening the honzon line. “When to quit? to retire? to step aside?” If it isn’t over until the fat lady sings, then who cues the fat lady? By all accounts, the incompara- , Me y PRIME Bard Lindeman Tribune Media Services ble Frank Sinatra, unsteady on his feet, stunk up the joint. Only this Casals releases, and The Economist joint was London's Albert Hall, magazine commented: “Theresults and onecritic wrote: “Sinatra has are joy for anyone interested in lost everything except his marvel- Beethoven ... for the sheer vigor and command ofthe orchestral dious sense of timing...” How ironic, that lingering “rector.” phrase. Meantime, we suddenlyapPRIME NOTES: A Roperpoll pear besieged by older performers, showsthat for the majority, “growand a few pretenders. Sinatra in his ing older” has positive associations, 70s, Eartha Kitt, the graying sex such as gaining wisdom (52 perkitten, now in her 60s, and of cent) and more time to enjoy onecourse those flesh mountains, fight- self (47 percent). In third place, at ers Larry Holmes and George Fore- 44 percent, was poorhealth. ... Did man. Agreed, Foreman never met a meal he couldn’t finish, but should these millionaires, with girths to match their wallets, meet in hand-to-hand competition? Clearly, we have become an aging nation, with an irreconcilable andirrational love affair with lusty, skinny youth. In defense of the old- you knowthat July is national ice cream month? ... Eleanor Roosevelt said it: “Money isn’t everything, according to those who have it.” ... Author Garrison Keillor (“Lake Woebegon Days”) turns 50 on Aug. 7. ... Della Resse (July 6), Rosie Greer (July 14), Sen. Nancy that on a night not long ago a Lincoln Center audience was en- Kassebaum, R-Kan., (July 29) and singer Edyie Gorme (Aug. 16) are all 60, and counting. ... The American Chiropractic Association wants thralled York us to pass along this bulletin: The Philharmonic, under the genius baton of Sir George Solti. How old is Solti? It’s not a relevant concern. Suffice to say that in 1937, this pianist who became a conductor, was er performer, I report, with pride, by the New Throughout a remarkable career, ACA is “the primary association representing the profession.” It has 22,000 members and they pay their dues. ... The National Institute on Aging has a dandy reference booklet for women, butit has a stupid name: “Who? What? Where? Resources for Women’s Health & Aging.” For a free copy, call (800) 222-2225, ... Another reason to the slight, athletic maestro has re- cheer for the United States Olym- ceived 30 Grammy awards, more pic basketball team: Coach Chuck Daly. He’s 62 and unafraid of challenges. Consider, he just signed to coach the New Jersey Nets. ... It’s hard to believe, but there’s selected to study under Arturo Toscanini. Already, 56 years ago, the talent was well-formed and recognized, than any other recording artist. Are you listening Madonna? Michael Jackson? Now, should Solti step down? Of course, not! It will be a small price for society to pay — an aging society — that not every performing artist, and ballplayer (viva Nolan a Money Management camp for kids (ages 12 to 15) at the Breakers Hotel, Palm Beach, Fla. It costs Ryan), and prizefighter is going to to a study, the United States needs hear the fat lady when she clears her throat. Meantime, the show must go on and more power to the GeorgeSol- some 20,000 geriatricians. How $1,225, for one week. ... According many do we have? 4,084. Bard Lindeman welcomes ques- that Pablo Casals was conducting Beethoven and Schubert at age 93 tions from readers. Although he cannot respond to each oneindivids ually, he will answer those of general interest in his column. Write to him in care of this newspaper, P.O. and 94, Sony just reissued several Box 119, Orlando, FL 32802-0119. tis, those ageless artists with much to contribute. Remember, as well, |