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Show til EDITOR. RANA LEHR f -- I 7"" ' J44-2S- w dtfiM O' Paul & Terie WlEDERHOLD Violence should not be tolerated By PAUL and TERIE WlEDERHOLD Dear Dr. Mom and Dr. Dad: I have been living with a violent spouse for almost 20 years. He is not physically abusive to me and the children but to THINGS he is awful! He puts holes in the walls, breaks doors, ruins telephones, etc., whenever his anger gets out of control. Also, he refuses to fix them unless it is on his terms. Some I have repaired as I can, others remain unrepaired. Thankfully I have learned not to take any blame upon myself. I am only beginning to realize the effects it has had on the family as a whole. Our children are 17, 12, 11 and 8. We have a son who is beginning to mimic his father's behavior. My husband is opposed to counseling and every effort I have made in that direction has been met with opposition from him. are trying, in our family, (the children and I) to really realize, apply and live that what we have learned we can only control ourselves, not others. We plan to stay together We See JUST ASK, Flip side Daily Herald file pbote Haunting: Cameron Schmidt and his friend Arielle Harrison, left, were making the rounds in the neighborhood Halloween night last year in Orem. Beware By AMY K. STEWART The Daily Herald UTAH COUNTY It's a spooky time of the year with ghosts and goblins giving you a fright. But what's really scary is the idea of all those little running around Halloween night with motorists who don't think to trick-or-treater- 's slow down. Mapleton Police Officer Roger Goodwin said the best Halloween safety advice is for motorists to go slow and for to look the before running and use caution. "People need to realize there will be kids out there so slow down," Goodwin said. Also it's not a good idea for kids to ride their bikes for since it is a trick safety hazard, he said. "Also costumes can get caught in bikes," Goodwin said. Another thing to be aware trick-or-treate- rs otf ireaD Kyitoeeini's Keep trick- or- treating safe of is that many masks that Either children wear as part of length to their costumes can hinder or get their vision. A child who machine can't see a car coming down them. safety pin the pant an appropriate level out the sewing and quickly hem kids Safety tips Wear light, bright cosan emer- tumes, use reflector tape anH gency medicine specialist at carry flashlights. Avoid Children's Medical Center of after dark. Keep in mind dayDallas said, "Little werelight savings is before mummies and wolves, goblins, Halloween so it will be getting need safe to be too, superheros so if your children are wearing dark earlier. Stick to neighborhoods masks, make sure the can see know well and that have you out of them. If a mask is too good lighting. big, it can obstruct peripheral Only approach houses vision." that have the porch light on. He also said to ensure Be careful of dogs or that the costume legs aren't other animals as you too long. Even if they are approach homes. rolled up at the beginning of Stay on the sidewalks the evening, you can be sure and off of the streets. homemade they will unroll with all the Accept running from house to treats only from people you spells disaster. Dr. Tom Abramo, trick-or-treatin- house. know. Inspect all candy. Never go inside stranger's house. Use face paintmake-u- a p rather than masks or things that will cover eyes. Wear comfortable shoes. Cross street only at cor- ners. the street and the driver who doesn't see the child, scaire g Trick-or-tre- in groups, at never go alone. homes Safety tips Welcome to your home by turning on exterior lights. Remove objects from your yard that might be a hazard. If you have a dog, chain trick-or-treater- s him behind the house instead of in the front where he could become from the dozens of children who will be knocking on your door. By chaining the dog in back, this eliminates the possibility of him accidentally or playfully nipping a child. over-excite- d See SAFETY, C4 |