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Show y N it'"? W & nr W ifr W 1 V yY toVtirif & s40U- 1: The Salt Lake Tribune, Sunday, May 23, 1371 tVi needed child to attitudes can maturity develop help Proper taste in clothing has brought By Dr. Haim Ginort Pa: ents w ant their childi en to become mature: to be able io withstand anxiety, tolerate endure tt'p&iLn. i - i i f 'V' i i I j Z, S I f Don, 8, had a enthusiastic in always pleasant boy work and play. been Recently he began whining, Any little frustration mace him cry and whimper. Moth- - end cope with conflict. This is e tall order. Such a goal can be achieved only when our attitudes and acts fosler maturity and demonstrate adulthood. next year. However because of the aforementioned responsibilities which you have assumed. we feel that you will be ready for this privilege sooner. Starting today, your 12th birthday, you may read as late as you feel is reason- Jacob, 12, has shown signs improvement in many areas of his life. His parents wanted to express appreciation and give him encouragement. For his birthday, tliev wrote him the following letter: of Dear Jacob, Daddy and I have noticed how much you have matured this past year. Not only have you grown up physically but you are beginning to assume the responsibilities that bring privileges. Your caution in riding a bicycle has brought ycu the privilege of taking it to school. Your increasing good whine. his normal voice even increased. Moiher realized that her mood and words made it hard for her son to change. Her constant criticism only served to imprint the image of a whiner on him. She decided to foster his origithat nal image of himself of the strong, ccmp mt, reliable boy. Mother said, Don, when little a were people boy, you used to say, What a pleasure it is to be with Don. He has such a nice speaking voice. It's so pleasant to listen to him. He has such a direct manner. Jacob was surprised and delighted by the letter. He kept reading and lereading it. It was his treasured possession. In his reply, Jacob wrote: Dear Mom and Dad, I liked your letter. As I get more privileges, T feel more grown-up- . Thank you for youi help. Your son, Tar Ayn, Jacob In the following episode a llow can you help your son reach maturity? ble for Don to improve his havior. Good luck to you, son. Love, Mother. Changed Problem Increased We are very happy when we see the kind of young man you are in the process of becoming. With love and respect, Mom and Dad late cookie In each shoe, with a note: For a brave boy wiio has to break in new shoes. I know how difficult it must be. self-imag- e, The whining continued and able. Wrote Letter his snen-lik- e hadn't heard for months. that he was stage; that to hear !t again. The whining diminished. By helping him improve his Mother made it possi- I'm glad with Sue felt was massive irritation. .She pleaded: Don, the sound of your voice is like an abrasive to my eais. Speak, dont whine. I cant listen to that sound any more. It bugs me. I'm going nuts! Don! Originally, we had planned to give you the privilege of choosing your own bedtime I er's ens were rirgir.g Mother thought going through a ne was pnshirg ham-e- lf too ,ard. She tried to be understanding. But all she i.k ep you require. Start Sooner Cjlnolt i you the privilege of choosing your own wardrobe. We have now noticed that your sense of time has also developed. When you look at the clotk you know how much time is left for an activity. You ate growing aware of how much mother dealt with her childs irritating behavior frst inet- fectively, then effectively: be- Bob, 9, haled breaking in his new orthopedic shoes. He fought it desperately. He refused to wear the shoes, misplaced them and even lost them. The whole experience was beset with tears and tantrums. Mother tided to reason with Bobby, convince him of the benefit of the shoes and point out the consequences of Nothing helped. neglect. Mother decided to change her approach: Instead of arguing and explaining, she put a choco Cable's Nttih Ml QUEEN Pvppta FASHIONS, tcMltn Bob said, the shoes on the weekend, so I can wear them to school during the week. That Monday he wore the In the morning, Approach Step I'll break in shoes to school. Acknowledged Task Mother guided her son expectation. bv (ci 170, Haim Gmotti br King Features 48 W. 2nd SIZES South... IN STOCK 384-41- width m Mittfct Ml MCh M In a deep voice, Don said, You mean like, Mom, can I have some ice cream? Thats right. Thats the voice, I mean. Ive missed it Speaking frankly A yen precedes actual affair By Mary McGrath the time one part of a has been unfaithful in both parts have probably unfaithful in fancy. By pair fact, been nu. the mind the most pieserve to save their sanity. Eventually, it developed from an idea into a possibility. put-dow- n Usually at this stage the whole thing is done in the negative. Various opposites are examined and rejected on the basis that one could not conceive of threatening even the worst marriage with the likes that. of ;MQrall, In other words, affairs of the heart usually start in the mind, long before there Twro any meeting. .lonely unhappy and unloved people drift together and llame into something special, totally unaware that they have been looking for one another for a while. Opening the Door But once you begin to decide that there are wTong people for you in the world, you are opening the door to the idea that there are right ones. And now the stage is set. From then on there is only search for a for the allicandidate likely ance to be completed. In some cases nothing ever comes of it. Either the opportunity never develops, or the signals are rejected, or fear of the consequences takes over. It makes little difference. Unfaithfulness taken place, even if no love nest is ever lined. Let those who wdll insist that the unfaithful are sw'ept along with a passion they never knew they harbored. They are only kidding themselves. By the time that passion surfaced they were only passing time! the subconscious Sale Starts Monday, May 24 has Better Than Barefoot No Mental Affairs Happily married couples simply do not have affairs, even of the purely mental varig ety. They are too busy on each other to have room in their minds for a third, or sometimes, a fourth party. Its the couples who can't seem to ge it together who are ripe for relationships out side the norm. One or the other of the partners is usually so wrapped up in self that nor can't meet the maybe even identify needs of the olher. concen-"Tratin- JJ he-sh- e Scholl Exercise Sandals. They shape up your legs, while they comfort your feet. The exclusive For Wrong Reasons toe-gri- Maybe they other for the v. rong reasons. Maybe one has continued to grow as a mature person and the other one hasn't. 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