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Show J L RELIGIO! EDITOR: R1C D. SNIDER Dl SATURDAY. THE DAILY HERALD (www.HarkThcHerald.com) 0 MATTER UNORGANIZED f ' ..' APRIL 7. 21X11 V ' !i. - V1 ' Marden J. Clark 1 Picnic lunches a family favorite for conference For 40 years now Bess and I have tried to get to Salt Lake City for the conferences of the LDS Church. While we still had children at home, we would load them into the back of whatever car or pickup we had and head for conference. Bess and the children would prepare a picnic lunch for between the sessions, the source of far more vivid memories than conference itself. If the weather was good, we would drive up Mill Creek Canyon or to a local park for our picnic. But when we get to reminiscing with Sherri or Harlow or Krista, it is generally the picnics they remember. When they were grown, we gathered grandchildren in our camper. On a very cold and stormy day when we drove up to the state Capitol, we found the underground garage. It was sheltered, even if chilly. And it somehow made a lasting and favorable impression on the grandkids. They wanted to go back there the next year for our picnic. Last Sunday we carried on the tradition. But with a difference. We drove to Pleasant Grove, where Donna and Harlow, with our picnic (most of it provided by Donna), drove us to Salt Lake in their van with their family. Bess has special reasons for watching from the tabernacle. Her grandfather was a skilled artisan who did much of the work that transformed those wooden columns into marble and grained the pine benches into oak. We were tickled to see people feeling a column to see if it was genuine marble. In 1894 he climbed scaffolding 220 feet above the ground to give Angel Moroni his first gold leafing for Utah's celebration of statehood - We also remember the pictured details of the roof structure of the old tabernaclei the deep wooden trusses that supported what we remember as the largest unsupported roof structure in the . world at the time (the columns supported only the balcony). That unsupported structure is of course dwarfed now by the one at the Conference Center. And that structure supports not only the roof itself but the garden and other structures on the roof. After conference, we all climbed the steps to that garden. This was beautiful as well as amazing. We couldn't get over the sense that we were essentially on the ground level. The carefully channeled streams of water, the trees and shrubbery, even the rather barren plot that we were told was an attempt to catch the feel of the desert area the early none of it saints had found really felt like a rooftop garden. Our amazement grew when we came down and went inside to see the vast auditorium under the , roof. Though all this suggests little of spiritual experience, we were mature enough to transform the changing locale into a semblance . of the much earlier experiences of the whole conference taking place in the Tabernacle. The huge new organ and the Tabernacle Choir " carried the spiritual part triumphantly. But we abandoned even this when Sherri came and took Bess and me to her home, where I could watch from a reclining easy chair. That climb to the roof garden had cost old Dad more than he cared to admit. But I can't help hoping my heart will keep beating through many more conferences, even if we participate only in snatches and have to do so from a reclining chair via television. Marden Clark is a professor emeritus of English at Brigham Young University. 'hrn.ii m.-i ROBERT JOHNSONThe Daily Herald Hot topic: Randall C. Bird speaks on family issues during BWsTamHy Expo. ipeaEters: Spend more lime with children By KAREN HOAG The Daily Herald PROVO f Never give up, never give up. That's what Ed J. Pinegar said about a parent of a wayward child. He was speaking at the Family Expo "A Proclamation to the World" on BYU campus earlier this week. "A wayward child does not mean you are a failing parent. A failing parent is one who gives up," Pinegar said in his talk, "Becoming a Righteous Husband and Father." "Never give up, never give in, never give out. Time is on your side," he said. "Happy is the man who knows his children walk in truth." He added a father has no competition with other fathers just with himself to be "the best father of your children." A retired dentist and religion teacher, Pinegar agrees with Randall C. Bird of the Church Education System that quantity as well as quality time together is important for parents with kids. "Don't ever fall into the trap of quality time that's bogus," Pinegar said. Bird, who spoke on "The Family: A Place of Refuge from the Storm," added, "We need more time with families. We need more quality time, but just plain more time." Bird cited the consolidated schedule'of the church the First Presidency implemented in 1980, which was to "provide more time with family." He also cited the 1999 caution, again from the First Presidency, to "cut back on meetings held on Sunday" to counsel with families, including family FamilvJ Home Evening. nraver o 4 - -, and family instruction gospel activities. When a child says, "Let's play airplane, Daddy," take time to play with him instead of hiding behind the newspaper, said Pinegar. "When I came in the door after work, I'd say, 'Daddy's home,' and the kids would come running," said Pinegar. "My wife taught them to do this. I would hug them and play games with them. "A child is a most precious " . two-da- y 1 1 gift" Pinegar suggested five important meetings to have regularly: See FAMILY, D2 ( -- :i " f ' N .XI f u KOBKKT JOHNSON The Daily Herald Pinegar gives an address on "Becoming a Righteous Husband and Father" at Home improvement: Ed J. Family Expo in BYU's conference center. the Okazaki: Hugs cure discipline problems By KAREN HOAG "Everybody needs a hug. It jump-star- The Daily Herald PROVO Hugs in the mornevening cure ing and hug's a lot of discipline problems, said Chieko Okazaki at the Family Expo this week on BYU campus. in-th- a ts brand new day." Chicko Okazaki e Okazaki, a popular speaker, author and educator, also served for seven years in the Relief Society General Presidency. "Everybody needs a hug," she s a brand new said. "It day. Preventative hugs solve problems before they get started." When a problem does come up, you can ask, "Do you want a scolding or a hug?" she said. "They will always choose the hug. Troubles melt, hurts disappear." Another alternative for discipline is reading to children, she said. "Take 20 happy minutes a day and read with your child," Okazaki counseled. "The brain builds itself according to the stimulation it receives. Reading, singing, playing rhyming games physically jump-start- alters how a brain grows. V She said to expect "sweet par- entchild reactions" when they read together. "Kids like to hear stories over and over again; they have your undivided attention as they sit on your lap during reading time," she said. "It cements relationships as you read, go to the library together. ... Don't stop when the kids become 6, 8 and 12. Reading together can bring successful parenting." Many times motherswives crave conversation of people their husover the age of four bands'. One woman was creative in her approach after a direct, request went unheeded. When her husband came low-ke- y home, she told him, "Close the . W; J e,.t uum. nipc JUUI iCCt. she At the dinner table poured him a half glass of milk and cut up his meat. Then she praised him when he got a whole spoonful of food to his mouth without spilling. Come bedtime he put his arms around her and she asked, "Did you go potty yet?" Finally he said to her, "I think we need some time together. How about a date Friday?" Okazaki thought the wife's approach was funny, creative and persistent. Above all, it . worked. "Stop caring how your mother did it or how the home teachers or visiting teachers will raise their eyebrows," she said. RELIGION BRIEFING Holy Week SPRINGVILLE Holy Week services at Community Presbyterian Church begin at 6 p.m. Thursday with an agape meal and The Lord's Supper in the Fellowship Hall, 245 S. 200 East, Springyille. and Readings of John brief commentary are part of the potluck meal. The Tenebrae service is Friday at 7 p.m. at the church. Worship services on Easter Sunday are at 7 a.m. and 10:30 a.m. Potluck breakfast follows the early service; the later service features a choral production, "What Wondrous Love." for more inforCall mation. . 14-1- 7 489-439- 0 Jesus' passion PROVO Sunday's service begins with a procession of palms at 10:45 a.m. at Tree of Life Lutheran Church, 330 W. 500 North, Provo. Pastor Paul 01 sen delivers the story of Jesus' passion, suffering and death. Sunday school is at 9:45 a.m. for more Call information. 802-TRE- E Symbols of spring PROVO Symbols of spring will be celebrated at 4 p.m. Sunday at the Utah Valley Unitarian Universalist service, 175 N. University Ave., Provo. Children from the congregation are participating in the service; special music is provided by Zephyrus. After the service, the children are invited to an Easter egg hunt. The UVUU meets every second and fourth Sunday at Provo Community Church. 2 for more infor Call mation. 491-824- Easter services PROVO Canon Ivan Cen- - dese is the supply priest at 10:30 a.m. Palm Sunday at St. Mary's Episcopal Church, 50 W. 200 North, Provo. Father Dick Weissert will officiate Thursday at 7:30 p.m. after a potluck supper at Provo Community Church. Pastor Paul Olsen of Tree of Life Lutheran Church will assist Father Weissert at noon Good Friday for a special service. Father Weissert and the Rev. Christine Constestable will present the lighting of the Paschal candle at 8:30 a.m. Eucharist on Easter Sunday at St. Mary's: The Rev. Constestable will present the Easter sermon at 10:30 a.m. Other meetings include adult discussion group at 9:30 a.m. plus nursery and Sunday school at 10:15 a.m. Following the meetings on April 15 are an Easter egg hunt and special refreshments. Call 373-309- 0 for more infor- mation. Palm Sunday OREM The Rev. Alan Akana, of Park City, will speak at 10:30 a.m. Palm Sunday at Orem Community Church, 130 N. 400 East, Orem. Sunday school is at 9:15 a.m. for more inforCall mation. 225-006- 7 Good Friday Pastor Rhett Dur-fe- e speaks on Romans, chapter 3 at 7 p.m. on Good Friday at First Baptist Church, 1144 W. Columbia Ln., Provo. Sunday services and children's Sunday school are at 10:30 a.m. Sunday with Hispanic services at 3:45 p.m. Adult and youth Bible study are at 7 p.m. Wednesday 9 for more Call PROVO 374-848- |