Show antes Ileston Grin and Bear It Sports Offer Simplicity Rules Amidst Anarchy New York Times Service Live :Clir YORK — Sport in America lys a part in our national life that is obably more important than even the atic ials kie -- - - ) scientists cial lieve New York ty il:Ellungle on Jrlig conflicts 'days — over transporta- - i -- A'' educa- - i Jn: - F t D icon of ' 'red " Na- - ' is a Cen- - Ed- - Tern at oni- - inge of Las nish the country boy who broke all Street the hopeless even ridiculous 110er'''' who hits the jackpot The New 'ork theater has gone cynical and nude no is in trouble but Shea Stadium out v La Guardia Airport is now the best heater in town not because it is new nd nude but because it is old and square Like Cinderella the Mets will get to le decisive stroke of midnight not with he Chicago Cubs but probably in their me games this month with the Pitts urgh Pirates But even if they don't lake it for themselves they have made point about sports for a lot of other 'eople a in For sports and games in a funny way re not only America's diversion and 1:lusion but its hope The world of sports as everything the world of politics lacks rga- - goy longs for nd )rds a set of rules It has an umpire supreme court that cannot be dial-thi- s enged even by Leo Durocher and even t wrong In short baseball and football re conflict under control and they have ther advantages It has tors t it con- - ent hich ated Unlike - omi the world of politics business the conflicts of sports r universities an be seen and have a beginning and need enrt In the political - or academic yorld you can have weak senators or niversity presidents for a while but in he sports w:r1d a weak tackle or pitchr is an immediate disaster The results show A baseball pennant ace is not like foreign policy: You don't ave tomait 25 years to get th results It vill happen for the Mets between now and he end of September Their youth will ither carry them through with Tom ever and Jerry Koosman or the pres- Jre will be too much and they will col- n an ' s rom ' the onal aint need ' )nest - sup: des- - ' apse who ?ther nells Best Show in Town has in- - t en- - - t-- a' state hag- 'Ship ' get ratie that ium- chni- d to !orge set y America's Rope — lew ts ii!: Cinderella bus y I ' N V1 a 't1""' ' 4k poution the the s hurt he 1 ces and every 'f ' but I igt 1Cr! '' e lklets are now 1tr Reston the race for the et ational Baseball League pennant and ay are almost the only unifying force in le higcity The reason is perfectly clear This is e classic theatrical New York story: It 11 1 4 - d as dttee' pur- - tbout "dis- nina- - But either way it will be the best show ri New York For the struggle will be in Ile open It will not be like most of the e conflicts of politics Seaver nd Koosman will either have speed and 'Intro' or theyiwon't and unlike Bill Rog rs iin the State Department or Henry rissingerIn the basement of the White 'ouse everybody will know whether for the moment nobody is listening Sports are now more popular than poics in America increasingly so since th read of television The great corporams are now much more interested in ying millions for sports broadcasts an they are for all political events cept the nominations and inaugurans o presidents because the general s for not a Main' n all ques- - - )r his This is not a wholly cynical or political exercise He is genuinely Interested in sports Games fascinate and divert him from his problems They have more pageantry and even dignity than most mass occasions in American life more teamwork more unity more certainty at the end than most things — so he games not only because it is good politics but because it is an escape from his normal problems which have no rules and no end Will the Mets make it after tnt- -e nine games with the Pirates? Will Joe Namath repeat in the Super Bowl this year? Will Arnie Palmer come back after 40 or merely make money? Nobody knows but America will be watching probably more carefully about these sporting questions than about the larger Issues of politics (Copyright) ound ey in ential Neither vulnerable South deals NORTH : a gry?'' is a WEST ward- - KJ71 Continued From Page One the other guy" and he stormed out of the house In this episode mother was far from is in trouble helpful When a teen-agthere are many adu:ts willing to prosecute him It is only fair that our child not be left without a defense attorney Some parents refuse to stand by their teen-age- r in his entanglements with the world out of fear of making him soft They resist their natural inclination to help him because they believe he will be beLter prepared for life in "The School of Hard Knocks" This false belief has estranged many parents from their teen agers A parent is his child's advocate Like an attorney he operates within the law He does not condone misbehavior or sanction misconduct A lawyer does not encourage crime However regardless of the offense he defends the accused In the most difficult situations he tries to The Weather And You By Carl Rib let Jr Dr The famous physician-scientis- t William F Petersen discovered through years of research and study that when storms and cold fronts (and other weather changes) come down on a community the body tissues of its inhabitants possibly may not get as much oxygen as when the weather is on an even keel When there is a lack of oxygen in our body tissues unwholesome and disagreeable changes in our bodies may occur: our mental and physical responses and our body rhythm may be affected Dr Petersen made tests on people to learn bow stressful weather affected lie discovered that more potentially psychotic persons become psychotic more pregnant women nearing their term began to have earlier labor pains more people became sick and more sick people died '4 ' J1'2 J3 — Opens Queen West opened the queen of clubs which was taken In the closed hand with the EAST ace Trumps were drawn in three pulls and a diamond was led to the king The ace of diamonds was cashed followed by a diamond ruff — in the hope that the suit wnuld divide evenly in which case declarer's spades could be discarded on the established diamonds Q986 487651 Q393 SOUTH - I :!: AAQ2 VAKQ1093 101 A110 IF uth' v v West East North rass rass 2 Pass I V Pass NT 5 Pass N : 6 V Pam Pass Isk Opening lead: queen of 4 : I t7 i I Aa NN 'k 11 Its- - the latter c!4 cad' hack kers --: ''' for VI(A4 If his ': 11' 14 In6r bad shown ) tit ace and three A 'It' k be would 1f 12:' in 1 e been in posi Mr Goren t to count 13 t ks North announced only two kings r-- I 0 West showed out on the third round of the suit however and everything now hinged on the spade finesse A club was led to the king and the defense subsequently took another spade trick to hand South h setback Pass Pass South overlooked his most promising 'sPect in playing the six heart conct andthe result was a totally unneearY gess on the ' : ke- 'e ' North i se' (1 South's in robid in 1 :$ 1::47 '? lev tre' aoin-ID- VW" '4' ( 1 '--' '':: 401-itcgl- c) ) ' -- - " 0 ti r4 0 - - 4 '' f 0 94 r--- -- 1 it91 : '7 4:: &:::') i)4f p4b : f: s:itt-4ç'- :!- - ( ict :' : :Le l14 'itt C it' 4i'lla ' f' - : c( 1 I : 4''' l''1 t)e i VI' - ' ': I97 " ( ":i t z '" '! Cel inviLdwilt P:' Vil:-!- P' i ::71 ! 7t0440 kl-- 4 rS ' 1 tows Field Enterprise 'h ' 1r ' ii major health prob t!'!"::' lem and it is im- ''''':':05'4 1 portant to recog-dge- tt nize the warning Dr Van Dellen signs The earlier is made the better the results diagnosis A change in disposition is another inIt dication of impending psychosis begins with mild irritability that turns into episodes of unreasonable anger and hositility Another trait that should be watched is a growing suspiciousness of others especially when it involves a person the victim used to like The psychotic individual finds it increasingly difficult to explain his behavior and may use illogical or foolish excuses for all his inadequacies Others become cold and distant lose their sense of humor and acquire a deadpan expression They become more hermit-lik- e as they withdraw deeper and e 4 i il ' i :t' e‘ d ' 1 tt'-'- : ''':'': illness individual ! e":7400 T e becomes unusually f""'''''' ! shy and finds it ' ' more and more difficult to social- - i' ioatit1:0' ize with others V Mental illness is a i ' 2:4f 2 ' deeper into their shell Mental illness must also be considered when a person develops bizarre symptoms or ailments There is no doubt that something is radically wrong when they begin to perform useless and purposeless activities or are too busy to eat too tired to think or too keyed up to slcv Some shut up like a clam ethers can't stop talking An impending mental disturbance usually develops gradually unless a stroke or other lesion of the brain has occurred Thinking is interfered with and the individual seems unable to complete a thought process as though something were blocking the ability to concentrate mental h - ) 0 ir - orel-- :' Disinterest in appearance friends work personal hygiene diet and children provides the earliest clubs to sex ft :: st) 11 ' !ZNb r 1 e t: c IP 1 - o0"C-- ‘ - t 69 t "NASA would do well sending Roscoe to the barren wastes of the Moon The minute his foot touched the lunar surface crabgrass would spring up!" see the extenuating circuinstances and to provide aid and hope When Daniel told his mother that he had been insulted and pushed around by driver it was not her duty the school-bu- s to look for the driver's motives or to supply excuses for him Her task was to show her son that sh e understood his anger hurt and humiliation "It must have been terribly embarrassing for you" "It must have made you furious" W R writes: Does willpower play a in recovery from a stroke? Or are some strokes so severe the patient's mentality is gone? REPLY—Yes to both questions Rehabilitating the stroke victim is difficult and requires cooperation and patience If the brain is irreparably damaged the patient cannot do his part part A reader writes: Are children who get tonsilitis frequently more susceptible than others to rheumatic fever? REPLY: Not in the strict sense Rheumatic fever may be preceded by tonsilitis but these destined to develop rheumatic fever have an inherent susceptibility to certain streptococci When members of this select group develop tonsilitis or sore throat caused by strep organisms rheumatic fever may be the outcome These children usually benefit from a tonsilectomy Strong feelings tend to diminish In intensity and to lose their sharp edges when a sympathetic listener accepts them with understanding After emotion- al first aid has been administered it is often best to postpone further action The temptation to teach someone an instant lesson should be resisted Immediate intervention may only escalate the conflict It is easier to resolve incidents and restore peace when emotions have subsided and moods changed In emotional situations a parent's response to his teen-agshould be different from that of anyone else A stranger speaks to the mind a parent speaks to the heart David age 17 was interviewed for a summer job but was rejected He returned home disappointed and depressed Father felt sympathy for his son and conveyed it effectively FATHER: You really wanted this job didn't you? DAVID: I sure did FATHER: And you were so well equipped for it too DAVID: Yeah! A lot of good that did Cheap Trick Declarer had neglected to avail himself of an additional opportunity to succeed South is in fact in position to assure his contract provided the diamonds are divided no worse than four-tw- o When South leads a diamond instead of going up with the king it is suggested that he put in the seven from dummy — conceding a cheap trick to East If a spade comes back declarer puts up the ace and leads another diamond to the king When all hands follow a small diamond is ruffed to establish the rest of the suit One spade is discarded on the ace of diamonds and the other on North's long card which is now the 13th in the suit Declarer loses only one trick — a diamond finished in school He said he hated his teacher because she kept piling on work "I resisted the impulse to preach: 'Well it's not your teacher's fault You have only yourself to blame If you had finished the work in class you wouldn't have to do it at home' Instead I said 'You do have a lot of work: Spelling arithmetic and social studies all in one day' To my surprise Oliver answered 'I'd better start right away I have lots of work to do'" It should be emphasized that the suggested methods are not merely techniques but interpersonal skills helpful only when used with empathy and genuineness They are effective when applied selectively and appropriately Teen-ager- s vary in their response to our communications In words and acts they tell us what they like or dislike A wise application of parental skills will not ignore individual differences in temperament and personality 7 By "Pollyanna" approach "Every thing happens for the best If you miss one bus there 'Win soon be another perhaps a less crowded one If you didn't get one job you'll get another — perhaps even a better one" Parents can learn to avoid such hazards to effective communication They can learn to listen attentively and re spond succinctly and sympathetically Strong Feelings Ebb Approve Disapprove Adults usually react to their teenagers' statements in one of two ways: they either approve or disapprove Yet the most helpful response to children is often nonjudgmental A nonevaluative response contains neither praise nor criticism Instead it identifies feelings and acknowledges recognizes wishes opinions The following statement by a mother illustrates a helpful response to an emo- tional situation: "Oliver age 13 came home from school in an ornery mood He had a lot of homework plus an assignment he hadn't Saturday: Helpful A firs'r Astrology has a lot going for It Even people who don't believe in it believe in It There are no the Came of Life counts n The obscene mail issue is raised in the senator Congress Unfortunately from Utah is no longer there the one who provided the alliterative rallying cry: Smoot Smites Smut The growing fad of mountaineering has its hazards such as finally fighting your way up the escarpment to find a lit tie old lady and her grandchildren hay ing a picnic at the summit Unhelpful Criticism (Reprinted by permission of The Macmillan Company Copyright 1969 Dr Haim G Gino Distributed by Newsday Specials) r exhibitions in everything where A Brazilian fakir sets a world's record lying on a bed of nails for 111 days without eating They say records are made to be broken but this one is safe as far as we are concerned Criticism vs I 1 Senator Soap er Famous Brand 21-Pie- ce Cl l(Mli SIZE me FATHER: What a disappointment DAVID: It sure is Dad FATHER: Looking forward to a job and having it slip away just when you need it is tough !44Nt Akoos DAVID: Yeah I know There was silence for a nioment Then David said "It's not the end of the world I'll find another job" toreah 7 Wrong Way to Go them and South chose to settle for a small slam A1063 V7 --- — e Child in Trouble Needs Parental Understanding however A985 V865 AK752 AK2 Irt:-Y- The Teen Between By C H Goren we is Nook tl--- 'Goren on Today's Bridge Hand he Early Warning Signals Provide Clues to OnseL of Mental Illness - - 17:-- ' A 21 12 1959 Dr T R Van Delien : : ::': Friday Septetnther - 4- -- same lived — : Even Nixon Watches iey ci tr?i public is watching and likening Even President Nbcor takes time out from his responsibilities to rcognize the popular attraction of sports Not since Calvin Coolidge have we had a more locker-rooawkward uncoordinated character in the White House than Richard Nixon but he buddies up to Ted Williams of the Washington Senators and never misses an opportunity to demonstrate that he is a "real American" fol lowing all the batting and passing averages in the land ack-stag- areptfective or not Maybe this is why Seaver and Koss-Ia- n of ' the baseball Mets and Joe 'amath of the New York football Jets in re the most popular personalities ew York today They are the underdogs om the "sticks" making good against e odds and doing it on television where II the other underdogs can see them Mayor Lindsay running for rerection is a minor character in this rger sports spectacular of New York no central forum like Shea l':ih He roams the streets making sensIe arguments about the future of New ork City but his audiences are small s arguments vague and philosophical et) " " dilto The Salt Lake Tribune By Lichty ways: 600ARIOSINallkAtelosiat By reasoning "What did you expect? To get the first job you wanted? 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Blanket Acrilan Blanket $180 in d 4 414 I Aa simmoNsj self-pit- y $2119 BUDGET TERMS Harsh Criticisms I s :DP: t t lg 441 S 6 By Monday '4iS The preceding situation could have been mishandled in several distinct are hired" 2 By cliches "Rome was not built in one day you know You are still very young and your whole life is in front of you So chin up Smile and the world will smile with you Cry and you will cry alone I hope it will teach you not to chickens before they are count your hatched" S By "take me for instance" "When I was your age I went looking for my first job I shined my shoes got a haircut put on clean clothes and carried the Wall Street Journal with me I knew how to make a good impression" 4 By minimizing the situation "I don't see why you should feel so depressed There is really no good reason for you to be so discouraged Big deal! One job did not work out It's not worth even talking about" Shop Till 9 pm I a RAW 1ck ortAaARetut 01 AC wt4emA 4A40 A1"1A 4u N A I |