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Show Saturday, July We judge folks by the animal they live with By ViCKI CROKE ; Boston Giobe BOSTON Are golden retriever owners really nicer than the rest of us? Does the horse set look down on honmembers? Are canary tans just a little flighty? I We make judgments about people based on the animals they choose to jive with. And why not? 1 Animals are powerful symbols. i jThe bulldog mascot of the Marines tells us the corps is tough and Clydesdales suggest noble I and virile beer drinkers. Borzois in fashion ads suggest elegance and ' p refinement. So we practice psychology on one another all the time. We see pets as clues to a person's wealth, integrity, character and even sexual orientation. tena-ciou- s. pet-po- Is this fair? "There is no question that pets reflect something about what people like," says Andrew Rowan, director of the Tufts Center for Animals and Public Policy. "Through their pets, people are making a statement about themselves." .It's not always easy to puzzle this statement out, however. People are often drawn to certain pets for aesthose who look like thetic reasons their pets are probably pleased by what they see in the mirror and look for a reflection in a pet, shocking as it is in some cases. In other cases, a pet can meet a physical ideal owners cannot. For some, it's a matter of energy level and lifestyle. You don't have to page Dr. Freud to form an opinion about someone with a crazed attack dog, or a person with a boa constrictor around his neck. But Rowan says there is surprisingly little hard data on personality profiles to back up our hunches. Sometimes the choice of a pet has everything to do with social status. In Harriet Ritvo's insightful book "The Animal Estate," she tells us that the dog fancy purebred dogs flourished in Vicand dog shows torian England as people of moderate means emulated the aristocracy by breeding "idle" dogs. ' Purebreed dogs were great status symbols and yet not as costly as prize livestock. And certain breeds pugs, collies, bloodhounds, borcarried more zois and deerhounds In than others. fact, it was weight pet-own- er Pet owners The timing was incredible. After experiencing the agony of seeing my best friend. Sunny, a golden retriever, euthanized recently for medical reasons, a review copy of "The of a Pet" arrived the next day. tletortoise owners: reliable and upwardly mobile. Snake owners: rulebreakers who want to be different and don't like routine jobs. Horse owners: asserhard-workin- g, tive and introspective, but low in warmth and nurturance. Male horse owners are aggressive and dominant, and female horse owners are easygoing. Bird lovers: socially outgoing and expressive. Female bird owners are high in dominance. love pctscope section, we , In the would advise male horse owners to steer clear of female birds owners. Confidential to Bubbles in Leominswe don't know much about ter,. owners! fish . In another study of dog and cat owners, using the Edwards Personal Preference Test, the Kidds found that male cat owners scored higher than the rest of the group in autonomy (surprise, surprise), and male dog owners scored highest in the group on aggression and dominance. Cat people scored lower in nurturance. "As a psychologist," Aline Kidd says, "I've spent my life telling peo- ple stereotypes are garbage, but these aren't stereotypes they're rea- lity." Kidd says she had the best time snake owners, with who often traded in illegal snakes. To get them to fill out confidential felt personality forms, Kidd says she call a saying, like a spy. "I'd get Lcave the packet for Joe at Baskin rule-breaki- Robbins."' Overall, Kidd says, what we look for in pets is what we look for in friends and chosen loved ones and complementarity. . mm W Recognizing symptoms of my own in the days that followed Sunny's final trip to the veterinarian. Sife took me to an all new level in a chapter entitled Resolu- mon sense in this handy guide- book. tion. ' 'The Proper Care of Reptiles" "Resolution," he says, "is the knitting up of open wounds, but there will always be a secret scar. It is the taking of a brave step forward, putting things into new harmony. This is finally the time for letting go." by John Coborn T.F.H. Publications. $14.95. Here's a subject that's not crowding every bookstore, shelf. In colorful T.F.H. fashion it addresses care and husbandry and a selection of species if you're conand is a must-rea- d sidering adding a reptile to your menagerie. pet-secti- "Adopting Cats and Kittens: A Care and Training Guide," by Connie Jankowski. Howell Book House. $8. Most of us inherit cats who Housing, captive breeding, health and hygiene are covered generally, followed by profiles of turtles, snakes and lizards. "Help! The Quick Guide to venture to our doorstep. Felis familiaris has become America's most popular pet in recent years, First Aid for Your Dog" by Dr. Michelle Bamberger. Howell Book House. $9. How many times have you panicked when your dog was injured or became violently ill? The author walks you through an assortment of emergencies, detailing how to recognize problems and treat them without jeopardizing your dog's health. She opens with a comprehensive listing of first-ai- d supplies every pet owner should have at home, then follows with care tips for CPR, drowning, choking, shock and severe bleeding. A second chapter focuses on e the exam, i.e. pinthe trouble spot and folpointing lows with a listing of typical emergencies and how to handle each. To derive the most value from this manual, read it before you're confronted with a crisis, not in the midst of one. It may enable you to ...:, Wedding announcements received at the newspaper later than two weeks prior to the publication date will be accepted only on the following terms: Late announcements accompanied by a photograph will be accepted and held for publication after the event. Late announcements not accompanied by a photo will be accepted for possible publication before the event on a basis. Information must be typed or printed on a form available at the Herald. The traditional $8 fee for processing a photograph remains in place. I.IIM.I.HI., JIIII.I.IIJJ.J.I J ..., JaNae Swain, daughter of Keith and Karma Swain of American Fork, married Darin G. Hakes, son of Glade and Janet Hakes, Scottsdale, Ariz., Friday, July 2, in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. A reception honored the couple that evening at the Swain residence, 323 N. 825 East, American Fork. The bride is a graduate of American Fork High and LDS Seminary. She attended Utah Valley Community College and is a senior at Brigham Young University, majoring in human development. The bridegroom graduated from Saguaro High, Scottsdale, and attended SUU. He served an LDS mission in Jamaica. He is now attending BYU, majoring in design. : le - - JaNae Swain Darin G. Hakes save a dog's life. T.F.H. A Save Our Planet Series: "Canaries... as a Hobby "by Anmarie Barrie; "Mice ... as a Hobby" by Jack Young; "Hamsters ... as a Hobby" by Grey Ovechka. Each is $7.95. These colorful guidebooks are designed for the beginner. Each discusses accommodations, stock selection feeding, breeding, genetics, exhibition and health care. "Keeping Reptiles & Amphib- ians" by Johann Krottlinger. T.F.H. Publications. $29.95. Another handsome primer for beginners. Longtime owners will find it a valuable addition tQ their ' library, too. Basic care, selecting a terrar-iuanimal, salamanders and newts, frogs and toads and lizards, crocodilians, turtles and snakes are characterized in text and superb color photos. head-to-to- Swain, Hakes vows exchanged Friday Wedding guide space-availab- yet is faced with an overwhelming population surplus. Hence, the focus is saving a cat's life by obtaining it from an animal shelter, private rescue group or adopting a stray. While you won't find anything new here, Jankowski talks com- guiit. "Judgementalism has no place, but is foisted on us by those who are generally insensitive or threatened by the mourning for a m Curtis, Davis Ruth Mary Curtis, daughter of Hughes and Cecile Curtis of Spring-vill- e, will marry Floyd W. Davis, son of James and Martha Davis of Temple, Texas, today, July 3. V ', !"i ( Nelfie Judd and Lynn J. Asay Dear Ann Landers: They Her fiance is employed at Farn-- s worth Trucking. Bridal attendants are Amy Duke and Jennifer Davis. confided. I am married to a man I respect but do not love. My lover felt the same way about his wife. We decided to stay with our mates because of our families. My grief is deep, and my loss is beyond words. My life was a secret, and now my pain must be secret also. Guilt and pain are a terrible exchange for a few stolen moments. Whatever relationship you have with your wife or husband, work at it, stick with it and get help if you need it, but don't get involved with a married person. Fortunately for me, our secret died with him. Now I need to forgive myself. Tell your readers to remain faithful. I wish I had. N.Y. Dear N.Y.: I can add nothing to what you have written except my condolences and my thanks for writing. Dear Ann Landers: Americans have placed too much importance on material wealth and "getting somewhere," and it is taking its toll on relationships. Something c s2b.-- inn Lsndsis - ' j ' . , : Advice Columnist has to give. I wrote a little fairy tale about this subject, based on my own life. Maybe your readers will enjoy it. The Man Who Couldn't Stop Working Once upon a time, there was a bright young man who decided to become rich and successful. So he studied very hard in college, got an M.B.A., and went to work in a prestigious firm. Since most successful business- men in the land had beautiful wives, he went out and got himself one. He bought his "Christina" a lovely home in the suburbs. In return for beautiful clothes and elegant jewels, she was a dutiful wife who devoted herself to their children. She never saw much of her rich, successful husband who try Cathy Guisewite cathy 7U,0H. ITS 0NW THE 6UN0 MTE 8 30. I Jf If IT 130. SNT CH TO CALL ... If SHE'D IT MU SHE WWE LATER. SNEAKE0 TO THE .. IT WEANS I -- LAKES' LET E HAVE CALLING FMflTNt lAOiES' Room Of THE KESTtUMNT LITTLE BEWWD ITS SO HIOE0US WERE OOtNfr WELL, SHE'D WAIT UNTIL MtflMO CflTHV ? SHE'S TO IT. ROOT, SEAR HELLO, MflTHEff7? S 00 I "we C FLUSHING IN f mX l MCK6WUN0, not TIMS 3UST SPRIUIWr IN SOmt MAM! Ruth Mary Curtis Floyd W. Davis Varneys celebrate 50th anniversary Aa-ron- ic )J , Best man is Mike Davis. . worked long hours and stayed out late at night, sharing wine and expensive meals with potential clients in order to cultivate good connections. There were rumors that he was seen dining with attractive women in the business world. Meanwhile, Christina was growing more lonely and disconnected. One day , after looking at the emptiness of her life, she decided to go back to college and have a career. After watching her husband, she knew she didn't want to be rich and successful. She was hungry for something much deeper and more meaningful. Something in Christina awakened as she gained new knowledge. And lo and behold, one day in class, her eyes locked with those of a handsome man who was also looking for something that would give more meaning to his life. He was tired of the demands of the business world, and like our heroine, he wanted something deeper. After a year of contemplation, Christina divorced her husband (who to this day remains baffled but busy) and married the nice man in her class. He became a good stepfather to her children, who were delighted to have a man to spend time with, and he always came home from work in time for a r - The bride-to-b- e is currently employed at UTA in Orem, and by Hart's Fuel. Sherman James and Mary Christiansen Varney celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary 25 at a family dinner at their June anniversary. He retired from UTC home in Salt Lake City. daughter's in 1985 as head of Driver Ed. Nellie was born and raised in Kanab. They are both active in the LDS Church. She worked in the f Primary, Relief Society and , Lynn worked with Priesthood, Elders and High Priests and served in the 12th Ward Bishopric. At present both are ordinance workers at the Provo LDS Temple. They served an LDS Mission in Albuquerque, N.M. Their children are Lynell Shock, Lehi; Phyllis Andersen, J jr-Hurricane; Thea Daniel, Orem; Thea Racker, St. George; Allen Asay, Logandale, Nev. and Debbie Workman, Provo. They have 24 grandchildren and six greatSherman James and grandchildren. Mary Christiansen Varney bur- ' 7-- GuisVpain t errible exchange for infidelity ied my lover today. We were "together" for 25 years. I had no part in the funeral and no grieving with anyone except a friend in whom I I An open house will honor the couple this evening, 9 p.m. at 159 W. 400 South, Springville. Asays celebrate golden wedding in St. George Lynn J. and Nellie Judd Asay celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary by attending an LDS temple session June 1, at the St. George Temple with family and friends. They were honored that evening at an open house at their daughter's home in St. George. They were married June 1 , 1943 in the St. George LDS Temple. Lynn was born in Clawson and raised in St. George. The couple met when attending Dixie College. He served in the Air Force in WWII. In 1946 they moved to Provo. Lynn worked for Provo Lincoln Mercury and operated two Phillips 68 Service Stations before becoming an instructor at Utah Technical College. He graduated from BYU on their 25th wedding Page B9 M Hh es volumes IisSpfyl anger, alienation, denial and Written by Wallace Sife (Howell Book House, $20), it proved therapeutic and comforting in the empty days that followed. In the introduction, the author, a Brooklyn bereavement counselor, establishes the personality: "The emotional reaction to the death of a pet is determined by our degree of involvement with that animal. This book is concerned with people in great emotional distress. Irish wolfdog (Irish wolfhound) could identify descendants of the ancient kings of Ireland." Ritvo quotes die "Dog Owners' Annual" of 18 as saying, "nobody now who is anybody can afford to be followed about by a mongrel dog." Many of us, whose dogs' pedigrees are better recorded and loftier than our own, understand this impulse is sonality mapping like astrology and numerology. You would be able to find your profile based on pet preference in those little scrolls in the What supermarket checkout line your pet reveals about . . . YOU. Based on the Kidds' study of 200 pet owners, this is how your very personal petology would read: Tur- W7i M n h ii Jsa fB Sife cites the nuances of many cases, ranging from acute grief to Seattle Times believed that some noble breeds Bird Owners." This study could lead to a whole new :narket of per- pi till pet." By RANNY GRLEN could recognize royalty in human companions. Ritvo says one author "claimed that what he called the still at work today. There is also a delightful study done in 1980 by Aline and Robert Kidd called "Personality Characteristics of Horse, Turtle, Snake and n - THE HERALD, Provo, Utah, 3, 1993 family dinner. They weren't rich, but they lived happily ever after. A Faithful Reader in The End. Michigan Dear Michigan: That's no fairy tale, honey, it's art imitating life. Gem of the Day: Remember when you find yourself arguing with a fool that he is doing the same thing. 1985. He's been active in the LDS Church, and worked in the Boy Scouts of America over 55 years. He received the Order of the Arrow, Second Miler, Scouter Award of Merit, the Silver Beaver and was an advisor to the Western U.S. Order of the Arrow. He was the bishop of the 19th Ward and is now a branch president of MTC. Mary was born and educated in Pleasant Grove. She attended Brigham Young University and graduated from LDS Business College. She worked for Alpine School District at Grovecrest Elementary for 23 years and the central office for six years. She has been active in various church organizations. 7 heir children are James Martin Varney, Kaysville; Richard Sherman Varney, Denver, Colo.; Mrs. Ezio (Rebecca) Valentini, Salt Lake City; Mary Margaret ch, Orem; Gordon Andrew Varney, Lindon. A son, Christopher Glen Varney is deceased. They have 20 grandchildren and five Hi $ By JEANE DIXON For July 4 ARIES (March 19): Baseball may be No. 1 on your priority list this weekend. If puzzled by the sudden breakdown of a relationship, take a closer look. There is more to life than making money. TAURUS (April 20): Find a way to put across good ideas with your family. Better communication is the key to a happy day. Renew old ties. If you owe too much money, clamp down on spending. GEMINI (May 20): A happy face or upbeat phone message will put you in a positive frame of mind. You have worked hard for your success, so enjoy it. Celebrate in a unique way later today. CANCER (June 22): Discovering new facts about a relationship makes you spring into action. Vary your work routine, but do not neglect paperwork. Travel only if you must. LEO (July 22': A golden opportunity could appear from out of the blue. Be ready to take command in an emergency. Money may be Interfering with a relationship. Do something coastructive to help a friend. VIRGO (Aug. 2Wk'pt. 22): A sudden financial gives you an opportunity to launch a new project. Success comes when you team up with the turn-arou- r They were married May 20, 1943 in Pleasant Grove. Their marriage was later solemnized in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. Sherman was born and educated in American Fork. He served in the U.S. Navy in World War II. He worked at Geneva Steel for 39 years, where he supervised construction of rebuilding fire brick furnaces. He also did consulting for U.S. Steel. He retired in June, right people. Adopt a different strategy. LIBRA (Sept. 22): Do not waver once you have made an important decision. Loyal friends will be there if you need them. Tell someone who does not measure up to take a hike! SCORPIO (Oct 21): Get in touch with your deepest feelings. You deserve a partner who shares your emotional courage. Give up on a member of the opposite sex who is incapable of making a commitment. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 21): Stop scattering your energies. Slow down and do more things for yourself. Children and parents find common ground for a serious discussion. A talented young person could change your life. CAPRICORN (Dec. 19): Participating in athletics lifts your spirits today. Time spent nurturing romance will pay big dividends. Family support aids you in your pursuit of an important v. c. n. goal. AQUARIUS 18): Take (Jan. your friends' financial tips with a grain of salt. Evening hours feature fun and games. Be on your best behavior; an indiscretion could lead to embarrassment. PISCES (Feb. 20): A small thing could inspire you to work at getting a relationship back on track. You dislike exercise but recognize its importance. An acquaintanceship gradually arms up. - Eat BsUer, Look Belter, Feel Belter m '( ri 1, |
