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Show Bre ls ____ TheSaltLake Tribune SUNDAY Sunday, August 3, 1997_ J5 When the Caes Come Home, So Will I I suspect we have a magnetin our lives that keeps pulling us back to where we came from. I come from a Boise Valley dairy farm,thanksto the Depression. My parents had gone under in the Depression and hitchhiked with my older sister from North Dakota to Idaho. The North Dakota flood in those years was of people heading west. My father found work here and there, including at a farm about 12 miles from Boise owned by a family named Eggers. And when I was born, my father wasthe hired man, working for room and board at the Teeter farm eight miles from Boise Just before World War II began, our family took over a Boise Valley dairy farm as sharecroppers, I was too youngto help, but my parents milked a dozen cows by hand — every morning and ey- ery night, 365 days a year. BILL HALL They didn’t dare. The cows needed milking, About 40 yearslater, my daugh- ter Stacy married Todd,a grandson from the Eggers family. Dur- ing the first few years of their nizes the storage room just to have something interesting to do. Healsoliveshis life like an organized storage room, everythii in order. First he finished college. Then he got a job — in a Boise Valley computer-chip factory where the other Mike and our marriage, Stacy and Todd lived on that farm four miles from where I was born. Suddenly I was spending time on Boise Valley farmland again. The magnet in my life pulled me back to that soil A dozen years ago, I remarried and the dowryincluded four more children, all of them grown, including Mike. That makes two Mikes — mineand hers, who have since become ours, both the same age. Their brother Steven intro- Andwhatif they got sick? comes home to visit and reorga- duces them bysaying, “This is my brother Mike, and this is my other brother Mike.” Her Mike, now ours, proved to be one of the most organized and systematic guys I have ever known. He is the kind of kid who daughter Stacy live. Then he bought a car. Then he had a house built. Mike's new houseis just around the corner from the Teeter farm where myfamily lived when I was born. When wevisit him, I now sleep not far from where I slept the first days of my life. I sleep like a babyat his house. Truthfully, we began to doubt Mike would ever marryas heentered his 30s. He always had one more thing to do onhis life-organization list before he turned to something so daunting as marriage. But then, having taken care of initial priorities — college, job, ear, house, television set, organized refrigerator — it was time to go shopping for the wife. And he did. But that wasn't so simple. You can’t just drive to the Wife Society Must Stop Treating sireandakiosevutingve LOOMeStic Violence Lightly got. A wifeis notlike a television set or a refrigerator. Sometimes they are easier to turn on. Sometimesthey are colder. Nonetheless, somewhere out therein that big valley, he found Tina, a cheerful redhead with green eyes, quick mind and the wit to laugh at my jokes, The whole family took an instant liking to Tina. But there’s more to her than that with me. Thefirst time I met her,I felt I had knownher all mylife. And in a way | have. She grew up on a Boise Valleydairy farm. She has spent much of her life milking cows. I know this woman. I know her kind. She has strong hands and a good heart. I have been fortunate enough to spend mylife among people like her. I am mighty comfy with her. We have a magnetin our lives that keeps pulling us back to where wecame from. I think my magnet is a cow. Bill Hall is the editorial-page editor of the Lewiston (Idaho) Tribune, a Salt Lake Tribune group newspaper. Eat, Drink and Be Wary, for Tomorrow We Diet “The Scare of the Week.” That's what superchef Julia Childcalls those incessant reports warning of yet another dangerin PAT CAPSON BROWN Beaters, Second Nature, No Yolk — have moved into the breach and the marketplace. Most restaurants now offer a our food and drink. Recently, the deli sandwich was choice of real or fake eggs. Recently, in a display of restraint, I ordered fake. When the waitress the culprit. I read the bad news justasI was setting out for Grana- broughta perfect sunny-sideup, I to’s to have a Godfather sand- exclaimed, “How did you do wich: pepperoni, salami, mortadella, prosciutto, cheese and that?” “Whoops,” she replied. “Wrongtable.”” As if to lend credence to my complaints, a late-breaking report exonerated the egg and actually recommended eating several a day. Nitpickers point out that the study was commissioned by the egg industry. Now remind me: Is the jury in on margarine ys. butter? Is fat- relishes on anItalian hardroll. It was enough to spoil my appetite — almost, (I told the sandwich makerto go easy on therelishes.) ‘Thearticle said the public is de- ludingitself thinking deli sand- wiches, laden with mayonnaise, are salubrious. Better to have a Big Mac,it said. Child weighedin, so to speak, on the side of quarter-pounders. Next, the scientific wonks revealed their findings regarding alcohol: Hard liquor is bad for you, beeris neutral, and people who drink several glasses of wine a daylive longer. (About 24% days, as J recall.) Tf I'm current, the government just threw those findings out and recommended women have one drink a day and a veggie sandwich. The handsome models with the milk moustaches are under at- tack. The accusation is that milk — even the insipid blue-gray variety called skim — can add unwanted pounds. The experts warn, however, that giving up milk, once called “nature's most nearly perfect food,” meansgiving up an important source of calcium. What they don’t tell you is that you may turn into a boneless, amorphous blob in your old age. Life’s full of tough choices. Still another study found that people who eat a lot of fish are no healthier than people who eat a little. Does that mean we can go backto liver and onions? Consider the egg. The war against eggs has been as unrelenting as the war against smoking. Soon people will have to step out- side to have an egg. Unreasonable facsimiles with cute names — Egg free better than nonfat? Is a fat gram in a Mrs. Fields cookie visible to the naked eye? Does choles- terol come in three varieties: the good, the bad andthe ugly? Does “lite” signify anything other than bad spelling? Thave devised my own means of coping with the information glut (good word). I just wait for the next study. It usually reverses the first. I call it the “Sleeper Syn- drome,” based on the Woody Allen movie in which he returns to life after being frozen for 200 years to find chocolate doesn’t causezits and bourbon and cigars have healing properties. Woody's projections were validated a few weeks ago when some study somewhere reported that chocolate contains ingredients that are actually health-promoting. Milky Way, anyone? Julia Child feels what’s missing from food these days is pleasure. Her guide to eating well without regret: moderation, variety and small portions, M.F.K. Fisher, the late gourmand, gourmet and author who turned recipe books into literature, would agree. For Fisher, a bowl of soup and a piece of bread were a feast, if the soup were made with the freshest ingredi- ents, the bread was warm from the oven andthe simple fare was served with grace to people you like. Dear Ann: It happened again, this time in Minneapolis. A man killed his wife after ignoring a restraining order. He kicked in the ANN LANDERS door, with their children in the home. They witnessed the entire scene, The abuse had been going on for a long time, and the wife was legally separated from the man after having spent many nights in a shelter for battered women. How canjudgeslet these guys go, time and time again, on the condition that theysta y from the women? They never do — they always return, more enraged than ever. Whyis domestic abuse almost always considered only a misdemeanor?If the same assault occurred on thestreet or in the workplace, would it still be classified as a misdemeanor? Whyis this crime not consid- ered a felony? Until thelawviews domestic violence as a serious crime, perpetratorswill thinkit is their right to keep their wives or significant others in line by beating up on them. The real issue here is power and control. Until society refuses to tolerate violence in the home and next door, abusers will con- tinue to beat up on their victims andeven kill them. rent. I don't enjoy doing this, but it’s part of my job, and the owner expects me to handle these evictions properly Notlong ago, oneof the tenants was behind in her rent, She told me her check bounced because she was suing the government for $1 million and claimed there was some sort of conspiracy against her. Sheinsisted that she would not have to payany additional or past-duerent because the government would be responsible for it After two more months without any payment, we started eviction proceedings. She thensued our complex. The lawsuit claimed we were conspiring with the federal government, local grocery stores and utility services to deny her basic living necessities. Whenthe judge threw out her case, she named him as a Perhaps we need national forum, such as your column, to get a handle on this problem. Wife beating does not belong in the misdemeanor category, Please, Ann,talk about this horrendous co-conspirator in her lawsuit It’s sad the courts are back- logged with cases that should neyer see the light of day. It gives our justice system a bad name. I think this woman needs medical help, problem. It needs national expo- and | hope she gets it soon. — with the subject of domestic violence in this space on a regular basis for many years, and I will countrysuch as ours, not onlyis freedom of speech guaranteed, sure. — Alexandria, Minn. Dear Alexandria: | havedealt continue to do so. Meanwhile, rest assured that I am in total agree- ment with you. Domestic violence should indeed be taken out of the misdemeanor category and labeled a felony. oO Dear Ann:Here's anotherone for your crazy-lawsuit file. As an apartment manager in a small community in Florida, I've had to evict people for nonpayment of Evictor DearEvictor: In a democratic but anybody can sue anybodyfor anything. No matter how“goofy, there is a lawyer somewhere who will handle the case a Gem of the Day: One of the best reasons for remaining silent is that it can't be repeated to anyone. Write to Ann Landers c/o Chicago Tribune, 435 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago, IL 60611. My suggestion for uptight dietersis to forget the diet books that spring up like mushrooms. Read a little Hemingway. Here was a man who savored all the appetites: good food, good wine, good com- pany. Goodidea. Pat Capson Brown is a freelance writer in Salt Lake City. Ex-Ute Center Afeaki Now Playing Basketball in Japan WHEREARE THEY NOW? Youdon't haveto be a University of Utah basketball fan to know the name of former Ute center Paul Afeaki. He made news in 1991, not only for his court play, after a mysterious shooting Afeaki was shot in the upper back, allegedly by a motorist he inadvertently cut off in traffic. But the case was closed after po- IN THE LIMELIGHT a performed by Robert ne PY losses against such teams as the Mitsubishi Electric Dolphins, the The Japan Basketball League has two men’s leagues and Sparks, in the Tiger Division,finished last season with 9 wins and 7 Debbaut and the Utah Philharmonia. It has pects. Afeaki recovered and played his senior season. He now plays for a Japenese Sparks. piece, comissioned by the Utah since been performed by Joseph Silverstein and the Utah Symphony. The piece is meant to depict DEBBIE HUMMEL two women’s leagues, Sumitomo is in the first men’s league, which consists of the Tiger Division and the Cougar Division, The Metal posable City.” The orchestral Arts Festival and AT&T, premiered at the festival in June, lice were unable to find any sus- team, the Sumitomo Metal zer Prize in Composition for ‘Dis- Matsushita Electral Industrial Su- per Kangaroos and the Toshiba Red Thunders Q TAKE A BOW Tully Cathey, music professor at the University of Utah, has been nominated for a 1997 Pulit- cities in the western United States that have developed rapidlyat the expense of the environment Utah State Parks and Reereation recently honored several em- ployeesfor their service and com- mitment to state park visitors Southwest Region manager Gordon Topham earned the James D. Moyle Award, for professionalism and integrity. The Snow Canyon State Park Team, including park manager John Tbach and park rangers Kendall Farnsworth and Larry Gray, received the Outstanding Team Award, for developing a new fee collection procedure, Fred Hayes, educational spe- cialist at Jordanelle State Park,is this year's recipient of the Public Service Award for an educational program he created. Are you curious about someone whois no longer in the limelight, or do you knowsomeone who has received an award or honor? Con tact Debbie Hummel at Debbie@sltrib.com or write to her at Features, The Salt Lake Tribune, P.O. Box 867, Salt Lake City, UT 84110. Kouris—Andruchow Mr. and Mrs. Stanley M. Kouris of West Jordan are pleased to announcethe mar riage of their daughter, Merilynn Kouris to Nicholas L. Andruchow, son of Mr andMrs, William Anciruchow of Saugus Massachusetts TheSacrament of Marriage took place at the Prophet Elias Greek Orthodox Church on Sunday, July 27, 1997 with a dinner reception that followed at the Double Tree Hotel Meriynn is a graduate of the University of Utah with a Bachelor of Science de gree in Elementary Education, She re ceived her Mast of Arts degr Church Service/Youth Ministry at Holy Cross Greek Orthodox School of Theol ogy In Brookline, Massachusetts Weight Loss Requires Commitment and Time _ WHICH DO YOU HAVE? - Mr. and Mrs. Nicholas Andruchow Nicholas is a graduateof Widener Uni versity of Cheste ceivedhis Bac nsylvania. He re e degree in Restaurant Management. He served in the Peace Corpsfor twoyears in the Do: minican Republic consulting small bust nesses owned by impoverished women, Once they retum from their honey: moon, theywill work as Missionaries at the Project Mexico/St. Innocent Ortho dox Orphanage in Tijuana, Mexico for A Satisfied Customer | me a Kari JoReagan Yagi—Reagan Kari Jo Yagi and Daniel A. Reagan were married on June 19, 1997 at The Lodgeat Deer Vi mony was perform nor Michael O. Leavitt, A lowed the ceremony with buffet and dancing. The rehearsal dinner was cele bratedat LaCaille, hosted by thebride groom's parents The bride, daughter of Junior K, and Selma Yagt of Corinne, is a graduateof the University of Utah, She wasaffiliated withthe Chi OmegaSoronty and gradu ated with a Bachelor of Science degrees in Psychology andSociology. Sh s cur rently employedat Delta Air Lines The bridegroom, son of William K. and Julia Reagan of Salt Lake, 1s graduate of the University of Pennisylvania, He was affiliated with the Sigma Chi Fraternity and graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Intemational Relations. Heis currently etwol ed in the EMBAprograrr at the University of Utah and Gene Manager at Reagan Outdoor Advertising The couple reside in Salt LakeCity. two years. 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