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Show 1 Dangerous Years J LIFE AFTER DEATH? I Did Jesus Christ really die on the cross, and then rise again? Or is it all just a myth? You may believe it, ignore it, or deny it. But if it (.true, can you afford to guess wrong? It nmld make a lot of difference .. . After all, you work hard to provide for your family after you're gone. Should you do less to provide for your ewm life after death, if there is one? Christians believe there is. They believe Christ's resurrection promises resurrection for every man and woman. That is Christianity's basic, unique claim. In it, Christians find security and strength' for a joyful lift on earth. Isn't such a claim, which has moved men for so many centuries, worth investigating? Why not find emt yatrulj? You can, by sending for the FICTION. In everyOR free booklet, LIFE AFTEK the about truth tells it Jesus' death and resurday language, it today. 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Me Radio and Finder: n Iwk C.O.D. Eariaatd ng . iMrt arnamt. rm tlMalif Flsrtar Nil wltk k CMltUMS five-year-o- ld . llMM Mt i.e. fJEf nmnam urdays Jwent to thejrace" track, where I made big bets and took big losses. It was stepson who woke me up. my When my wife and I would fight,' he'd cry and ask if I was going away, too. He made me see how destructive a marriage breakup is and the harm it can do to children. "I've really tried. I've quit gambling. I stay home. And I praise my wife instead of lecturing her all the time. But still she insisted I move out. I can see how she might be afraid to trust my good intentions. What kills me is that when I plead with her to help save our marriage, she says I'm begging .and acting like a sissy." I have persuaded this wife that a man who fights for a marriage is not weak but strong. I've warned her, too, that should this marriage fail she inevitably will go to another man. And another and another! I've cautioned her that because she is emotionally immature she's likely to become involved with an older man : an affluent, protective father figure. n Thar was soma fear in her I told her that many older menshould they be free and willing to marry rarely continue generous and indulgent Often they are obligated to the wife and children of a previous marriage. Separated from their children, they incline to resent stepchildren. And their stepchildren, in turn, tend to resent them for Slaving usurped their father's rightful place. I now have hope for this husband and ' wife. They've spent the last several weekends together successfully, I understand. Divorce statistics prove that the first five years of marriage are the hardest. But there is a second dangerous period when a marriage is 15 years old. As we approach our forties, actually this prime of life, we are troubled very often by a feeling that life is rushing by. Very foolishly and at times tragically we are' attracted to those much younger than we are, as if we hoped that their youth would rub off on us. Women may reach for rejuvenation by dieting, changing their hair color, buying a bit Buf they" don't always stop there. For a woman, extramarital affairs are especially dangerous; she risks social disgrace, the loss of her family, and feelings of intense guilt Hen, at this disquieting time, are likely to be attracted to girls who resemble their marriage partners when they were young. Of course, what they really want is to recapture the excitement of their youth. Affairs, more often than not begin innocently enough. A man and girl may have a cup of coffee together during an office coffee break. Next they have lunch. He then invites her to dinner. Soon they are seeing each other regularly. People mu$t realize we are not monogamous. I do not believe .there i$ tuck a thing at a platonie relationship between men and women. 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Husbands and wives tend to be less close than they were previously or, hopefully, will be again. A husband must work hard, for a house in the suburbs, two cars, a boat, club dues, and his children's education.' City living and a summer cottage cost no less. A wife) is involved in chauffeuring the children to all the places children have to go, taking care of her house, and maintaining family status in the community. Obviously the less absorbed that marriage partners are with each other, the less resistance they will have to the many stimulating outside attractions. I urge, couples to apportion time for themselves so they won't be separated by their different interests. I tell them: "Put ' aside a little money for a baby sitter and an occasional evening out together." For the more compatible a husband and wife are, the more intuitive they will be about each other's needs and the more likely they will be to build each other up rather than pull each othejr down emotionally. The third and last of the dangerous years arrives when a marriage is about ' 30 years old. This is the time when children go off to college and marry. A husband and wife who have always 'maintained a life of their own, irrespective of their devotion to their children, have good insulation against the sense of loneliness prevalent at this time. A woman who has no common interests with her husband and no individual interests inevitably tries to hang onto her' children and even to dominate them. Mtn also mak mistakes. They may about his need to harangue a work harder or hold up the early endeavors of their wives almost superhuman in Couples memory to daughters-in-lawho cling to their children would better serve their children by concentrating 6n-their own lives. The dejected attitude which develops in those who hang onto their sons and daughters discourages the development of new interests It also engenders a defeatism that is especially harmful at this age. As it is, men and women in their fifties and sixties, reared on misconceptions about the menopause, are frequently harried by unwarranted fears. They must try to develop a constructive outlook that will enable them to live their golden years with confidence and cheer. Asked when marriage counseling is advisable, I answer with great certainty, "Whenever marriage partners pull in directions." A good marriage is one that finds a husband and wife primarily concerned with each other's mental, spiritual, and physical. son-in-la- w " - op-po- sit well-bein- g: |